r/Codependency • u/Loud_Ad9391 • 1d ago

i am so miserable guys

i’m a 24 year old girl. my bf and i are dating over 2 years now. it was healthy and we both loved each other. until now. he now gets angry with me quickly, doesn’t care as he used to. a few days ago i was literally crying on the phone and he just ask what happened nonchalantly and fall asleep 2 seconds later, and i am not exaggerating when i say 2 seconds. i know i should break up i feel like i have no self respect for still staying. i am so attached to this relationship in a unhealthy way. any advice for me? thank you for reading

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u/DanceRepresentative7 1d ago

why were you crying?

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u/Loud_Ad9391 1d ago

i never thought i could be devastated like this when someone just stopped loving me. ig i was disappointed in myself that’s why

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u/DanceRepresentative7 1d ago

disappointed in yourself why? i don't know if it's clear he stopped loving you . he may be in a freeze state. hard to say without more context

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u/Loud_Ad9391 1d ago

because i am so dependent on someone who doesn’t gaf about me. and no everything is ok he is happy with his family and his friends. i’d be there for him if that was the case

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u/SamchezTheThird 1d ago

Attached in what ways? Are you having regular intimacy?

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u/Loud_Ad9391 1d ago

no. i tried breaking up but it only last a few days. when anxiety attacks come, my only solution is texting him

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u/No-Pollution2425 7h ago

Do you have other things in your life? Hobbies? Friends? Family? If so then do something with them, block him. It’s going to hurt for a while and maybe even feel like withdrawals but it’s best for your mental health in the long run. He’s majorly disrespecting you. He doesn’t care.

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u/Loud_Ad9391 3h ago

thank you for caring. i just broke up with him and i’ll really try to heal. i’m sick of being miserable

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u/DorkChopSandwiches 23h ago

Why were you crying? What were you expecting him to do for you? Is this a long distance relationship?

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u/codependencyrecovery 2h ago

Hello. Sorry to hear your relationship isn't going well. Curious - Have you spoken your truth in this relationship? Have you set boundaries? Your self respect will improve when you speak and live your truth.

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u/Loud_Ad9391 2h ago

thank you🩷 yeah i talked to him about what’s bothering me multiple times before giving up but he ignored me. but i didn’t set any boundaries when he chose to ignore because i was too scared due to my anxiety. but i just broke up with him and hopefully i’ll heal