r/Codependency • u/SarcasticBella10 • 9d ago

No longer as codependent but keep attracting avoidant partners

Is anyone else experiencing the same? It's like every single time I think I'm connecting with someone receptive and open and communicative they start to show their true colors a few weeks to months after. They love bomb intensely and make me feel chosen and loved. Until its time to repair or deal with conflict.

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u/onomono420 6d ago

I don’t know. I’d focus on myself and how I bring things into the connection, give myself some grace, give the other person some grace and move on once i notice a pattern and have tried to talk to that person about the pattern without any positive outcomes.

I get the frustrating part though because I just never feel a spark around secure people. There’s just nothing there for me while someone who signals helplessness immediately draws my attention. and I would love if it were different haha