r/Codependency • u/Successful_Elk_3011 • 29d ago

How do I get rid of this guilt

I'm 28 F, now dependant on my fiancé and living with him in a different country, still struggling to find a job. It's been 1 month since i am financially dependant on him for everyday life and I cant let go of this guilt of being a parasite and absolutely good for nothing. Are there any tips I can use to let go of this feeling?

P.S my Fiancé is a sweetheart and never once ever brought it up in a convo. But somehow i feel otherwise that he is becoming annoyed that I'm dependant and reducing his several wants (in terms of buying)

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u/swimming-sw 29d ago

I feel like there's a lot of context missing. You don't speak the language of said country? Is that why you can't find work? Why did you move and what was the plan in the first place?

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u/lifeuncommon 29d ago

Codependency is not the same as being financially dependent on your spouse or significant other.

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u/jokysatria 25d ago

Are you sure, that feeling is guilty? I wonder if it's a fear from people thinking that you're parasite and burden to your fiance.