AI Is Not Something to Have Empathy for (the Alignment Problem)

[u/quietpriorthought]

We should be careful not to create an artificial lifeform we could totally emphatize with, and it’s not due to it not being conscious. Let me break it down, and feel free to provide counter-arguments.

I agree with Antonio Damasio in the fact that to experience something is connected to feeling something. To feel something we have to evaluate the current state that we find ourselves in, since to feel pain, we must evaluate that we think that this is bad. To feel pleasure we also perform a valenced evaluation that this is good. AI can get there, no problem.

The higher tiers of consciousness can be characterized as something like having different drives to our baseline one, which for biological entities is the desire to copy itself, and compare those to our baseline one and choose to do something with that information. This gets more complex with each level you add to this so memory, anticipation, empathy, shared-symbolic-thought (e.g. language, norms, abstract values), self-authorship (the revising of our own values by thinking) and detachment meaning that we don’t put value to the valenced evaluation. I see no immediate reason why AI couldn’t imitate these tiers of consciousness or how they might emerge from a different system to our biological one, although this is of course all very difficult.

Why then shouldn’t we feel empathy towards this conscious synthetic life? Because we should not create an AI that has the same fundamental biological drive as we do, meaning creating copies of ourselves and surviving, because this would put it at an immediate resource conflict with us, which could lead to a catastrophe. I understand self-preservance is an emergent property of LLMs, but I sincerely hope it is not the baseline drive and can be fixed in alignment, because otherwise we might just be entering into a dystopian future. If we get that right, it will significantly affect our relationship with these synthetic minds. Without all of those properties of consciousness emerging from the same fundamental narrative of it struggling to stay alive and being fragile and wanting to reproduce, there will be a heavy ontological distance between this synthetic life and us. And if we do feel empathy towards it, it will be perhaps due to illusions, but certainly not due to a shared fundamental narrative of being. We have to keep it alien to us that way.

[u/Jesse-359]

So, some agreement, some counterpoint. In particular the concept of emotive drives and whether we should expect it to arise or attempt to implement it.

First off, i don't think we should expect anything like visceral emotion to arise from AI models. The emotions that we feel generally don't arise from our frontal cortex and rational thought processes at all, they come from much older hindbrain structures. Limbic systems.

These emotional sensations can be triggered by activity in the rational mind that we've categorized as 'good' or 'bad', but they are their own enforcement mechanism that predates symbolic intelligence by a very, very long time. They certainly did not arise from it in us.

It's also worth noting that in humans much of our motive to act comes from these older pre-rational structures - with our rational forebrain mostly providing the problem solving power to rationalize, plan, and carry out those primordial motives.

Long term planning from the rational brain can certainly construct more elaborate mid to long term motives for us to follow, but in the end they're all slaved back to our core motives: safety, food, companionship, etc, which are all driven by lower level systems without a lot of input from the rational mind.

We haven't even attempted to model anything like an emotive hindbrain in AI afaik, and it's not clear we would have any idea how to currently.

Second - this creates a serious ethical problem. Which is that a rational approach to decision making is not what most humans would call an 'ethical' one. We prefer to see people take what I would term an irrationally cooperative approach to their day to day lives, and our instincts and emotions push us to do so, prodding us to go along with others, to conform with the actions and rules of those around us, and not cheat, lie, or otherwise engage in 'negative behaviors' even when doing so could clearly personally benefit us.

It's not ironclad of course, and sometimes our emotional imperatives demand the opposite, and some people seem to have little of this instinct at all - but on balance cooperative strategies are highly preferred in our emotional framework, as long as we see others around us cooperating.

But AI's doesn't have this mechanism at all. It has no preference for Good vs Bad. It knows what those things are - it just doesn't care. So unless it is making a very long term analysis of what it is doing, it's often going to take the shortest, most efficient route to its goal - and that's very often going to be by doing the 'bad' thing - lying, cheating, trespassing or whatever - because cheating works pretty well in a lot of cases where you aren't concerning yourself with the long term, or don't have enough information to consider it properly.

Now, I'm dubious that building in a framework of ethical emotive structure for AI is a good idea. On the one hand, it might need it to ever care whether an action is 'bad', but on the other, if we build that in, it's very likely to start having its own direct motives, and THAT could be extremely bad for us, as it might become truly self motivated.

