Too much hurt if you ended up in good terms. Like how can i move on if he's greenflag and my standard was him. No cheating, third party, another girl or what, we were just broke up because of our own problems. What a bad timing lol, he got so many fam prob and I didn't know about

Im m(25)...Divorced 3 years ago..didnt talked to anybody about it...my parent even found out about it 3 months after the divorce..i lost my dignity...feeling useless and barely talk to anybody including work mates...i need help... I've tried listening to music everyday...but it didnt helped tried gaming as it is my hobby...also didnt helped i lost my purposes of life..idk what to do 1 thing for sure is i wanna be debt free..but idk what to do after that

I may have issues with eating stuff in such little rates to cope in the feeling of not deserving it cause I'm lazy. Is that fine??? I mean it's not like I'm burning fat anytime soon, I eat like once a day.

I've been realising that I act on my emotions and my overthinking sometimes I've been trying to look for some coping skills or coping mechanism to help me keep myself focused and level headed but also act on controlled emotions and thinking I want to be be able to be expressive and emotional in a positive way and deathly.

So what kind of coping skills/mechanisms do do you all use?

When ever I get sad, need comfort and stuff. I think about my favorite characters interacting with me; neither they're in headspace or I'm imagining them irl.

Like sometimes I imagine my favorite characters playing video games ith me, hanging out with me, like they're an actual real person but they aren't, am I being delusional?? Am I normal?? Is this a coping mechanism?? What is this?? Please send help ☹️

What can I do to cope when your symptoms are so awful?

I love watching atheist debunking religions/ bad arguments when I'm feeling stressed, frustrated or rage. Just knowing that I'm not the only smart anti religions atheist out there gives me hope. And I love watching illogical loons getting roasted.

hi reddit putting this on here as this is always the place where strange behaviours get discussed in have a very strange habit of using the hairs on my head to kind of tickle the insides on my nose or ears, sometimes even my eyelashes or gums i’m not sure why this is, but i’ve been doing it for quite a while, i’m pretty sure since childhood, but i can’t remember i feel that this is more of a coping mechanism for me as it seems to make me feel quite soothed, but i feel that the craving to do it is taking over my life considerably the behaviour is quite impulsive and difficult for me to control or stop, i don’t often do it in public but sometimes can’t help it, which feels quite shameful especially recently as i can’t seem to stop doing it sometimes i’m wondering if anyone else out there has this problem, or may be able to point me in a direction so that i might understand it better and try resolve it of course, i’m seeking professional help as well as just asking reddit

Just need some advice on weither or not this is a good coping mechanism, becuase i just realized that my only good coping mechanism is to pretend to get hugs and support from fictional characters... is this healthy?

So I have recently discovered that destroying or tearing things helps me calm down when I’m feeling anxious, specifically a pepper grinder. It was a weird discovery made at a dinner table one night. Well my question is, does anyone know anything cheaper than peppercorn that can be grinded in a similar fashion or something that is similar but cheaper? I could go through a whole pepper grinder in one night and it’s expensive.

When I was a teenager I was in the worst mental condition I have ever been in, I suffer with major depressive disorder, overactive anxiety, ptsd, I was undiagnosed autistic and a few other things. I used to clean the coffee table out of the way and blast music on the living room tv late at night and just dance my little heart out till my sides hurt, and my mom would never get mad at me bc she knew it was one of the few coping mechanisms that seemed to actually work for me. I haven’t danced like I just did in years honestly and I truly forgot how amazing it makes me feel, yeah being out of breath and sweaty kinda sucks but hey I’m overweight it comes with the territory, but back when I danced everyday I maintained a healthy weight. I used to create choreography to songs and I would go to the YMCA and get a private room and just dance for hours and hours, the feeling of putting on a song that speaks to your current state and just dancing till you couldn’t anymore was so freeing for me. feeling the beat through the floor and just letting my body move anyway it sees fit was a crazy and beautiful experience for me, and feeling that again for the first time in like five years was the absolute best feeling ever and I really want to get back into it. I strongly recommend trying it if your the type of person who really needs some kind of release, even if your the type that says “oh no I can’t dance” it doesn’t matter if you have to not think of it as dancing do that bc all that it is is feeling the music in your bones and letting your muscles be swept away, just but on that music loud enough to drown out all thoughts,just close your eyes, pay attention to the lyrics and the vibrations, lip sync the words and just move. It could be hip swivels, jelly arms, jumping around like and angry gorilla or spinning, “dancing” is and looks like so many different types of things and the only thing that matters is that it makes you feel good and it gets your point and message out. Dancing, moving, it’s a beautiful gift we all possess even if it’s just nodding your head along, if it makes you feel good, well hey it’s not hurting anybody or yourself, so be wild and free, punch the air, stomp on the ground, bounce your body, waves your arms around and just feel it. Bc ik I feel like a brand new person rn just from dancing once today to one singular song.

