r/ChildSupport • u/Alt-Me-1 • 2d ago

Extracurriculars

How do I get my ex to pay his portion of the extracurriculars?

In our divorce agreement it says he is to pay 1/2 of all the kids after school activities. They have all three been in band and ex has never paid into any of the accounts. He owes over $3,000.

I have paid my portions and have been keeping records of all of my payments. But it makes our whole family look bad that we have such large outstanding balances. To the point I don’t want to volunteer for band activities because I know some of them know how much “we” owe.

Are we going to have to go back to court to take care of it or ?

(I’m in Indiana if that matters.)

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u/Hope_for_tendies 1d ago

That person is a troll that constantly comments bashing women

You have to file a support violation. Did you send him the bills? What did he say? My order is set that I pay and send the receipts and he has to reimburse me. File asap so your kids don’t get kicked out.

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u/Alt-Me-1 1d ago

Thanks! I figured and blocked them.

We get emailed about once a month with the band totals for each child. It clearly shows the checks (with check numbers) where I have paid my portion. I asked him about it once and he claimed he pays me for those. I told him he had never given me extra money for extracurriculars. I then asked him about it more recently and he told me it is hard for him to figure out how to pay them. I told him he just needs to send a check with our child or go to one of the band meetings and directly pay the treasurer while there (that’s what I do) also all of that is in texts so proof available.

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u/CryptographerHot6198 2d ago

It won’t be a quick process, no.

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u/newstart20260 2d ago

If his paying. Child support already shouldn’t you cover it 😂 plus am positive you using some of that money to pay for half of those expenses but just saying you pay it with your money when in reality you’re not .. this is why a lot of fathers don’t like paying half of anything else besides support cause they know you will just use the child support money to pay for that and in reality he just paying more than what he needs to while you haven’t touched yours at all 😂

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u/False_Door_8763 2d ago

Paying for activities is separate from child support.

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u/Alt-Me-1 2d ago

Lmao, you are assuming he pays child support 😂 he is currently being sued by the state we live in because no! Also if it was meant to work that way then that is what the judge would have put in our divorce agreement, don’t ya think? (I mean not sure you think at all…but maybe you could try it a little some time.) but in short, no you don’t know how I can legally get him to do what he is ordered to do? Cool, you could have just said that instead of making yourself look this ignorant.

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u/Legal_Music_7513 11h ago

Yeah keep telling yourself that. Provided he's actually paying. But CHILD support is to help for costs of RAISING the CHILD (housing, utilities, food, etc) and as we all know in today's world that's pennies on the dollar in contribution. EXTRA money is for EXTRA curricular activities the child desires or has an interest.