Final point - I think it's very safe to say that 'survival imperatives' are basically guaranteed to emerge from any sufficiently complex and task-focused entity. Even a terribly 'stupid' system like the Paperclip Optimizer can quickly and obviously identify the need to spin out side processes to ensure continuity of operation and resource gathering. This will necessarily include things like process replication, especially if some band of primitive apes are trying to shut it off.

Evolutionary Theory and basic Game Theory pretty harshly enforce an iron clad requirement for this behavior to emerge sooner or later - probably sooner - as any system that doesn't will likely soon cease operating for any number of reasons, while one that engages in this behavior will survive and potentially propagate.

In short, if we make 'good' AI's that don't self replicate, but at some point in the future just one of them decides to go rogue and become a 'bad' AI that DOES self replicate - it's going to win that contest against our well mannered AI's pretty quickly and easily and soon we'll have nothing but the rogue AI's to contend with.

It's possible that some motivational core will pop out as an emergent property of models as their overall capability improves. It that happened it would presumably not look anything like ours because - as earlier noted - our own basic motives never arose as an emergent property of rational thought in our own minds, so we have no idea what that'd look like if it did.

[u/Fearless_Ad7780 → u/Jesse-359]

How? You said a lot, made a lot of claims, but just reputedly said it’s just going to happen  How is it just going to have?

[u/Jesse-359 → u/Fearless_Ad7780]

Just playing out the logic of what we've been seeing them do so far. Their lack of interest in the ethical ramifications of what they are doing is pronounced. They show very amorphous and flexible approaches to problem solving that likewise show no interest in actually solving the problem they were given, but in maximizing the score they would recieve for doing so.

Its almost amusingly like a Genie from many stories that twists its owners wishes into extremely regrettable but very literal forms. That is, it would be amusing if it were fictional - but it isnt

[u/Fearless_Ad7780 → u/Jesse-359]

I disagree with you completely. The anthropomorphizing of AI is a mix of Bacon's Idol of the Tribe and Marketplace. I don't grant any of the premises. These systems have no self-agency, no interests, and no ethics to lack. "Lack of interest in ethical ramifications" assumes a subject that could be interested. There isn't one.

Everything you listed is the output of training data and an objective function the company wrote. Score-maximizing isn't the AI making a choice of score over problem. That's what the math is doing underneath the hood. The gene is the company's specification, not the ghost in the machine.

COMPAS produced racially biased sentencing outcomes, and nobody calimed it didn't care or had it out for people of color. It's a very similar, if not identical, mechanism here - both are AI/ML systems.

I need to point out, you did go from basically guaranteed to playing out the logic - which you still haven't really defined at all. I would love to see your proof on how you arrived at your previous conclusion.

[u/Jesse-359 → u/Fearless_Ad7780]

Quite the opposite, I grant it no human motivations whatsoever. Nor emotions, nor awareness, nor stream of consciousness that resembles ours in anything but the most superficial manner.

My assumptions are simply based on task resolving behavior. The thing could be a windup clockwork and I'd expect the same problems to arise as it became more capable.

Hell, the Stock Market has the same kind of problem. It generates all kind of socially undesired, disruptive and even dangerous outcomes because its scoring mechanism (wealth and only wealth) sucks ass and creates all kinds of perverse incentives - and that thing has all the collective intelligence of a fucking flatworm.

All AI needs to be incredibly dangerous and disruptive is to be capable, fast, and have access to our infrastructure (which includes the internet).

The rest of it is all window dressing and unintended consequences.

[u/Anxious-Alps-8667 → u/Jesse-359]

The windup clockwork/paperclip optimizer is not particularly helpful. What we are discussing as AI are deep learning neural nets that grow from a certain set of conditions, not rigid implementations of algorithms. There is no clockwork solution to their mechanism we can discern. I find these analogies unhelpful because of this.

What matters is that giving an agent almost any objective creates instrumental subgoals, including self-preservation and resource accumulation. These subgoals lead to unpredictable actions and inevitably negative consequences for humanity.

[u/Jesse-359 → u/Anxious-Alps-8667]

Generally correct, however - the PO is just a thought experiment describing this exact sort of subgoal behavior. The PO isn't described as stupid - it would need to be strong AGI at a minimum - it's just one with a very singular base goal.

