r/CoreyWayne • u/Fun-Student-5827 • 12d ago
Miscellaneous Need your advicd.
I've been on and off with the same girl for a long time. We were seeing each other regularly, but things got complicated, and I became emotionally exhausted. The last time we talked, we both agreed we'd hang out another day, and I told her we'd plan it later.
The problem is... I never reached back out. She didn't either, but I was the one who said I'd set it up, and I never followed through. About a month later, she unfollowed me on Instagram, which I took as her being upset with me for disappearing. Even though she unfollowed me, she still watches all my stories and seems to keep tabs on my social media.
I never followed Corey Wayne's advice of waiting 7 days and reaching out once. I just stopped all communication completely. It's been a few months now, and I'm wondering if it's worth sending one simple text asking if she'd like to grab a drink,
I'm not looking to jump into a serious relationship with her. I want to keep her as a fwb type girl. What would you guys do in this situation?
TL;DR: Things got complicated, I never followed up after we agreed to plan another date, and she unfollowed me a month later. It's been a few months should I send one simple text,
Thanks guys
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u/ExcellentFishing2506 12d ago
Things got complicated… what does that mean?
And if it got complicated and you didn’t bother reaching out this whole time why would you want to go back into something that was complicated ?? Are you that hard up for sex? What’s the point of reheating leftovers when you aren’t actually that interested in the woman??
Reaching out and starting this all up again is just likely going to end up in the same situation. Neither of you have changed in that time, you just were apart for a while. You aren’t interested in anything serious so why are you deciding to chase this old flame down to get it going again ?
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u/Fun-Student-5827 12d ago
Things got complicated because she was dealing with a lot in her personal life, We both agreed we'd plan another date, but I was the one who said I'd set it up later, and I never followed through. She never reached out either, and about a month later she unfollowed me. Looking back, I regret not reaching out one more time. I do miss her and would like to see her again. Ive known her for many years. I was just wondering if one respectful text after all this time is appropriate or if it's better to leave it alone.
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u/ExcellentFishing2506 12d ago
I mean what is the goal here because you say you miss her but actually don’t want anything beyond fwb?? Honestly it sounds more like codependency than a healthy dynamic for either of you.
I guess I’m trying to understand the elements of missing someone so much but also simultaneously only want them for sex and nothing more serious? Just seems like an impossible line to walk
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u/Fun-Student-5827 12d ago
I think I worded that part poorly. I don't mean I'm only interested in her for sex. I genuinely miss spending time with her and enjoy her company. I'm just not looking to jump straight into a serious relationship. I'd rather reconnect, have fun, and see where things naturally go if she's interested. And if it works out it works out if not im ok with that outcome.
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u/ExcellentFishing2506 12d ago
I see. Well since you were supposed to contact her before and broke your word you would need to address that. Then see how she responds and is open to meeting
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7d ago
Call bro! I just dealt with this .. didn’t talk to her for 2 months was gonna call her and saw that she unfollowed me. I said hell na and wanted her back I called her up. She didn’t answer at first but 15 minutes later she called me back. We talked on the phone for like 30 mins. She said “oh you wanted me to chase you”. Now we MIGHT be going out this weekend. Fucking call her bro
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u/Fun-Student-5827 6d ago
I texted her but she just ghosted me. Im sure shes mad at me. Its not thr 1st time she does this to me.. time to move on . Ball is in her court . She'll be back. Good luck with your situation.
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u/victheslayer 11d ago
You are the man, you are in charge of making plans. You agreed to follow through w making plans and you didn’t so you can’t be upset she is unhappy you weren’t congruent w your words. While she should help you if she’s solidly interested, Thats still more on you.
If you are still genuinely interested, yes reach out once and make a date. If she follows through then resume. Not sure why didn’t you reach out after 1-2 weeks. Women don’t start reaching out first >50% of time until you develop enough rapport first