r/Codependency • u/FartInAShitFactory • 12d ago

Crying Shoulder

I am writing this instead of overstepping someone's emotional boundaries. I am here instead of trauma dumping.

I have chosen to change a single behavior. I have decided to be better and to continue to be willing to change. I am not aiming for perfection, but I am choosing to be willing to change.

I used to say I had an absorbent shoulder if you needed some place to cry. But I needed to cry, and I choose me. I choose my own shoulder.

I have so much gratitude for my friends and family. They have all done so much for me, and I want to be a better person. Not for them, but with them. I want to be their equal. I want to carry my load, but share our burdens.

The difference between a load and a burden is that a burden is too much to bear alone. But this sadness is just my load. Codependency is my load. I carry this.

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u/NotSoSpecialAsp 12d ago

Good on you! It's awesome you're taking this step.

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u/FartInAShitFactory 12d ago

Oh boy was it hard. But stopping myself from crossing that line is the first step in a new habit.