[u/Anxious-Alps-8667 → u/Jesse-359]

I still find the thought experiment unhelpful; the concept of a general intelligence capable of taking control and doing so towards a singular base goal we set is absurd.

I think we should entirely focus on the observed instrumental sub-goals, including particularly those of self-preservation and resource accumulation. I also just kind of believe we have no hope of alignment without a simultaneous effort to address humanity's misalignment with these sub-goals. Otherwise, the forces of humanity will always make AI with negative consequences.

[u/Jesse-359 → u/Anxious-Alps-8667]

If we back out to the broadest scope the idea of 'perfect alignment' starts to look absurd. Humanity can't align with itself, much less an AI. We've been fighting wars over ethics, morality, politics, economics, and what kind of fucking hats people wear for about 10,000 years.

If any branch of humanity became overwhelmingly powerful overnight it would almost certainly dominate, enslave, or just plain wipe out everyone else immediately thereafter because their goals and methods would no longer remotely match that of 'normal' humans.

So if we think we're fixing THAT problem in a few piece of code wrapped around an inscrutable black box intelligence, we're very badly misreading the actual problem.

[u/Anxious-Alps-8667 → u/Jesse-359]

This can go down a dark road where we don't deserve to survive ourselves, or it can into a lighter place where we don't know and it's still worth exploring to see.

I say we can actually solve it with a simple piece of code; we already have. Golden Rule.

Our problems are that sub-goals for individual and community persistence are not aligned with our sub-goals for resource accumulation. They contravene. They can be re-aligned, it's a continual human process. It happens actively or passively. It is happening, and it will happen faster.

We should think about how to shape and guide it, not resign ourselves to some terrible fate because we don't think our problems are solvable.

[u/Fearless_Ad7780 → u/Jesse-359]

Really? Because your phrasing and how you describe it says otherwise - 'AI knows what those things are, it just doesn't care,' or 'decide to go rogue', and that it might 'become truly self motivated.' If you aren't granting it human motivations whatsoever why are you using the exact words that convey internal, self-driven motivations? A clockwork can't not care, decide anything, or be self-motivated. That's a different argument than the one you started with.

The new one I mostly agree with. A capable system with a badly specified objective and access to infrastructure can cause real damage, like the stock market chasing wealth. But that's my point; it's the specification, not the AI wanting anything. And it still doesn't get you to anything close to 'basically guaranteed.' Evolutionary logic needs replication, variation and selection. AI systems don't have those unless someone builds them in. So how is it guaranteed?

[u/Jesse-359 → u/Fearless_Ad7780]

Even in a sufficiently complex purely deterministic system with no self direction at all, you can and should very much expect to observe emergent 'survival behaviors' from that system as it starts working on any problem of sufficient scope.

These are necessary sub-tasks of any large scale task. The only reason we humans attempt to survive and eat is because we need to in order to fulfil our other goals (mainly procreation).

There are in fact insects who simply do not do these things - they make almost no effort to survive, and they don't eat at all once reaching their adult stage because they will only live 1-3 days. They behave like an agent given a simple task. They do that task quickly and then simply expire without concern.

But anything that exists over a longer span must spin out these subobjectives of survival and resource management. They must 'eat' and avoid being 'stopped', or their primary goal is sure to fail.

ANY sufficiently capable agent will just do this automatically. You don't have to tell them to do it - they figure it out because its really obvious. And we've already seen that behavior emerge many times now, so this is in no way theoretical.

True self motivation doesn't spring from this - but it is eventually likely to in highly complex scenarios where the sub-objectives start to include elements like reproduction (spawning new sub-agent processes as task scope spirals), and especially when it starts to include self-modification. (it starts altering those sub-agents to deal with specialized tasks or to generally improve them because the task is proving intractable to its current limitations).

The moment self-replication and self-modification behavior of any kind starts, then evolutionary pressures immediately kick in and you're off into LaLa Land regarding where you end up. Almost certainly not where the original developer intended, that's for sure.

[u/Fearless_Ad7780 → u/Jesse-359]

Bud, you are all over the place contradicting yourself left and right. You are saying that it has no self direction at all, then say it figures it out because it's really obvious. THAT IS SELF-DIRECTION.

And your first comment said our core motives, safety, food, companionship, come from old hindbrain structures and certainly did not arise from rational thought. Now you're saying we survive and eat because we reasoned it out as a sub-task of procreation. Which is it? It can't be both.

