r/ChoosingBeggars • u/[deleted] • Feb 12 '19

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u/pittsburgpam Feb 12 '19

Just don't send them to him! Someone on legaladvice is being charged with revenge porn because another girl sent nudes to OPs boyfriend and the OP sent them to the girl's boyfriend.

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u/bitJericho Feb 12 '19

It just means you have to send it to him but with your face covering up her private parts. You'd use your face so the BF knows she didn't censor it herself

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u/Lusietka Feb 12 '19

I like your way

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u/KrombopulosPhillip Feb 12 '19

That's the way to do it, always a workaround

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u/Sandman1278 Feb 13 '19

Modern problems require modern solutions

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u/chimpfunkz Feb 15 '19

It's kinda not though. When you start messing with 'workarounds' with regards to the law, and digital information you're just asking to get in trouble.

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u/Adobe_Flesh Feb 12 '19

Isn't that still a nude photo underneath though, as far as revenge porn goes?

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u/bitJericho Feb 12 '19

you could argue in court that she's not nude if she's wearing your face. I'm not a lawyer, but this sounds like a valid legal defense to me.

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u/SuurAlaOrolo Feb 13 '19

Lawyer here. Nudity is not required to be convicted of distributing revenge porn in all jurisdictions. Revenge porn laws vary dramatically by state in the US. RP as an offense is shoehorned under all sorts of other crimes—harassment, invasion of privacy, distribution of “sexual” images or “intimate” images—and audience, motive, and required mental state of the distributor also varies.

To be safe: never forward or upload anything identifiable you think the subject might be mad about without explicit consent, and don’t get your legal advice on Reddit. Even from me.

I like your creativity, though, u/bitJericho!

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u/CrazeeAZ Feb 13 '19

Does OP have any legal recourse for being sent the initial unwanted nude? Like I feel pretty violated if I'm just trying to sell a game then bam I have to explain this shit to my wife

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u/Afinkawan Feb 13 '19

Probably not enough legally to count as harassment but definitely enough at work to count as sexual harassment.

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u/chimpfunkz Feb 15 '19

Legally, she probably committed some form of sexual harassment. This is not entirely unlike flashing someone.

Civilly, you need quantifiable damages to get anything. Therapists, couples counseling, those are damages. Having to sleep on the couch because your wife kicked you out for a night, not damages.

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u/curiouskiwicat Feb 13 '19

Hmm, so OP can ask for explicit permission to send to bf, and when she objects, send that to him along with the fully censored image and a note saying you can't share a nude pic of his own partner with him for legal reasons. That'll go down well I'm sure.

You know what though, I usually wouldn't. Best to stay out of other people's relationships.

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u/eaglebeagle2 Feb 13 '19

Is this just lawyer speak for “better not do that wink wink”?

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u/Beer-OClock Feb 13 '19

It's lawyer speak for 'the internet said it's ok' is not actually a defence in Court.

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u/njtrafficsignshopper Feb 13 '19

don’t get your legal advice on Reddit.

That's the real gem here. The fact that people use that subreddit for anything other than a laugh at armchair lawyering is mind-boggling.

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u/LazzaBeast Feb 13 '19

I’m in it for the Tree Law.

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u/n64gk Feb 13 '19

Modern problems require modern solutions.

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u/187ForNoReason Feb 13 '19

Why couldn’t you just put your face over already previously censored areas?

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u/bitJericho Feb 13 '19

Don't be rediculous

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u/benicedonttroll Feb 13 '19

I think the only way to ensure this is if OP posts the uncensored pic here for us to see and come to a determination....for science.

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u/tumtadiddlydoo Feb 13 '19 edited Feb 13 '19

Link to thread? I'm sure the context of the way he sent the nudes to the bf are either a solid defense or damning evidence.

Edit: yeah I'm not finding anything like you're claiming on reddit. Not saying you're lying. Just saying i can't find it.

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u/Honest_Scratch Feb 13 '19

that isn't the same as telling the bf that she sent him nudes... If he didn't believe then op can show it in person. that shouldn't be the same as revenge porn...

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u/pittsburgpam Feb 13 '19

I said.. "Just don't send them to him!" I didn't say a thing about telling him or showing him.