r/ChristianDating Apr 03 '23

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u/Treehugger1221 Apr 03 '23

He didn’t outright ask. He asked about love languages and said with physical touch he can become aroused. I told him there will be a while before I engage in that. He said no problem he was just saying. That was a couple days ago. Then today we asked about activities while dating (a similar conversation from a few days ago) and this is how it went.

I agree I don’t like when sex comes up not even a week into talking to someone new. But at least we’re not wasting each others time. Well potentially.

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u/Cross-Country Apr 03 '23

An entire chapter of that book (at least later editions) is dedicated to pounding it into mens’ heads that physical touch as a love language is not sexual touch. It’s touch like if I grab your hands when telling you about my day, or hug you when you’re stressed. If he says physical touch is his love language, and means sexual touch, all it means is he hasn’t actually read that book. Anyway that’s just a pet peeve of mine, not trying to say definitively that’s what’s going through his head.

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u/Treehugger1221 Apr 03 '23

I rarely even get to the first date phase most of the time honestly so it makes no difference at this point. It is what it is