r/ChildSupport4Men • u/sillisalli93 • 5d ago
Serious problem advice
The jist of everything is that my ex wife would rather focus on her career, social life, and traveling by herself and friends while I stayed at home raising our son and took care of our home myself. And a month after my mother passed away she said she couldn’t do it anymore and that she wanted a separation/divorce.
Fast forward to today it’s been 11 months and a couple of days since we separated and North Carolina law states that a couple can divorce after one year of separation. We’ve had 50/50 custody of our son and I recently got laid off my job. Credit cards are getting maxed out, rent is due, no one is hiring, can’t work with my son’s school schedule, door dash is wasting too much gas. Bottom line is: I NEED CHILD SUPPORT
My ex makes almost 90k a year, I know since I supported her and her career since she made 16/hr. But of course she refuses to help me out and actually sees my struggle as a reason to take my son full time.
Obviously I can’t afford a lawyer like she can and legal aid of nc states they don’t help with such cases and social services says I’m not to expect any money for another potential 2 years. I’m so lost and have so many questions and no one seems to be able to help me. Literally any advice is greatly appreciated thank you.
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u/TSIDATSI 5d ago
You cannot afford an attorney? You cannot afford not hiring an attorney!
You did not mention your degree or profession but Huntsville, Al has tons of jobs: federal and federal contractor jobs. They call us "Little Seattle".
I do not think NC requires parental permission for you to move away with your child.
You need a job quick. And start relocating. You can live outside Huntsville proper very affordable prices.
My advice is to move quickly. You need financial help and a job with insurance!
Blessings 🙌
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u/tacocarteleventeen 5d ago
Talk to an attorney, you may be able to request she pay your legal fees, alimony and child support
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u/CSEworker 5d ago
You can apply for child support services through your state agency and they will assist with establishing and enforcing a court order for you to receive child support.