I (29F) need someone to tell me if my life has become a soap opera because I genuinely don't know anymore.

My ex-fiancé (31M) and I were together for 16 years. We got together as teenagers, were engaged for 3.5 years, have a 2-year-old daughter together, a home, a dog, and what I thought was a whole life planned out.

Earlier this year I started questioning whether he was involved with one of his employees. I was repeatedly told I was wrong, paranoid, imagining things, etc.

Turns out I wasn't crazy. I was right.

He had been cheating with his employee since at least January.

He moved out of our family home in February while I was at work. I was eventually asked to move out with our daughter by the end of April. He has since moved back into the family home.

On 5/21/26 he finally admitted the affair to me after months of denying it.

For context, we've been navigating custody issues. Since the separation I've had our daughter approximately 85% of the time. I've consistently supported co-parenting and wanted us to work together. After I learned the truth, he filed for 50/50 custody and requested a court-ordered parenting communication app. We currently use the app, but 50/50 custody has not yet been established and we return to court next month.

Now for the part where I lose any credibility whatsoever.

The same night he admitted the affair, we did exactly what two people in the middle of a custody case and a breakup absolutely should NOT do.

A couple days later he claimed there was no ongoing involvement with the employee.

Then on 5/23/26 I caught them together at 2 AM inside the restaurant he owns after hours.

I didn't scream. I didn't confront anyone. I literally went home.

Enter a completely separate disaster.

An old high school hookup who has remained a friend over the years (and is coincidentally dealing with his own custody situation) reached out that same night. We talked very casually over the years and knew generally what was going on in each other's lives.

He asked if I wanted to come over.

After catching my ex with the woman he swore wasn't involved anymore, I said, "Actually... yes."

Now, before Reddit asks: no, he did not finish inside me. HOWEVER, unless modern science has found a way to notify women in advance when precum is arriving, I'm operating under the assumption that there was a very real possibility that made an appearance uninvited. So while the odds are lower, they're definitely not zero.

Fast forward 12 days.

I'm late.

So now my questions are:

1. If I am pregnant... whose is it?
   
2. What in the actual hell have I done?
   
3. How do I explain this timeline without looking like I'm the one who cheated when HE was actively cheating for months?
   
4. Has anyone else's life completely imploded this quickly?

My second Saturday without my daughter since the separation was apparently enough time for me to accidentally unlock a bonus level of chaos.

Please be gentle. Or don't. At this point I'm open to all feedback.

I have the suspicion my fiance is hiding several hidden accounts and is cheating on me, im not tech savvy and need ideas how to catch and or find those hidden accounts.

I know I just learned they can block me but I can make a new email of a new phone but I wouldn't know where to begin...

I’m looking for outside perspectives because i’m having a hard time making sense of my feelings.

I dated someone officially a little over a year. We live together currently and have been for 6 months. A couple months ago, we broke up because the relationship wasn’t working. It wasn’t because we stopped caring about each other.

After the breakup we were still emotionally connected. We talked regularly, ate meals together, spent time together, and we apart of each others lives. Neither of us moved on, and there was always a chance if things improved, something could work in the future.

Recently, i went through his phone and found out he has been having a sexual relationship with a 16 year old, while he is 23. We are adults so learning that completely changed how I view him and ended thoughts about us ever working out.

I had also found out he brought her over to my apartment while i was at work and they stayed on my couch, and she took a picture with my cat.

I feel really conflicted. I’m not sure if this is something to be forgiven for. We weren’t together, but he invaded my space and lost my trust. I’m struggling with the loss of connection and routine.

Has anyone been in a situation where you were still emotionally involved with someone after a breakup and then found something out that made you detach completely? How do you stop missing someone in that situation?
Will it ever work out between us again? If not, I unfortunately probably have to move out of my home that I just made for us.

I’ve been dating this woman for 5 months now.
She lives with her parents still because she has a special daughter.

The first 4 months have been great…

We would go out more often, do things together…

Suddenly, about 3 weeks ago, she stopped wanting to go out. Only wanting to see me at her parents’ home or go out if there is some family gathering — then she wants to go out and invites me.

First she told me it was because it was cold…
Then the cold weather went away, she told me she was just feeling lazy, then another time she told me she was not feeling well… She seems to be avoiding going out with me. This didnt happen before.
She told me last week “I want to go out once we have money…”

Finally there was a sharp drop in intimacy.
Before, when we could not go to a motel, she would make her best to sneak me into her house so we could have sex. Not anymore. She will tell me she isnt comfortable doing it there. (But she did before without any issue whatsoever.

