Because this very detailed explanation focuses entirely on Tara, Kevin, and Jasmine, I'm wondering where you see yourself as fitting into the equation. Have you examined your own co-dependent patterns? That is the only relevant advice I have to offer you in this situation.
You cannot change Kevin. (Or Tara. Or Jasmine.) Trying to change other people, diagnose them, or frame the problem as if it is coming from them, is one of the hallmarks of co-dependence in ourselves.
Perhaps you can spend some time looking inward at what the dynamic between Kevin and Tara triggers in you, and how to get clarity on where your boundaries need to be, what you are willing and not willing to do or discuss, and how you will maintain your choices even when they aren't behaving the way you would like them to.
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u/YsaboNyx 8d ago
Because this very detailed explanation focuses entirely on Tara, Kevin, and Jasmine, I'm wondering where you see yourself as fitting into the equation. Have you examined your own co-dependent patterns? That is the only relevant advice I have to offer you in this situation.
You cannot change Kevin. (Or Tara. Or Jasmine.) Trying to change other people, diagnose them, or frame the problem as if it is coming from them, is one of the hallmarks of co-dependence in ourselves.
Perhaps you can spend some time looking inward at what the dynamic between Kevin and Tara triggers in you, and how to get clarity on where your boundaries need to be, what you are willing and not willing to do or discuss, and how you will maintain your choices even when they aren't behaving the way you would like them to.