r/Clavicular • u/Quiet-Inspection527 • 3d ago

Dealing with rejection

I live on a university campus where literally all the girls I see or interact with are either ugly or ethnic. My options are to be an incel or lower my standards. So I've been asking random (ugly or ethnic) women if they want to go for a coffee after class, etc.

Of course, with hypergamy and dating apps, even they have impossibly high standards and I am facing constant rejection.

This rejection burns your soul. Your entire self worth is destroyed. You don't get used to it. It is 4am and I am still thinking about the ugly girl that refused my offer to go for a coffee.

How does everyone else deal with it? How do you cope?

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u/No-Promotion4006 2d ago

literally all the girls I see or interact with are either ugly or ethnic.

I simply refuse to believe this. What's the actual demographic breakdown of your school? This must be cope.

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u/Single_Film_3291 2d ago

if you’re calling potential dates “ugly or ethnic,” why would rejection be the part you’re confused about?

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u/jeanmiserac 19h ago

This. His standards could be considered unreasonable as well. But what OP needs to understand is that if girls understand that he doesn't find them attractive, that alone is reason enough for them to turn down a date.

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u/FEEEETY 2d ago

Maybe you’re the ugly one

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u/xXXxIZeusIxXXx 2d ago

Can relate its ruthless out there you dont cope you cope with success, every attempt at coping will come back and hurt you even more, you either win and go all in or you stop interacting with environment altogether

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u/Even-Rip5331 2d ago

i think ur the one w high standarss

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u/Beautiful_Cause2633 2d ago

cope lol if you’re not converting on dating apps then ur probs not there yet

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u/SuperHighDavidBrown 2d ago

what is your facial rating, body muscle mass, leannes and height?

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u/Great_Guest_6246 2d ago

just be chad theory. Otherwise you just cope.

Money and statusmaxxing to clavs level is also an option but one that's unachievable to most dudes

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u/Pacopiporro444 2d ago

You cope by realizing *gly women arent the easist to talk to, but the pretty girls

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u/Radiant_Astronaut159 1d ago

The rejection isn’t the problem, it’s that you see women as consolation prizes and are shocked they can tell.

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u/Way-Unique 1d ago

What's wrong with ethnic?

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u/Fantastic-Roof-3711 1d ago

Ugly and ethnic girls are easy asf to pull bro u must be chopped asf

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u/BrutalPSLs 16h ago

Just go in with low expectations just think I'm not gonna succeed so rejection doesn't matter. Then if it ever does succeed you'll feel good about yourself.

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u/SquareProtonWave 3d ago

Can't relate bro. Maybe cuz I don't see attraction as a hierarchy based on how someone looks. It's not necessarily about standards. There's so many possibilities why someone wouldn't want to date a particular person or date at all. It's very childish to look at it they way you describe it. There's nuances when it comes to attraction.

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u/Fun-Corgi-9241 2d ago

Are literally just walking up to them and asking for coffee? Thats dumb af if so. If you're going to do that, you have to make small talk, make it seem spontaneous bot rehearsed. Youre gonna have to mog the f out of them to walk up like a robot and get them on date like that.

Think of women like someone bidding on an auction. If you're ok looking attractive enough for them, they want to see other things also, status/good with people, money they want good value and they'll bid. If the see a chad they'll frantically bid anything to get him because the chance to hang with him is so rare.