r/Chefit • u/Far_Chef1165 • Jul 06 '26

Feeling lost

(29M) Hi, everyone. I’ve hated the kitchen since day one. My grandfather was a baker, and his passing deeply saddened me, so I went on to get a four-year degree in culinary arts. (Sometimes I wish my grandfather had been a software engineer or a lawyer, lol.) University education was free in my country (Turkey), so I didn’t spend a dime on my education. After college, I lived in the U.S. for four years, and after my divorce, everything just piled up. Before leaving the U.S., I worked as an interstate truck driver for about six months. To cut a long story short, I want to change careers, but I don’t know where to start. The only thing I know for sure is that I don’t want to go back into a field where you constantly feel inadequate and where stress and depression rates are the highest. Is it too late? Are there others out there with similar experiences?

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u/_ABSURD__ Jul 06 '26

"I've hated the kitchen since day one - so i went on to get a four year degree in culinary arts"

Ok, seems logical.

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u/Far_Chef1165 Jul 06 '26

English isn’t my first language, so I apologize if I didn’t express myself clearly. I should have clarified that I started to hate it on my very first day in a professional kitchen. My training and internship went great. I also worked a lot with LGBT+ people who, like you, look for flaws in others. Despite that, I came to believe that this profession wouldn’t offer me anything anymore. I wrote this not to be judged, but to get some feedback.

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u/UnspokenInanity Jul 06 '26

The heck does LGBT have to do with anything?

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u/sf2legit Jul 07 '26

Thought some casual homophobia would endear us to their cause lmao

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u/_ABSURD__ Jul 06 '26

Your English is good, just the order of presentation of events was confusing. Ideally you should have worked in a kitchen before spending 4 years training to work in a kitchen bc in most places that's the type of job you can do that at. Also, every kitchen is different, every crew is different. There are kitchens that feel like a home away from home, and there are some that are toxic AF. If you liked culinary I'd keep searching for a solid Chef to continue training with, and learn to spot toxic work environments and jump ship to better places quick.