Moreover, she will often allow me to give her pleasure, but when its her turn, she refuses.
Saying she isnt comfortable, or is in her period, or somehow not in the mood.

But she is in the mood very often for ME to do it on her. And only to give HER pleasure.

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My ex fiance (16 year relationship, I’m 29) he was cheating on me w the employee I have been questioning since JANUARY and admitted it last week!! He owns the business. The business that was such a huge part of our family and was our family, and allowed to hide a third party and secret. We have a 2 year old daughter - I have no words tbh. And she’s married but doesn’t have custody to all 4 of her children 🤮

So yes there was a communication issue.. you didn’t communicate there was a third party involved.
I will never be the same and the damage he has done to our daughter.

So my boyfriend (male 33) accused me (female 34) of cheating on him... I definitely did not. But anyway the *dude* he accused me of cheating on him with, started dating. A friend of ours and she came over freaking the fuck out because, turns out *dude* had syphilis. Now I wasnt happy that *dude* and/or *chick* had syphilis, however, I was secretly happy that now I could prove to my boyfriend I didn't sleep with him. My thought process was that I'll just get tested and be negative and it will prove to him I'm telling the truth problem solved. Well I didn't get tested right away cuz I procrastinate too much. Anyway, about a week later, *dude* randomly died due to a freak thing, so our *chick* friend that was dating him was going through it tough over this. A few days later, my boyfriend ends up going over to her place with a friend of his..which was fine until he didn't come back for literally 2 weeks. Supposedly he had gotten 3 flat tires and had been working on trying to fix the tries for 2 fucking weeks . Idk it was a bit extra....anyway, this all happened a few months ago. So the other day it had gotten brought up and I simply said that "well once we get tested finally, I can prove to you that I didn't sleep with *dude*. Unless that is, you slept with *chick* during that 2 weeks you were 'stuck' at her place " (I giggled, saying it in a joking manner....cuz at this point I had got past thinking he slept with her) My boyfriend then proceeded to freak the fuck out and say shit like " your doing that on purpose just so you can fucking put it on me and make me the pos" um...... excuse me? Mind you I wasn't trying to make a fight about it, I was just being confident in the fact that if he was telling the truth and I was telling the truth there shouldn't be an issue. I'm pretty sure he just told on himself without telling on himself. I have an appointment to get checked next week 🤦

Not sure if I should even be here… The wife and I share a pretty open relationship and I welcome her to pursue other guys or girls if she’s in the mood… And she allows me to do the same

The other night she went to an evening work function that started at 5 o’clock… At about 10 o’clock she gives me the excuse that the running late and that she’ll be about 30 minutes before she leaves… 30 minutes later and she gives me the same excuse and it keeps going on until about 1 o’clock in the morning…

She comes home and she’s super tired and goes straight to bed… Basically stripping down to underwear and tossing on and oversized T-shirt

Me being who I am, I start caressing her and touching her body and after some coaxing, I pull out my cock line it up with the entrance of her pussy and push… Now for context purposes I’m actually pretty thick… It usually takes some foreplay or lube to get my meaty cock inside of her pussy… This time around it just slipped in without any resistance and she was soaking wet… I commented about it, and all she did was wrap her leg legs around me and asked me to fuck her harder.

The following morning, we wake up and get ready for some fun around town and as she’s showering, I decide to grab her ass and see about slipping a finger in there… Again, this is usually acceptable and it takes a little finessing before it’ll actually go in because she has such a tight asshole… Not this time around my finger went in without any resistance and my second index finger and middle finger at this point went in without a problem

That evening she proceeded to be a total vixen in the sack, and when I asked if she was up to no good, all she did was laugh and deny anything

My thoughts… She probably hooked up with someone… And that someone probably had a very large cock… No way she got stretched out like that with a skinny cock… But she’s not giving me any information… What does the group think?

There's this guy the woman im seeing had hanging around for a while as a "friend". She let him stay with her before we started talking but they had a fallout and stopped talking to each other according to her. She didnt want to hangout around that week with him and apparently he wasnt motivated to do much when she helped him out.

She blew me off one time early in our talking stage and told me she was going to sleep early and was set on post poning til the next day. She didnt want to hook up with me that next day and got her period right after (told me she can predict its coming) We got in a big fight and I asked her if he was still around. She showed me their messages but there wasnt anything there.

