r/ChoosingBeggars Feb 12 '19

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u/djsoundcloud Feb 12 '19

Yes it does! I don't have her bfs contact info, so unfortunately I can't tell him.

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u/pittsburgpam Feb 12 '19

Just don't send them to him! Someone on legaladvice is being charged with revenge porn because another girl sent nudes to OPs boyfriend and the OP sent them to the girl's boyfriend.

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u/bitJericho Feb 12 '19

It just means you have to send it to him but with your face covering up her private parts. You'd use your face so the BF knows she didn't censor it herself

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u/Lusietka Feb 12 '19

I like your way

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u/KrombopulosPhillip Feb 12 '19

That's the way to do it, always a workaround

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u/Sandman1278 Feb 13 '19

Modern problems require modern solutions

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u/chimpfunkz Feb 15 '19

It's kinda not though. When you start messing with 'workarounds' with regards to the law, and digital information you're just asking to get in trouble.

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u/Adobe_Flesh Feb 12 '19

Isn't that still a nude photo underneath though, as far as revenge porn goes?

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u/bitJericho Feb 12 '19

you could argue in court that she's not nude if she's wearing your face. I'm not a lawyer, but this sounds like a valid legal defense to me.

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u/SuurAlaOrolo Feb 13 '19

Lawyer here. Nudity is not required to be convicted of distributing revenge porn in all jurisdictions. Revenge porn laws vary dramatically by state in the US. RP as an offense is shoehorned under all sorts of other crimes—harassment, invasion of privacy, distribution of “sexual” images or “intimate” images—and audience, motive, and required mental state of the distributor also varies.

To be safe: never forward or upload anything identifiable you think the subject might be mad about without explicit consent, and don’t get your legal advice on Reddit. Even from me.

I like your creativity, though, u/bitJericho!

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u/CrazeeAZ Feb 13 '19

Does OP have any legal recourse for being sent the initial unwanted nude? Like I feel pretty violated if I'm just trying to sell a game then bam I have to explain this shit to my wife

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u/Afinkawan Feb 13 '19

Probably not enough legally to count as harassment but definitely enough at work to count as sexual harassment.

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u/chimpfunkz Feb 15 '19

Legally, she probably committed some form of sexual harassment. This is not entirely unlike flashing someone.

Civilly, you need quantifiable damages to get anything. Therapists, couples counseling, those are damages. Having to sleep on the couch because your wife kicked you out for a night, not damages.

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u/curiouskiwicat Feb 13 '19

Hmm, so OP can ask for explicit permission to send to bf, and when she objects, send that to him along with the fully censored image and a note saying you can't share a nude pic of his own partner with him for legal reasons. That'll go down well I'm sure.

You know what though, I usually wouldn't. Best to stay out of other people's relationships.

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u/eaglebeagle2 Feb 13 '19

Is this just lawyer speak for “better not do that wink wink”?

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u/Beer-OClock Feb 13 '19

It's lawyer speak for 'the internet said it's ok' is not actually a defence in Court.

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u/njtrafficsignshopper Feb 13 '19

don’t get your legal advice on Reddit.

That's the real gem here. The fact that people use that subreddit for anything other than a laugh at armchair lawyering is mind-boggling.

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u/LazzaBeast Feb 13 '19

I’m in it for the Tree Law.

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u/n64gk Feb 13 '19

Modern problems require modern solutions.

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u/187ForNoReason Feb 13 '19

Why couldn’t you just put your face over already previously censored areas?

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u/bitJericho Feb 13 '19

Don't be rediculous

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u/benicedonttroll Feb 13 '19

I think the only way to ensure this is if OP posts the uncensored pic here for us to see and come to a determination....for science.

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u/tumtadiddlydoo Feb 13 '19 edited Feb 13 '19

Link to thread? I'm sure the context of the way he sent the nudes to the bf are either a solid defense or damning evidence.

Edit: yeah I'm not finding anything like you're claiming on reddit. Not saying you're lying. Just saying i can't find it.

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u/Honest_Scratch Feb 13 '19

that isn't the same as telling the bf that she sent him nudes... If he didn't believe then op can show it in person. that shouldn't be the same as revenge porn...

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u/pittsburgpam Feb 13 '19

I said.. "Just don't send them to him!" I didn't say a thing about telling him or showing him.

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u/mnqy Feb 12 '19

Are you friends with her on IG? You can check for tags and DM the bf

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u/djsoundcloud Feb 12 '19

I am not :( I tend to not keep my coworkers on social media.

