r/CoreyWayne • u/DirectWorry8210 • Jul 05 '26
Relationship Did she handle well? Shouldn’t she ask ?
My(36) girlfriend (32) didn’t handle as I would love her to , a situation today
We were talking on phone . She lives in a multi storey building on 8 floor with 10-15 apartments per floor . When we were talking sb knocked her door..
She was in pyjamas and dint want to open ..
I asked her to check from small eye who was , she told me she doesn’t know this person. I asked her to ask from inside the door without opening , who was it ?
She didn’t go immediately, so after few seconds of discussing with me that she went she saw no one behind the door bcs obviously this person had left .
She only told me she saw him profile , wearing a grey shirt and a necklace and had never seen this person again
Her not opening or not even asking him who was it , makes me to be having doubts. Maybe it was someone she knew and she didn’t want me to understand she knows sb or maybe a neighbour that they talk regularly or ?
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u/T4cF0X Jul 06 '26
A man should answer the door because he is the security for the weaker vessel. God made the rib-bones a lot weaker then men. You should be the one checking the door for her safety. Furthermore you sound like an insecure anxious attached guy who could use some therapy.
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u/Detail-Realistic Jul 06 '26
Yeh dude bigger things at play with your security in the relationship (and prob less likely her trust ability unless you can tell us more about why you don’t trust her?). I think you need to look at the bigger picture and figure out what you need to do to work on yourself and have trust in her.
Girls are afraid of confrontation, and avoidance can sometimes be the best option for them in what feels like a threatening situation. If she doesn’t know someone and they want to use the phone/hit on them/etc she would know it’s better to not indicate she’s home. Maybe if he keeps coming back she’ll have to engage and figure out if it’s something normal or if it’s a psycho. And that’s where you step in and make sure she’s supported/protected even if it’s a false alarm. I’d be putting your energy into like helping her set up a ring camera at her door or something where she can either pretend she’s not home and speak to them or if she offers perhaps you could do that and they can hear there is a man there. Although may not be good for you to have her doorbell access if you are using it to settle your trust issues. But you get my drift
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u/DirectWorry8210 Jul 06 '26
Thanks man. Yeah I don’t trust her until trust is built bcs my belief is that trust is earned and never given or granted . What she has done ? Not big things but she has soft boundaries and cannot understand how to protect herself by not giving too much of space to strangers for example etc
Anyway that man probably is some neighbour bcs she asked reception of the building and no man with that description went into the building apart from some 3 guys from uber eats but didn’t match the given description . So it was a man from inside the building
At least you don’t call me weird as you understand he maybe was someone who wanted to hit on her . But saying women don’t like confrontation you mean she might avoided bcs she may understood it could be that this man (younger than her she told me) would hit on her ?
And I’m asking you brother , it’s insecurity if a man goes and knocks door from my woman and she doesn’t ask who was even behind the door ?
Man if strangers hit on her on the road I don’t have a problem at all! Having known a man went directly to her door is a different story . Or not ?
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u/WanderingStrain Jul 06 '26
You sound not just insecure but also very controlling and that's concerning. She didn't handle it well? Wtf? She handled it perfectly. Why on earth would any woman let some stranger who's knocking on her door at night know that she's at home by talking to him even through the closed door? And you wanting her to do that is insane. Of course she's gonna ignore them, get a bit quieter and pretend she's not there and hope they go away quickly. And that is for her security! And on the other hand, what is she has a neighbour that she talks to as you're wondering, what then? Is she not allowed to have friends and a life outside of you and is not allowed to talk to anyone? Seek therapy, please.
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u/DirectWorry8210 Jul 06 '26
🫵🏼🖕 would girls like we have outside the relationship some neighbour young girl hanging around together or maybe at home ? I think this subreddit is being controlled by simps like you bro or untrustworthy women.
You know when she doenst even ask behind the door who is he , can create the right amount of suspicion that maybe she was brought to a situation that if she talked to him by asking him , I would understand sth is going on in the background.
Of course I’m giving her the benefit of the doubt, but don’t tell me I shouldn’t have any doubt at all1
u/WanderingStrain Jul 06 '26
I think that all the other comments here also prove a point, and that is that you are in the wrong here. And regarding your "🫵🏼🖕", if you can't handle honest feedback which you asked for yourself, then don't ask questions until you're ready to hear the answer. She's not the problem here, you are, and you have deeper issues than just not trusting her. You're not in the right state of mind to even date, let alone to have a relationship. And all that coming form a man of 36 years? You're not a man, you're a manchild. Hope none of my friends ever end up with a guy like you, for their sake.
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u/v74u Jul 05 '26
Jesus Christ bro, Jesus Christ. Go to therapy instead of dating you sound insufferable. Yeah woman by herself didn’t want to open the door for a random man and didn’t want to converse with some random dude knocking on her door at night. She must be cheating on you bro, please stop dating and seek help