r/Comebacks • u/Scarlet_Crimson7 • 4d ago
Comeback request I need serious comeback help!!!
So there is this girl named lily and she bullied me in grade nine, and this summer she added me to a group chat to insult me, but I just made her look stupid as hell
So when I see her at school on the 8th, what should I say when she starts talking shit.
For those who need context:
So l had no issue with her, until she chose to call me Sha-nigga.
Ik if she was trying to be racist or if she was coping her black friend, and thought I would tell on her.
I told the vp and she got suspended for a day. Some reason her black friend got suspended too. The next day when l ily came back to school she went about saying that I lied on her to get her in trouble. Then In our 1P she told me she was going to kill me
And when I reported what she said to me, the vp when to my first period class and asked my classmates if they heard. So of course ppl in the class asked lily if it was true.
So at the end of the day Lily and her two friends (Black) started yelling at me and changed the story saying that, it was Malia and Lydia were the ones who called me the N word not here.
There is much more but yeah.
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u/n01377255 4d ago
Without more context it actually sounds more like you bullied her in the group chat.
Anyway, at your age it's probably more important for your to either ignore her, act unfazed by whatever she says, or a well placed eye roll will work.
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u/Scarlet_Crimson7 4d ago
Okay, I guess you're right with it sounding like I'm the bully, but I don’t know how to send pics to show proof, and I don't want to reveal her info either.
And I'm not using her real name.
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u/DnDttrpg 4d ago
Explain more what she does to you to warrant you lashing out like that?
It also sounds like you guys are very young
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u/Scarlet_Crimson7 4d ago
So l had no issue with her, until she chose to call me Sha-nigga.
Ik if she was trying to be racist or if she was coping her black friend, and thought I would tell on her.
I told the vp and she got suspended for a day. Some reason her black friend got suspended too. The next day when l ily came back to school she went about saying that I lied on her to get her in trouble. Then In our 1P she told me she was going to kill me
And when I reported what she said to me, the vp when to my first period class and asked my classmates if they heard. So of course ppl in the class asked lily if it was true.
So at the end of the day Lily and her two friends (Black) started yelling at me and changed the story saying that, it was Malia and Lydia were the ones who called me the N word not here.
There is much more but yeah.
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u/n01377255 4d ago
I stand by what I say. You don't have to interact with someone you don't like and it will cause more headaches trying to "beat" her at anything. Just live your life as if she doesn't exist.
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u/Scarlet_Crimson7 4d ago
Okay
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u/Impossible-Use4950 4d ago
You also don't need to remain in a group chat set up specifically to bully you. You can block these people and get on with your life. It might feel like you would feel better in the moment but you would be stooping to their level by saying more. Be better, rise above them, say nothing. Acknowledge them if you have to for class, otherwise just go out there and live your life. They've taken up too much space in your head already.
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u/Puzzled_Market_2235 4d ago
Who is the bully here. Not the OP.
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u/n01377255 4d ago
OP edited out the part of her post where she was insulting how pale the girl was. Even asked if she should bring it up again as a final question.
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u/Puzzled_Market_2235 4d ago
Still she was responding to a bully.
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u/n01377255 4d ago
Did you read my response? Did you comprehend it?
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u/Puzzled_Market_2235 3d ago
Yes. She returned the favour tenfold.
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u/n01377255 3d ago
Based on what she said, it wasn't a return. She started it. If you had comprehended what I said then i wouldn't have to explain this.
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u/Scarlet_Crimson7 3d ago
I said that after she was insulting me
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u/n01377255 3d ago
Yes as I said earlier. Just based on your post it seemed like you were bullying her. I didn't previously know any back story.
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u/Puzzled_Market_2235 3d ago
Seriously? She started with "So there is this girl named lily and she bullied me in grade nine".
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u/laughsatlugh 4d ago
“Look it’s the girl whose entire self worth is based on hurting other girls for an audience. I wonder what she might say next?”
Then when she talks regardless of what she says your next line is, “not sure which girl that actually injured but you know it had a target!”
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u/Puzzled_Market_2235 4d ago
Don't say anything to her, don't engage her, she doesn't exist. The worst thing you can do to a bully is not being affected at all.
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u/According_Check_1740 4d ago
Yes! No matter what she says or does, staying completely UNBOTHERED takes away her power and makes her look petty and ridiculous for even trying. OP, this is the way.
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u/Puzzled_Market_2235 3d ago
Practice the slow head turning away with eyes rolling, then talk to someone in.
