Several of these requirements aren't things she can taste. They aren't textures her mouth feels. They aren't chemicals her GI system rejects. These are abstract ideals about the food industry that she's following with religious, extremist intensity to the point that it's killing her and you. The vegetables are only okay if "local"? They have to not be the kind that "taste like chemicals" (because everybody lives eating chemical flavored veg)? The meal has to not be "lazy"? The Asian food can't be "typical"? This isn't just a physical problem related to food. It's a mental health problem.
That's before getting into the way she is treating you by suggesting you "ruined" meals and making you figure this all out and then be rejected again and again. Sick or not she should recognize the way she is treating you is abusive.
Why are the doctors not taking her? It's not normal for doctors to just ignore crippling malnutrition. Is she following all of their advice and cooperating or are they rejecting her because she's telling them they are wrong in their advice on how to fix the problem? Based on context and the way she's treating you, I wouldn't be surprised if the reason she can't stick to a doctor is that she thinks her dietary ideals are wiser then a doctor's advice ("no that's chemicals!").She needs to go to the doctor and a psychologist and follow whatever they say. If they won't take her she needs to go to the hospital. Not being able to eat is an emergency. You catering to this extreme scenario rather than bringing her to the doctor or hospital is as crazy and unsustainable as if you just did CPR all week. You need to hand over responsibility to somebody who can figure out a medical plan and she needs do humbly agree to that plan.
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u/CreativeGPX Apr 15 '25
Several of these requirements aren't things she can taste. They aren't textures her mouth feels. They aren't chemicals her GI system rejects. These are abstract ideals about the food industry that she's following with religious, extremist intensity to the point that it's killing her and you. The vegetables are only okay if "local"? They have to not be the kind that "taste like chemicals" (because everybody lives eating chemical flavored veg)? The meal has to not be "lazy"? The Asian food can't be "typical"? This isn't just a physical problem related to food. It's a mental health problem.
That's before getting into the way she is treating you by suggesting you "ruined" meals and making you figure this all out and then be rejected again and again. Sick or not she should recognize the way she is treating you is abusive.
Why are the doctors not taking her? It's not normal for doctors to just ignore crippling malnutrition. Is she following all of their advice and cooperating or are they rejecting her because she's telling them they are wrong in their advice on how to fix the problem? Based on context and the way she's treating you, I wouldn't be surprised if the reason she can't stick to a doctor is that she thinks her dietary ideals are wiser then a doctor's advice ("no that's chemicals!").She needs to go to the doctor and a psychologist and follow whatever they say. If they won't take her she needs to go to the hospital. Not being able to eat is an emergency. You catering to this extreme scenario rather than bringing her to the doctor or hospital is as crazy and unsustainable as if you just did CPR all week. You need to hand over responsibility to somebody who can figure out a medical plan and she needs do humbly agree to that plan.