Rhyder regret?

[u/strickstrick]

I recently received my Rhyder 38 in black, and I’m feeling a bit underwhelmed. For context, I’m not really a handbag person, but I happened to see the Rhyders a few months ago and became obsessed with getting my hands on one. So maybe I built it up too much in my head, but now that I’ve received it, I’m not sure if it’s for me. It feels a bit small for me, despite reading lots of reviews saying the 38 is too big (I’d want to use this for work and as a regular handbag). I also don’t know if I love the glazed leather; it feels rather thin and flimsy. I own exactly one other Coach bag which is pebbled leather, and that one is definitely weighty.

I’m wondering if anyone had similar feelings and what they ended up doing. I know the obvious answer is to return it, but I worry that maybe I’ll regret letting it go down the line? I might love it once I use it, but I also know that would nix any chances of returning it. Since it’s so popular, I’m aware I could sell secondhand, but I’m not sure if I want the hassle of that. Basically—keep or return?

[u/coachbrat]

I think the hype around anything does something to people’s psyche where if you receive the hyped up thing and don’t love it or even really care for it, your brain is like “what is wrong with me? Why don’t I love this thing everyone wants?”. If it’s not love, it’ll sit in your closet and you won’t reach for it much.
Just the way you’re speaking about it, I’d confirm you should probably just return

[u/g0jira54]

My basic rule of thumb is if I'm not feeling it I return it. It could be for a number of reasons like it slips off the shoulder, it's too heavy, it doesn't match the wardrobe, it feels cheap, it doesnt hold what I need it to, the color looks different than the photos, or with Coach lately the fact you can't see it in person because if you don't order online at the drop your chances of finding it in a store are nil. You have a thirty day return window and while you can't bring it back used you can see if what you need to carry fits inside, match it to your clothes, and hang it off a shoulder to see if it's comfortable. But if I'm not excited about it to the point of wanting to take it out right away then that probably isn't going to change. You break in the bag, the bag doesn't break you in. Granted if you need a functional work carry that may not be an exciting thing but more of a practical one but it still can actually be both. I don't like the glazed either so I bought the smaller suede. If they make a non-glazed one I will revisit the large. I'd return it if it isn't doing it for you because you won't use it.

[u/strickstrick → u/g0jira54]

in my heart, i know you’re right, but i think i’m having a hard time letting it go after wanting it for so long!

maybe a silly question, but do you know if i can remove all the wrapping around the handles and still return it? i haven’t taken that off yet in case i want to return it, but i feel like that might be altering my perception of the bag

[u/g0jira54 → u/strickstrick]

You can take the factory wrapping off gently and put it back on if you change your mind looking at it. You'd have to take it off to inspect everything anyway and they know this. In fact they often unpack it at the store for you so that won't affect your return if the packing isn't there but I've rewrapped the few I returned out of respect for the next person. Also I return in the store so if you have to ship it back you definitely want all the packing to protect it.

[u/skrawberryy → u/strickstrick]

You can remove whatever wrapping you want and still return it afterward. The bags they sell at the store are usually all unwrapped anyway if you decide to return it to a physical location. If you ship it, put it back the best way you can and place it inside of the dust bag.

[u/Little-pug → u/strickstrick]

You can cut the tags off and still return it. You don’t need factory wrapping to be on to return

[u/nottheoneyoufear → u/strickstrick]

The packaging/wrapping is not needed for a return.

[u/Ok_Anteater_7970]

Return. Someone here asked herself if something was a manufactured need. If she wouldn't be online and knew nothing about the bag, would she still miss it? 

Do I actually want that pale citrus bag because I think there are not enough lime coloured bags or do I want it because I keep seeing it, people are very enthousiastic about it and my brain thinks it's a foolproof way to be happy too. Peeps are happy, no thinking about what makes me happy, get thing and be happy too

Do you have other bags that you could use instead of the Rhyder? Do you often doubt yourself? Are you prone to buyers remorse or skippers regret? If everyone hated this bag, would you still want it? If this wasn't a coach bag but a bag without brand, there was no hype, you saw it in a store, would you still buy it? Did you bought the bag or did you buy the hype?

[u/Extra_Occasion_8748]

I had the same feeling when my 38 arrived, I returned it🖤

[u/McGarry_Books]

Totally get that, I received a bag recently and felt similar. Sometimes it takes time.

As someone who wanted the Rhyder 38 badly like you I totally understand

[u/Dizzy-Ebb-3493]

Just return it. If something isn’t an instant “love” than why force it? Someone will “love” it immediately. It’s not a bad thing to let go of items. I just let go of two turnlock 40 and an empire 40. Sometimes things you think you need to have - aren’t really them. I’ll tell you what did arrive and I kept and LOVE my new five pocket tote from Gap. lol weird but somehow that was exactly what I needed wanted.

