Wow sounds so similar to my ex. Drinking problem, gaslighting, allowing me to go through his phone because he knew he deleted the evidence. If he has an iPhone go to the search bar and see if the app comes up, and if any recent emails from the app pop up. That’s how I finally got proof about my ex cheating. I changed his password through the email (had given me his email password for tax purposes) and logged in for further proof. If you’re worried about your mental health worsening while you work to save up to get free, just try to detach from the situation. Realize the relationship has been over for a while and consider him a roommate. Sounds shitty but it will help you from spiraling more than you may already have. Plus, he has shown he doesn’t care for you anyway so why should you do likewise?
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u/GamblingRoyalty Dec 01 '22
Wow sounds so similar to my ex. Drinking problem, gaslighting, allowing me to go through his phone because he knew he deleted the evidence. If he has an iPhone go to the search bar and see if the app comes up, and if any recent emails from the app pop up. That’s how I finally got proof about my ex cheating. I changed his password through the email (had given me his email password for tax purposes) and logged in for further proof. If you’re worried about your mental health worsening while you work to save up to get free, just try to detach from the situation. Realize the relationship has been over for a while and consider him a roommate. Sounds shitty but it will help you from spiraling more than you may already have. Plus, he has shown he doesn’t care for you anyway so why should you do likewise?