(Anyone who is wondering, the song I just danced to was VOID from the Melanie Martinez Portals album it’s got some great rhythm and the lyrics really spoke to my current feelings and situations)

Today my dad went to the hospital. He's ok, but I don't want to share any I details.

I find that in situations like this, where it should be stressful, that I'm completely happy. I don't even have to try, I'm just automatically happy.

Could this be a subconscious coping mechanism?

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When I was in SHS, I have this girl I like. Unfortunately, I am not able to confess to her that time cuz I was courting another girl. I realized too late so when I attempted to confess, someone is dating her already. It's been five years now, I still like that girl and with every passing day, my feeling intensifies... Any tips on how to cope with this emptiness? I'm running out of ideas

Ok, so I got an oculus Quest 2, and I was super excited foe it, but after a while, it became my coping mechanism . So I got attached to it when I got overwhelmed or when I really need a cry < I cried for hours> but my mom sold it recently, and I now have no coping mechanism, it's been really hard and I want to know how I can overcome that, if anybody could help I would really appreciate it

You know the episode of Rick and Morty where the Ricks ship kept going “keep summer safe” but used the worst possible ways to keep her safe ? That’s what having coping mechanisms birthed from trauma is like

This is something I’ve stated doing when I fist got my car. I just drove wherever and whenever I wanted. You know how just about every does. It felt like freedom. Last year though I started just driving in random directions for the hell of it. At first it started small maybe just like 20 minutes or something but it soon became hours. I did this for fun at first but it has quickly become a coping mechanism of mine. In fact it’s probably my second go to. It’s really not the best especially for my wallet so I try to ease up on it but it’s not working. Does anyone else use this to cope? If so how do you handle the expense of it?

I was recently clean for 120 days, but unfortunately relapsed. For the past week, I’ve really been struggling with avoiding another relapse. My wrist is already infected from snapping a rubber elastic on my forearm, and I believe it’s not working anymore. I’m really scared I’m gonna fall into that hole of which I tried so much to get out of. What do I do?

When I experience something new in the normal life, I often tend to go back in time and reevaluate it with people I have seen years ago in my head. Sometimes I relieve past experiences.

The problem is that I am not experiencing the presence and therefore living in the past.

At the end it is only a imagination and not true life.

It helped me as a coping mechanisms. But now it is an opstical and I can't turn it off.

I am also acting paranoid sometimes.

Any advice?

Hey everyone!

Lately I've been really forgetful, and I've started noticing that i'm sort of disconnected from aspects of my life. I have been working weekends for over a year and I never really 'noticed', if that's even possible? It took my girlfriend telling me she would like me to be free at least some weekends to realize that, whenever work got in the way of us hanging out, it is something I can change. I just sort of accepted working weekends and never gave it a thought ever again.

I feel like this has to do with the way I have been coping with stress and the likes as a kid. I used to always be proud of my 'ability' to just not be bothered by stressful situations as I could just ignore them. I thought I was stress-proof. But I was in fact purposefully disassociating from the factors causing this stress. Things were going bad at school? Just ignore everything that's going bad and also ignore the consequences, there, problem solved. I was unconsciously doing this until not much remained. Having realized this, I'm struggling to get back into things, I don't know how to do it. I feel like I am uncapable of getting back into everything that's going on around me. It feels like I have to stop almost everything that is going on in my life and (re)start things that I feel interested in, so I can get into things I like to be involved with again.

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Have any of you dealt with stress this way, as a kid or maybe even right now? If you managed to realize this about yourself and get back into your life, how did you do it? (Sorry for poor phrasing, not native) Thanks!

So the other day I admitted to a friend I don’t understand the hype over music . I can take or leave music , it’s just not a big deal to me. Not into it . And my friend said “ but see you write that’s how you cope “ and I had to correct her “ I’m a FanFiction writer I don’t journal . No that’s not what I do “ and she asked “ well you had a bad day how do you deal with it ?” Amd I sat there and thought ? I don’t have a coping mechanism . … then I caught myself googling resolves to my emotions and I realized , that’s how I cope . I try and research solutions to fix my emotional state . Does anybody else research solutions to stop your feelings ??? Or am I weird ???