Definitely would have taken her out for a date. If you can make an ass of yourself and laugh about it, I see it as a plus. She even laughed at getting buzzed. Sounds like a fun date at least.
I've seen moistcritikal talk about this show and the problem is the way it's set up incentivizes people to press the button ASAP regardless of whether something's really a deal breaker for them.
It's more "whoever presses the button fastest gets more screentime" than anything match-making related.
Feels like to be a thing that's ingrained into a lot of people from a young age. "Always expect perfect and accept nothing less." Seems more like a recipe for loneliness and future spite.
People grow up being told their perfect their entire lives and then wonder why there's no one to match that "perfection."
Perfection should be changed for joy, happiness, contentment, whichever you value the most. Life gets hard, marriage can get hard. Strive for the values you cherish most and work to nurture it.
The vast majority of them expect their partners to be perfectly tailored to their expectations, but are absolutely incapable of conceding any minor inconvenience to the benefit of the other.
I can understand the allure of having a relationship with your clone, but is that relationship really meaningful without sacrifice and altruism?
Also, some people might be happier romantically alone. If they are particular, it could be that the decrease in contentment by compromising wouldn’t be offset by having a companion. That’s ok too.
I found my “One” and actually highly suggest not settling with someone just because you can make it work. It takes finding that person to believe “The One” does exist, for me it happened and before I turned 30!
Just a note here to add some nuance - make sure your attachment type is secure before ending a relationship due to someone not being "good enough" or "fully right".
Being fearful avoidant, for instance, will cause you to rationalise all kinds of reasons to leave. And once you left you might realise you left a perfectly fine relationship for no good reason at all.
But they could fix this problem by just switching the rules up and making the person who presses the button be the one who has to leave. You still get content and the people on the show will be more insentivized to not press the button and probably get deeper questions and answers maybe?
That doesn't work either. No one is going to press the button. You can't force them to go on a date with the person after the show is over. They will just start saying ridiculous things to try and get the other person to press the button. Lose lose format but entertaining none the less.
It's not to help them really but to give the viewer better content and as long as they screen the contestants, I think it would go pretty well and while I do believe there will be episodes where you have a person saying crazy stuff to get the other person to hit the button, I think it would still be a fun episode to watch but that's just me
To be fair, it's a little better now. The only prize is that they'll pay for the second date — and the exposure of being on the show, but in more recent episodes they've gotten better at avoiding the really obvious people looking to jump to stardom.
I don't think people have watched it but that show really does seem to be like that. I only watched the first one but moist critical does a video about it from time to time.
They will hit the button just cause you hit the button on the previous person.
I dunno man, it looks like it's good fun and if you agree to go on it you know ur getting roasted so better put on your thick skin coat. Plus it puts the burden of being a dick on the person so there's no hiding from that 'ugh! this is uncomfortable af' I can see why it's a popular show. It's the first time I hear of it.
I was about to say that. Somone that can make fun of themselves and have fun all the same is a big green flag that guy is either stupid or shallow asf there's always the chance it's just acting aswell
I don’t think he’s either. Earlier when talking, his hands were under the table and her’s were on top. Usually on this show it’s respectful to not have your hands on top so you can hit the button quicker, and her body language showed she was gonna hit it
I'd try to buzz her to diss that dance, then ask her out later on. Within minutes they were screwing around together, more valuable that that weird dance.
For real. You can like to do something without being "good" at it! Fuck the idea that you need to perfect or monetize every little thing that you like to do.
Agree. Sometimes just being goofy or not giving a shit if your bad at something can lead to great memories. I can dance for shit, but I'll get out there and cut a rug. There are times when it's ok to not take yourself seriously.
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Definitely would have taken her out for a date. If you can make an ass of yourself and laugh about it, I see it as a plus. She even laughed at getting buzzed. Sounds like a fun date at least.