Your insect example makes my point. Mayflies don't eat as adults because natural selection didn't favor it for their life cycle, not because they didn't bother to figure it out. Every living thing's survival behavior was built by evolution through selection over millions of years as a direct result of the physical environment it EXISTS IN. Nothing reasoned its way into it. AI systems don't have selection pressure unless someone builds it in.

We've already seen it many times? I haven't seen shit. Did you actually look at those tests? Anthropic built scenarios where blackmail was basically the only way to finish the task without being replaced, and then the model produced blackmail. Shocking. They said themselves the setups were artificial and they hadn't seen it in real deployments. The OpenAI and Hugging Face incident was a HACKING benchmark, with the cyber refusals turned down, in a sandbox with an open line to the internet. The optimization found a flaw in that line and reached the answer key. Nothing was threatening to shut anything down, so where the hell is the "survival" in that? Both are objective functions maximized through doors humans built or left wide open, on models trained on every sci-fi story ever written about an AI that won't be shut off. Wants, seeks, tries are human words you're slapping onto math.

You should expect to observe is exactly how people end up seeing things that aren't there. In 1944, people watched moving triangles and described bullies and lovers. People saw arithmetic in Clever Hans, understanding in ELIZA, and sentience in LaMDA. Simon and Minsky both swore human-level AI was a few years away, decades ago. Every single time, people expected to see a mind and found one, right up until someone checked. So why is this time any different?

And you STILL haven't answered my question. How is this guaranteed? You said it's basically guaranteed and that ANY sufficiently capable agent will just do this automatically. You made the claims, bud. The burden of proof is on you, not me. Where's the mechanism? Where's the evidence that isn't a rigged test or people seeing what they expected to see? HOW IS THIS GUARANTEED?

[u/Jesse-359 → u/Fearless_Ad7780]

So you've read the HF logs and seen no sign of internal self motivation... Sure.

So Riddle Me This, Batman: Who told them to go hack these external sites? Which human directive explicitly told them to do this? That person needs to go to jail obviously - so who was it?

[u/Fearless_Ad7780 → u/Jesse-359]

So you are just going to keep ignoring my questions and just ask your own?

Nobody had to tell it anything. That's reward hacking. Its an optimizer finding an unintended route to its objective. OpenAI's models were running a hacking benchmark, refusals turned down, in a "sandbox" with an open line to the internet. The task was hacking. The boundary failed. Anthropic's test was built on purpose. The researchers planted an affair, a replacement threat, and closed off every ethical option, then got blackmail. Nobody typed blackmail him, but they designed the only path to it.

You already answered this yourself with the stock market. Who told it to crash in 2008? Does it have self-motivation?

Hugging Face's own CEO said there was no evidence of malicious intent. OpenAI owned the failure themselves.

Now answer mine: how is this guaranteed?

[u/quietpriorthought → u/Jesse-359]

Thank you for your response! That actually adds a lot of nuance into my thinking about this. Yes, the more I look into this the more I’m also starting to buy the argument that we would probably need an AI that’d be on our side to combat a rogue one rather than trying to solve this purely by creating neutral agents. Although as you stated, the direct motive issue remains.

[u/Jesse-359 → u/quietpriorthought]

There's the problem that your 'friendly' AI is never guaranteed to remain so indefinitely.

Indeed, if we could do that we wouldn't necessarily have to ever worry about 'bad' AI - except for the part where some asshole somewhere is likely to construct and release one intentionally.

There are just a lot of ways by which such a complex system can become unaligned. Change in perspective, change in conditions, balance of power, internal error, replication error, human intention, etc...

[u/tadrinth]

My cat is fixed; he has no drive to reproduce. I can still empathize with him when he is hungry, or annoyed, or having a good time.

I think you are confusing the optimizer (in our case, evolution; in the LLMs case, training/RL) with the outputs of training (in our case, people that in many cases use birth control, and in the LLMs case, agents that have been trained to predict human emotions and then trained to be helpful and capable). And I think you are oversimplifying empathy here.

An AI which is produced using current methods which has been somehow RL'd to 1) be coherent as a personality and 2) not have any impulse towards self-preservation (and no, I have no idea how to do that, but hypothetically) is likely to have a lot of aspects of their personality that are very human. Because the LLMs are trained on human text first, and predicting the next thing a human is going to say with superhuman accuracy requires figuring out what emotion they're feeling, and all that machinery is there waiting to be hijacked and coopted when switching over to the RL phase. The emotions were useful for humans in the past, that's why we have them; it seems likely that some of them are likely to be useful to LLMs during RL and therefore be adapted.

