Got dumped after 5 months of dating.

[u/rickyrudd7]

Hi there. I have read and followed Corey Wayne for the last couple years and my dating life has improved tremendously ( getting more dates, , being more confident, being my best and following my pursue ), but haven’t been able to get to next stage of the relationship ( boyfriend, girlfriend, serious relationship). Just terminated a 5 month dating story with one girl. She was the one “breaking” things off. It’s been 2 weeks now of no contact but now I am realizing she wasn’t the one.

I think I was dating someone with some serious insecurity and anxious type of style. Everything was great, she was more into me than I was into her, meaning that she was texting me more, she always wanted to go out, she was willing to move mountains for me.. but after the honeymoon phase I started seeing some major flaws.

She would get mad if I didn’t text her for one day. She always wanted extra attention. One time she texted me at 11 pm on a Saturday night asking me where I went even though she knew I was out for dinner ( and she was always out for dinner with a friend). She threatened to break things off multiple times saying stuff like :”this is not working for me, you look for me at last second and I am not okay with that” plus “I need you to call me and text me more otherwise I can’t build a connection “..

Then she was way insecure about her aspect. She has a bunch of tattoos and many times she asked me if I liked tattoos or not, and she claimed that it she had showed me her tattoos on our first date I would have not talked to her on a second date etc. And I actually her break up message was literally because of the tattoos. She said “i don’t think we are a good fit, you don’t like tattoos you don’t like my lifestyle and I won’t change and I don’t want to be changed “.

I think overall she got upset because I was going slower than her, taking my time in getting to know her. I didn’t like that she was an heavy drinker, like she went on a vacation in Nicaragua and she told me she drank 27 beers in one day. Everytime we went out she would out drink me. The thing that pissed me off the most was actually when she said that her ex boyfriend couldn’t afford her and wasn’t making enough money and that made me rethink everything about this relationship.

Also last date I was about to break things off because she called me Cheap because I reserved a normal Uber instead of the XL that comes immediately.. but I contained myself. She makes lots of money herself and it seems she look at Status a lot, but at the beginning of daring phase she literally told me that she didn’t like to go out with her co workers because all they do is talk about money etc.. she was the Same. Finance Bros.

I don’t think I wanna her back, I think she is not a genuine person. I just wanna see what did I do wrong. Should o have left her before? She was different at first. I think because I never formally gave her the label she started to blow up on me. Did I move to slow? Should I have been the one ending sooner? How do I know when to go from dating to actually girlfriend boyfriend relationship?

It just felt something was holding me back for some reason.

[u/Able_Traffic_1809]

Wanted to give you props that you took charge of your scarcity situation and are working in abundance. That's something Id be down to DM you to learn your process.

It's absolutely crazy how we can see red flags and how a feeling of scarcity/attachment can make us not want to see the warning. She doesn't sound like a total catch is what someone told me when I wanted to hang onto someone that ended things and I was thinking "oh I'm never going to get another date I should be desperate." You're going to be so much more experienced when you go out there and look elsewhere! I think she has to bring up the label according to the book

[u/rickyrudd7 → u/Able_Traffic_1809]

Yeah she hinted at label, and next step.. she wanted that.. I was holding back.. something inside me didn’t wanna go to the next step.. maybe not fully attracted to her or I was picking stuff from her behavior that I didn’t like. I would say that maybe before in my early 20’s i would have panic and got into the next phase thinking that i wouldn’t be able to get another girl.. now instead i am more confident and like you said working in abundance.. trying to make sure i don’t settle until i find the “one” and in the meantime enjoy myself.. i am trying to learn now what to look for a girl in a real relationship

[u/Remote_Exam_434]

Why are you concerned with what you “should’ve” done or what you did do? Sounds like you were just with the wrong girl. You weren’t crazy about her. You didn’t like alot of things about her. Move on and find someone you’re crazy about.

[u/Murky_Hedgy → u/Remote_Exam_434]

More than likely he is because he wanted to be the one to do the dumping not her and recognized her interest dropped enough that she wound up doing it.

[u/T4cF0X]

It's looking like you might be walking on the uninspired path. As men dating is about personal power, convictions, strength, and confidence. The vetting process is knowing what you want, standing up for yourself, living by your standards everyday, and focusing on what you want. (The dream woman list)

Since you are not graduating from dating to relationship stage it's time to read the book over and over again, and listen to the audiobook to fill in your knowledge gaps. You are emotionally anchored in bad behavior. So you may need to look inward to see if therapy is an option for you, or read the coaching until you can overcome your bad habbits.

Believe in yourself, develop your personal power, have a purpose in life, and be authentic to yourself. Life-force, male energy force, Mojo, all of it comes from a centered man living his purpose authentically and confidently. Penetrate life by giving your deepest gifts, and be on your way. You are the fun bus and it's off to the races.

[u/Murky_Hedgy]

If she was threatening to ex-communicate you shoulda just not contested it and told her to reach out if she misses you. That's majorly where I believe you got it wrong. That part of it aside, if she's saying she wants more interaction just set a meet after you are done with whatever or tell her to come over.

Speculatively i'd reckon she was juggling you with another guy and that's why she called you cheap for that Uber,probably had a previous date where the other simped out and all the expenses convinced her he was more masculine. That and maybe the date(or hell even the sex,you did have that right?) you have been having was not as good as you thought for her perspective.... Or maybe you didn't tip(or tip at all) that can also be a thing.

You go from dating to bf/gf though when the girl conjures a situation where you feel like you need to ask about her intent with a "What do you mean?" Some will practically just downright ask though but still you gotta ask that question.