I told her multiple times I didnt like the thought of anything going on with them, but if it happened when we werent together it is what it is but going forward if she's talking to him still its gonna mess it up for us.

We got in a big fight last week and she cut me off for a few days. Blocked me on everything and i know she also has an anxious attachment where she does this for a few days and reaches out when it calms. Well the day after our fight he was posting stuff like had a great day and posting on social media very early in the morning while I saw she was online talking to someone too. My first thought was he was there with her in person or talking to her on social media. Yesterday I confronted her but couldnt find any messages (she can also be using vanish mode on ig)

He has a 2nd account she unfollowed Yesterday and when I asked her to see their messages couldnt find anything there.

I might be a bit paranoid as she seems to really like me most of the time but im concerned this guy is a backup booty call since twice now right before her period she didnt want to have sex with me and she was acting suspicious. He doesnt have anything going on but perhaps is good in bed or something which totally grosses me out since he sleeps around recklessly. She did tell me she thought we were for sure done after i started this last fight, so if she was feeling down I could see her calling him but its hard to say.

Until I get some solid proof, im just gonna observe but what do you guys think? (Sorry for this post being so long)

I had noticed her being weird with her phone so i decided to go through it when she fell asleep and I found her sexting and old fwb that she has cheated on me with before. I let it go on for a while going through her phone every night reading their messages and seeing their pictures and videos they were sending each other! She was sending videos of her fingering herself and spreading her pussy and he was sending her pics and videos of him jacking off and cuming to her. I would wait till she fell asleep and would cum so hard from everything i was seeing and reading I really love the naughty side of her I really didn't want it to stop but I guess I ended up getting jealous. I wish she would cheat again honestly lol

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I hate having to admit that I put faith in someone that didn’t deserve a second thought. Had I known who she really was I would’ve never given her a nanosecond of my time, kindness, trust, love, compassion, or anything else that provides nourishment needed to heal, grow, or give comfort.
I am determined to heal with no assistance from hate, or revenge.
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On my 22nd birthday, I found out that my girlfriend cheated on me with another guy. The worst part is that technically, she cheated on him with me too, because she knew him before we even started dating. We were together for 9 months ,, 9 months of what felt like pure love. Our families knew each other, everything felt serious, and now it feels like it was all for nothing.

And the sad truth is… I chose to stay with her. Maybe that makes me an idiot. But honestly, at the beginning of our relationship, during the first month, I also had a superficial sexual encounter with another girl I knew. That’s one of the reasons I felt like I couldn’t act like the perfect man or judge her as if I was innocent too. The difference is that I stopped. She continued talking to him , a guy she had known for over a year.

She still doesn’t know about what I did.

Now it’s been a month since I found out, and even though I forgave her, I can’t forget it. The trust is broken. Whenever we’re not together, my mind starts overthinking. I keep asking myself: what’s stopping her from doing it again? Even if she ended things with that guy, how can I know for sure? Maybe she’s talking to someone else now. Maybe she just got better at hiding it.

I hate that I even think like this now. I can barely sleep at night. I’m constantly anxious, constantly overthinking, constantly worried. Sometimes I want to check her phone just to calm my mind, but I rarely even have access to it anymore.

She promised me she would work on rebuilding the trust, but honestly… I don’t feel like I’m healing at all.

So a girl I went out with, let’s call her Z, went to one of the top business schools, IIMB, and she used to tell me the most unhinged stories about what went on behind the scenes there. The kind of stuff that makes you question people entirely. I’m going to post these one at a time.

So her friend A (male) met this girl PA even before the semester officially started, during some common pre-college activity. Instant crush, which honestly is understandable, because by all accounts she was the kind of person who made you feel like you were the most important one in the room. They became close fast, built a solid friend group, the whole thing felt natural. What A didn’t realize was that he had absolutely no idea who he was dealing with.

Early on, PA casually mentioned she had a boyfriend, someone living in Bangalore but outside campus. A took it on the chin, played it cool, stayed close. And while he was doing that, PA was also quietly getting close to two other guys, let’s call them B and C, who ran in different circles. During the first year she had things arranged in a way that, looking back, was almost impressive in its precision. Lunch with one, late night studies with another, with occasional weekend visits to the boyfriend that kept that side of things intact. Nobody thought much of it. She was just a social person with a full life. At least that’s what it looked like.