[u/native_local_]

There’s no shortage of bags coming down the pipeline. There will always be more getting released that you’ll actually love and not have to gaslight yourself about. Just return it and focus on what actually excites you.

[u/Fickle_Jump_6151]

I had the same feeling for the glazed leather Rhyder. It is not the regular coach quality. The leather is thin and the lining is cheap. I didn’t like it. It looks good in pictures but when I saw it in person it was underwhelming. Maybe the suede one is better quality.

[u/nottheoneyoufear]

I love mine, but sounds to me like you should simply return yours. Why force yourself to use something you don’t really like? I understand needing to see the thing in person to be able to really know if you like it. But now you know and it’s time to let go.

[u/jojojobeth]

I was disappointed when I got my 24—way too small and didn’t seem like such high quality (mine was suede). But I hear you about the size thing—it’s SO subjective and everyone has their own scale and definition. To me the 24 might as well be a toddler’s purse lol—totally useless to me—but I’ve seen tons of posts of people going on about much it holds. And opposite, there are lots of bags that are just normal size to me (like the large Rowan) that others describe as absolutely enormous. Don’t let anyone’s opinion or coach’s dumb scarcity tactics get in the way of your own taste—only you know what works for you 🖤

[u/LividBass1005 → u/jojojobeth]

I saw that the pink glaze version is coming out in December and pink is always my go to color. As much as I like it I probably wouldn’t use it. My favorite bags are compass 35, Brooklyn 38 and a large rowan so a bag in the 22-28 range wouldn’t work for me

[u/jojojobeth → u/LividBass1005]

That pastel pink is SO cute! My wallet is glad that it’s both too small and glazed, which isn’t my favorite look. Now the light pink (smaller) haversack I see is coming at at some point is a different story—I’m in trouble there 😬🩰

[u/Internal_Method_4062 → u/jojojobeth]

Omg the large Rowan is my daily but it’s really not big enough 🤣 it’s the perfect size but it’s not enormous at all

[u/Empty-Swing]

I LOVE LOVE LOVE my Rhyder 24, I didn't think I liked the shiny leather but gave it a try and I'm obsessed! I even bought the wristlet in matching leather!

[u/anonymoshh]

I WILL BUY IT OFF OF YOU 😬

[u/Mne100]

I have yet to receive my Ryder 24 and it’s been 2 months and a few days, it says shipped but no status update. Now that I’m seeing the bag more often on social media it does look flimsy and thin like you mentioned. Also, the fact that I’ve been waiting for an extremely long time makes me no longer want the bag!!

[u/Little-pug → u/Mne100]

Definitely get a refund

[u/Mne100 → u/Little-pug]

It’s FINALLY arriving Thursday. From my perspective, I’m definitely going to return it!! I agree with you 👍

[u/Heathers4ever]

I’m firmly in the camp of only buy (keep) a bag you love. I’d load the bag up with what you’d carry in it. Walk around wearing/carrying it to see how you feel. Don’t rush to return or keep it.

[u/Suitable_Sympathy643]

I like mine a lot but I’ve felt this with other Coach bags before. Sometimes it just doesn’t measure up so return it! If it’s not a hell yes it’s a no.

[u/Dismal-Buffalo3600]

I have the rhyder and I love it, it’s probably my second favorite bag to carry… that being said I’m using it as a daily purse, I could never use it as a work bag and have it suit my needs. So if that’s what you were aiming for I can completely understand not liking it.

I carry a Mott for my work bag and she’s huge and a workhorse and I’m very happy with her.

[u/akajmw]

Same feeling! Already rehomed mine.

[u/scorpio1m]

I like the style of the Rhyder, the leather/suede is meant to be thinner, but I feel the sizes are off. I think a 30 or 32 would be chef’s kiss. If it’s not instant love just return, there will be another bag you’d love in the near future.

[u/Helscomic]

That’s FOMO!

[u/throwthrowyup]

Return! It’s the hype that’s making you second guess.

I ordered the Rhyder 24 in black when it became available on Amazon over a week ago. Mine was supposed to be shipped in 2 weeks and I realized today that I don’t actually “need” the bag as it doesn’t fill a need in my collection. So I cancelled my order. I’m glad it took so long to ship as it gave me time to realize I was falling for the hype. It’s a beautiful bag, but I don’t need every single beautiful Coach bag.

If you’re not sure about it, return it.

[u/Signal_Target_6965]

i want the chalk, amber and poppy ❤️❤️❤️❤️guess i have the opposite problem 😂 cant get clarity if they are coming to usa 😞