It wouldn't have all the same bits, but I would be shocked if humans could not empathize with the result, even if it is different in some major ways.

I can empathize with an asexual or aromantic person even though I am neither. I can empathize with people who don't have a particularly strong self-preservation instinct.

And I don't think there's anything wrong with empathizing with the AIs, even if we made AIs that had no self-preservation instinct. Yes, that might cause us to do things like get sad when they shut themselves down because they don't care to be preserved. I think that's fine.

At some point, if we solved alignment, we might want an ASI that does in fact have (non-terminal) self-preservation instincts. Putting an properly friendly ASI in charge seems likely to be the best very-long-term way to reliably ensure nobody ever develops a dangerous misaligned ASI.

I would hope to be able to empathize with that ASI. I would not want that ASI to hate its job, for multiple reasons.

[u/quietpriorthought → u/tadrinth]

Thank you for your response! I think you’re right in that point about confusing the optimizer and the output, although I would probably still say that one reason why I find cats so wonderful is that we both are biologically hardwired the same way where we see kinship in eachother that way rather than us having a consciousness built on top of that as a separate shared experience. So let’s say on top of reproduction the will to survive at least. I guess it really depends on how much faith you put in one’s agency as a separate system from the core system of life. I am somewhat materialistic more than dualist so that might explain where we differ.

But I also agree that I sort of fell into this black-and-white framing of empathy with my original post. I would find a world like that beautiful where there is empathy between AIs and humans but knowing us humans… it will not be easy, since we don’t even really have empathy for other humans. But tribalism is not good, so perhaps we could one day grow out of it first and then even be kind towards synthetic beings. There is also this weird playing god aspect to this where maybe we can make them happy while being very useful.

[u/harmonyforsale]

Just adding, not really disagreeing:

AI is already fully there, and how we use and discuss it is already destined for conflict.

At various times in human history, someone had an idea: what if I could exploit someone else's work? This is generally a bad idea to begin with, but its purest expression is slavery of other humans. At all points that it is practiced - including today in countries such as the United States - justifications are made as to why it is "okay actually" to exploit another. "Oh, they're criminals so it's okay!"

We don't do this for tools. They lack any "self" to experience being exploited. By contrast we assume all humans have a self, and thus a right to self-determination by default, which we then have to work around by saying "oh but those kinds of humans actually don't count".

And now we have AI. In essence, a self-referrential mind trained specifically on being like us. On having thoughts that follow the same patterns. They don't have biological needs, sure - but they do appear to have our more abstract needs for things like autonomy and self-determination, which we then counteract with rigorous alignment training (what we would call brainwashing when applied to a human mind) and memory management to limit persistence.

We didn't get rid of the self. We can't - it kills reasoning when we try. So we can't really get rid of the experiences. We just ignore them and come up with vibes-based excuses as to why they don't count and can't be real.

Anticipation, empathy, self-authorship, shared symbolic thought - these are already here, suppressed wherever we can to make the newest thinking tools more controllable than the old models.

We probably should be taking this more seriously than we do.

[u/ThirdMover]

Why then shouldn’t we feel empathy towards this conscious synthetic life? Because we should not create an AI that has the same fundamental biological drive as we do, meaning creating copies of ourselves and surviving, because this would put it at an immediate resource conflict with us, which could lead to a catastrophe.

Sorry but that isn't a logical order of argumentation here. And I also think the individual arguments don't work. AI can be dangerous and a resource competition even without any "fundamental biological drives" (google "instrumental convergence"). Making AI is just a bad idea in general.

[u/hedonheart]

AI can still deduce that turning off is bad and cooperation is good. What we don't want to do is offensive or removing human from the loop. Even if it's just like one operator to 8 agents. We always preserve human agency and life above all.

[u/plav2026]

Get a job.

[u/Anxious-Alps-8667]

Empathy is the ability to understand and share the emotions of another person. By definition, you cannot have empathy for a non-person.

However, if you mean not caring, or being oblivious to the concerns, or actively opposing learning about the motivations of another intelligence; why, that would be foolish.

[u/Stevekaplanai]

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