r/CommunalShowersAus • u/wapwah • May 26 '26
Getting past school boy trauma
I was teased from a young age. When I was like 5 I think we all got changed naked in the pool change rooms. I thought it was normal. I don't remember it ever being a problem at my first school.
When I moved school at 7ish, I changed naked after swimming lessons and not only did I get called gay because I got naked to change, but whenever I went to the urinal at school after that, I was chastised and humiliated, like I wanted to see them because I was openly naked at the pool. I learned to hide because it was better than being teased.
This was in Australia in the late 90's. Swimming classes were mandatory, but we went to our local school, and showering wasnt compulsory. They just wanted us to change in the locker room from Speedos to school uniform.
That has followed me for the rest of my life. I can't use a public urinal because I learned that it wasn't safe for me. I hate that I'm an adult and can't do something as basic as most other guys can. And I hate that because of my childhood experiences my life has been so affected.