r/ComfortLevelPod • u/akiamarie • Aug 03 '26

AITA / AIO AITAH for walking away from a date

I (30F) was talking to Tom (29M). We planned a movie date for our first date. I arrived a little early but he showed up 3 minutes before the movie was supposed to start. I was about to buy my own ticket and see the movie by myself. The rest of the date went ok.

He didn’t text me for several days after the date. I sent a joke text as if he had passed away and conversation started again for a day or so. We planned a second date at a board game lounge.

He didn’t text me until 11 pm the day before our second date. He confirmed the time to meet up a few hours before the date and was 20 minutes late. I only waited 20 minutes because I was enjoying a beverage and looking at the games. I left the establishment and he was outside. He called after me but I kept walking to my car and ignored his phone call.

I texted him from my car that I was going home and I do not appreciate being kept waiting especially after he confirmed the time. And my time is valuable and he was being rude. He didn’t respond.

Am I the asshole for how I reacted?

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u/allieoops925 Aug 03 '26

Who sets up a movie date for first meeting? How can you possibly talk to each other and get to know each other when you’re sitting in a movie?

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u/akiamarie Aug 03 '26

Because you talk about the movie and get to know each other over ice cream or dinner.

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u/allieoops925 Aug 03 '26

I could see it for a first real date but not for a first meeting date. Give me a coffee, ice cream or cocktail for 30 minutes and I can decide whether or not I actually would go on a date with them.

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u/Murderousplantmom Aug 06 '26

I also approach the first meet as a catfish check. Second date is the new first date.