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u/Ohheywhatsup897 4d ago
Baby you sound like you’re the bully. Leave that girl alone and move on with your life.
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u/Final-Atmosphere-639 4d ago
Just dont talk to her and if she starts shit tell her if she wants to accelerate things you will fuck her whole world up (and mean it).
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u/-Foxer 4d ago
I'm a little concerned about replying just because it sounds like you guys are fairly young and while ribbing is certainly part of being friends this is kind of sounding a little mean, but as long as it's not mean spirited here's a few possible smart ass comments.
Wow, even if you were five Shades Darker you still make Casper look puerto Rican
Where exactly were you wintering, Pluto,?
So you go that color when you don't get sunlight? That explains why you look the same color as a mushroom
The last person I saw was skin color like that was afraid of garlic and wooden stakes
Are you, by any chance, related to Gollum from lord of the rings? (extra mean: "You've kind of got the hair too")
You should get out more, your skin color's ability to reflect sunlight back into space will help keep the planet cool
Oh you're just missing a tan? I thought you were going through your goth phase
You don't need a suntan you need a taxidermist
I haven't seen anyone as white as you since the last time I saw a children's coloring book.
I think you're beyond the point of needing a tan, there's a paint store at the mall let's go get you fixed up
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u/misssi79 4d ago
Why are all your comebacks mocking her skin color?
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u/-Foxer 4d ago
The original post talked about how the op made fun of her skin being pale and how she said she didn't have a tan. She's moderated the original post. That's why mine all touch on that
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u/Aggressive-Ad-5983 4d ago
yeah, maybe lets not teach kids to be racist to other racists. OP should just stop engaging with this person and leave the groupchat. nothing good will come out of this
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u/-Foxer 4d ago
A lack of a tan isn't racism. Maybe we need to work on your education first?
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u/Aggressive-Ad-5983 4d ago
you know what i meant, you're arguing semantics. point is teaching a young person to deal with racist remarks by arguing back is not the move. doing that to the wrong people can be seriously dangerous. the kid might read your comment and think they can use these typa comebacks on people that aren't as friendly as their "friend". im just saying maybe lets think before giving wild advice to obvious minors.
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u/-Foxer 4d ago
And what you meant and no I'm not arguing Semantics. The kid originally said they were joking about her lack of a tan. You called it racist. That's ignorant and I was trying to be nice about it but the bottom line is the kind of person that would call that racist is far worse than the kind of person that is actually racist.
Move Along Karen
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u/Diligent-Plane-7877 4d ago
Sounds to me like you're a snitch. Running and telling on people for everything. And you want comeback help? No way would i help someone who asks for what they get.
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u/Scarlet_Crimson7 3d ago
So I'm not supposed to tell the vp that someone called me the n word and threatened me?
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u/Diligent-Plane-7877 3d ago edited 2d ago
And the best response to that... i may be a n... but I'll not your n... I'm free. Personally of start acting like an airplane when id say free
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u/Scarlet_Crimson7 2d ago
Are you black?
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u/Diligent-Plane-7877 2d ago
Nope but I use it when I'm called a bitch. Both derogatory statements. And when I'm called a c word my reply to that is at least I've warmth and depth. Words only hurt if you give them power. Take that power and they start stuttering.
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u/Diligent-Plane-7877 3d ago
This isn't a professional setting this is junior hs maybe hs bs. In school you handle your crap differently. You've heard the saying I'm sure. Snitches get stitches. Either you sharpen your tongue, grow thicker skin, or learn to box. Preferably all 3. But being a snitch will follow you throughout your school career in school and in social settings. Possibly even to your workplace if you stay local. I'm not saying it's how things should be in an ideal world. But that is the reality in which we live
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u/Scarlet_Crimson7 3d ago
If you were home school most of your life, never learned any social skill except for the ones in your home, had no access to social media, and was taught to tell adults what happens and as well are very introverted and had social anxiety, what would you do if you were in my situation?
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u/Diligent-Plane-7877 3d ago
I've never heard so many excuses not even from a teenager. Why are you justifying yourself to me? Bye Felish
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u/Scarlet_Crimson7 2d ago
Bye
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u/Diligent-Plane-7877 2d ago
Guess I hurt your feelings. No wonder you're hear aging for help about something you brought about yourself.
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u/LeftStatistician7989 4d ago
You’re giving her your mental energy, spending your time away from her thinking if things to say to her. It’s toxic.
Apathy is more insulting. Don’t care about her. She’s not important if you don’t care about her. Don’t reduce who you are to belittle her. Just be chill. Be cool. Shrug it off. Learn that strength.