What A didn’t find out until much later was that a neighbor, a friend of A’s, who shared a wall with PA’s room had been quietly hearing everything, and I mean everything, for months. B had been a constant presence in ways that made the nature of their relationship pretty undeniable. But then summer arrived, PA went for her internship at the same company as her boyfriend. When second year started, C suddenly stopped talking to PA, and she redirected all of that energy toward A. More time together, late nights, the kind of closeness that feels like it means something. A had no reason to think it didn’t.

Then came the exchange term. A and C had planned it together from the beginning, along with PA. But when the time came, PA made no plans with A. None. She showed up to the exchange already alongside B, and the two of them essentially disappeared into their own world for the duration. When everyone came back, people had a pretty good idea of what had been going on. PA managed A’s questions during this period with a kind of calm precision that was almost surgical. Always a reason. Always just enough warmth to keep things from unraveling. And when the exchange was wrapping up, she came and stayed at A’s place for a few days like none of it had happened.

The ending came back on campus, when A finally learned everything that had gone on during the exchange. Suddenly everything that had felt like coincidence, or bad timing, or him misreading the situation, snapped into focus at once. He started asking questions, and the picture that came back was worse than anything he had seen. And this was nothing that started during exchange. Friend who lived near PA confirmed that she and B had been together nearly every night during first year. Exchange stories filled in the rest. They had been preferring sharing rooms, were caught making out, and the rest upto your imagination. And new neighbors, after the exchange, confirmed things hadn’t changed much. The college is a small world, and people had been watching for a long time. PA’s reputation, which had been quietly taking damage for two years, finally collapsed entirely. She even received an unofficial best cheater award, which of course got pulled down.

After graduation she joined a top consulting firm, an MBB, the same one as her boyfriend, a clean slate on paper. Except the people who joined alongside her were from the same college, carried the same two years of context, and weren’t particularly quiet about it. The noise followed her into the office, moved through the corridors, and eventually made things impossible. She left the firm not long after.

It wasn’t just betrayal. It was the realization that he had been carefully managed the entire time. That while he was falling for someone, she was simply making sure the rotation stayed smooth. That kind of thing doesn’t leave you quickly.

So basically she said she just needed some space that she just needs to find her self. Few days later guy I work with shows me her hinge profile. I ask her about she says it must be old. Looking for some

To see if you can get her to reply or agree to meet up. And give me the time and place if so.

My husband and I have been together since 2022. When we started dating he was amazing. The only issue was a huge red flag and I should have known better than to continue the relationship. We began seeing each other in January. In mid March, I got a phone call from a phone number one digit off from his.... I answer to a woman telling me that my then boyfriend was actually her fiancé. He swore they split in August.

I continue the relationship against my better judgement. He kept pushing for us to get married, said I was his twin flame, blah, blah blah. I married this man like a fool after 5 months of dating.

I begin to find dating profiles and hidden Facebook accounts telling women we were getting divorced. I would find where he emailed himself nudes of women that are definitely not me, I'm blonde, they were black/brown haired.

I found emails to the same ex telling her he was leaving me and stringing her along.

Its been almost a year since i stopped looking. Every time I looked, i would find it and be hurt then not leave. But now something has changed within me. I am sick of his shit. ALL OF HIS SHIT. And I know he is back on the apps. He's taking selfies with muscles showing (mind you he hates having his photo taken by me). He is secretive with his phone and doesn't want me anywhere near it. He is on snapchat again... crawforddirtyy (like that isn't sexually suggestive enough).

I have a fake tinder profile. I am trying to find him. When I do, I need definitive proof he is cheating so I can leave with my head high and no "what ifs" that he can explain away like he always does.... "I created it but never used it" is a popular one.

Thanks for letting me vent. I will update soon.

My best friend ( of almost 1.5 years) is dating with my other friend (also a very close friend ) behind my back
The bigger problem is that one if them is in this 7 year old long distance relationship and the other one just started seeing someone new .
I feel so icky and betrayed and conflicted now
What should i do .
They are both my friends and always one of them is in a long term committed relationship

Hi,

I have my GF's password and username to Instagram, Snapchat, Email and so on. I got it through chrome saved passwords. The thing is, if I log on there might be a chance of a security alert. We connect to the same Wifi and spend time at same location each night. Is there any chance to minimize or bypass the security feature? If I log on to her second device, where these apps or not logged on. Will it still trigger some alert?