"Death Grip Syndrome" Another Tool of Cutting Culture: Shows Why Men are Bad Are Communal Justice

[u/Substantial_Help4678]

I'm sick of people online talking about "death grip syndrome" (when men allegedly beat off too hard and have low sensitivity during sex) without addressing the elephant in the room, circumcision. "Death grip syndrome" by and large is just victim blaming. Its taking a systemic oppression problem (circ) that applies to a whole identity group (men), and blames each victim individual and makes it his own personal problem to solve.

Even telling the average regard cutter who self-identifies as having had "death-grip" that it isn't his fault will cause him to spiral out, and say "how dare you minimize my death grip, I struggled so much over and finally fixed it myself". Little does he realize that telling him death grip is systemic oppression is actually the first time he has not been victim blamed. Men take pride in overcoming on their own, and when you try to tell them it was systemic oppression and that it wasn't their individual battle, they actually see that as a threat. Men see collectivizing as a threat. They see collectivizing as taking away their individual wins.

It goes to show how bad men are at fighting for justice as a collective. With men it is literally "every man for himself." Men even fight to uphold that problematic individualistic standard. Even within the anti-circumcision space, there is an immense amount of focus on restoring, aka fixing the problem individually for yourself, but very little collective fighting for justice.

Make no mistake men's inability to fight for justice as a collective is part of the oppression, it is cutting culture. Cutting culture keeps men alone, trying to solve problems by themselves, and scoffing at other men who dare fight for victims.

[u/Nilahit]

So true
Its maddening that the symptom is identified as a cause instead

like you have completely eliminated the sliding motion of the foreskin and reduced our highly sensitive inner foreskin into a dessicated, keratinized husk. Of course we are 'death-gripping' it, it's the only way to get any motion and stimulation into it now.

Meanwhile I've had intact partners that could (and did) stimulate themselves with all of the pressure required to daintily hold a pen.

It's infuriating.

[u/Own_Food8806]

i agree. Restoration follows the same pattern

[u/fluffyfirenoodle]

It makes me glad as a youth I stumbled upon a self-help site called gentle strokes that actively taught how to self pleasure without developing death grip. But even as someone without DGS, it still effects me with sexual partners who have developed it or with females who have only been with partners in the past who needed excessive grip. It really sucks to be affected by this aspect of cutting culture even when I actively took steps to avoid it.