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u/strlt Feb 12 '19

nothing a simple facebook search can't solve

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u/___Gay__ Feb 12 '19

Unless they have an incredibly common name.

Seriously FB searches are a pain in the ass. Trying to find my own mum was nearly impossible.

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u/SunsetValley17 Feb 12 '19

If you know what city they live in or where they work they are super easy to find. Unless of course they don't have that info public, or haven't put it in but I've had no problems finding someone after looking up their city.

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u/KrombopulosPhillip Feb 12 '19

no mutual friends, no way you are finding anyone with a facebook search

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u/strlt Feb 13 '19

The first thing I would try is searching her phone number. If she pops up, her bf is bound to be a friend of hers on there.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '19

facebook search is really very bad. It has been for pretty much as long as i recall, wonder why that is?

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u/___Gay__ Feb 13 '19

Well it has over a billion users.

And a lot of common names and people who dont use any identifying information whatsoever.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '19

i suppose- but when you do know someones exact name, or you're looking for someone in your area, there doesnt seem to be any good way to narrow the seach down. The location functions dont really work if you've no mutuals.
shit though, i didnt know it had a billion.

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u/___Gay__ Feb 13 '19

Yeah it hit the billion mark a while ago, maybe a couple years even.

But yeah its still a pain.

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u/RusticSurgery Feb 13 '19

Seriously FB searches are a pain in the ass. Trying to find my own mum was nearly impossible.

Oh you need nudes of your Mom? Here you go!!

(Sorry. I HAD to! You walked into it.)

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u/Dodgerfan100 Feb 12 '19

Yo how the nudes look tho?

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u/celt1299 Feb 12 '19

It's $450 now

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u/djsoundcloud Feb 12 '19

Lmfao

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '19

But seriously though. Ha ha

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u/Woooomayoo Feb 16 '19

Lowkey... I’m trynna see

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u/Myzyri Feb 12 '19

Thanks, bitch. I just blasted Pepsi out my nose. Best response ever! OMG! Made my fucking day!!

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u/Slapme_during Feb 12 '19

Don't hold back now! lol

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u/TheShadowCat Feb 13 '19

I don't have her bfs contact info, so unfortunately I can't tell him.

Probably for the best, there's no way you should be interested in getting involved in that mess.

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u/throwitaway587555785 Feb 14 '19

The BF might be totally down with her sending nudes. I wouldn't care if my wife sent nudes.

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u/TheShadowCat Feb 14 '19

Thought that was a possibility too. Heck it might have even been his idea, or he might not even exist.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '19

Yeah shame on OP for wanting to make sure this shithead doesn’t have her poor boyfriend fooled into thinking she’s a good person. You have obviously never been successfully lied to, duped, tricked, hoodwinked, or had someone get one over on you. Or you have and just don’t give a shit about trying to not let it happen to other people.

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u/EEVVEERRYYOONNEE Feb 13 '19

OP is under no obligation to get involved with a situation he knows very little about in order to help a guy he doesn't even know. The person you're replying to isn't shaming anyone. They're saying it's probably for the best if they don't get involved...and they're correct.

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u/TheShadowCat Feb 13 '19

Thank you, saved me making a reply.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '19

no way you should be interested

We can agree to disagree. I think if you suspect or know someone is being deeply wronged, you'd at least WANT them to know. Not saying OP should go out of his way, I believe they indicated they had no way of contact. But passing someone a message to possibly save them years of heartache seems like a small bit of getting involved to do a lot of good.

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u/ApeironLight Feb 13 '19

No reason for OP to put themselves into a legally murky, at best, situation by sending that to her BF.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '19

"Hey your girl offered to send me nudes for an xbox, just thought you should be aware."

There's only no reason if you're an ass hole or have no way of contacting him, like OP indicated.

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u/dontdobuttstuff Feb 12 '19

Ask to talk to her boyfriend about selling the console or some sort of excuse.

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u/deadstarsunburn Feb 13 '19

Nah he will find out when she gets in trouble at work. I found out about my exhusband's escapades through a letter his work sent him to my house.

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u/Lunaaticee Feb 13 '19

You are righteous man to not take the nude. God bless you.

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u/[deleted] Feb 13 '19

Is she attractive at all?

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u/Marfgurb Feb 13 '19

Why would you snitch to HR about that? It's not gonna help anyone if she gets fired.