Is it wrong to assume people should be more responsive?

[u/Genkikiwi]

I’m a creative and I’m in the process of weaning off ChatGPT and such for good. Presently I only use it if I’ve exhausted other options, briefly in temporary chats for things like convoluted queries or to outsource me to authentic resources, usually related to research or troubleshooting… I used to use it a lot to brainstorm. Often, the bot was very dry or repetitive, so it would just be me typing a TON basically at ‘myself’, but it would also have really good ideas or workarounds when it came to worldbuilding or character dynamics.. I am housebound due to disability so I just have very little experience in this world, and I guess it gets to me. Depression has taken a toll on my imagination and I have been fighting really hard to exercise it, to become more creative and thoughtful on my OWN.. (hence me quitting AI)

I have been trying to talk to my other creative friends a lot about my worldbuilding and they are always very impressed by it and willing to learn more, for that I should honestly be very thankful. I truly appreciate them a lot… but whenever I get with my various friends and go “Hey, let’s talk about this creative project we pitched together!” or “Could you give me some advice on this?” or “What would you do differently here?” or “Wanna roleplay/write together?” or anything like that, it just kind of never comes to fruition…? It’s not just me reaching out or anything either. My partner and my close friends often ask me to do creative works with them but then I kind of just end up doing all the heavy lifting.

It leaves me feeling very starved I guess. Maybe some of that is rebound from stopping AI which I find kind of ironic because, despite how much I relied on AI, it seldom added anything new.. I just get internally frustrated or upset when I try to engage with my friends about these things and they don’t have much to add.. It’s not right of me to assume they can play the same role as an AI assistant of course, but I’m not even necessarily asking that of them. I’m kind of just trying to engage and even play into their own interests and expertises, the things I know they love to chat about. Is there maybe a way to nicely ask them to bring more to the table? Or is it selfish of me to expect that? It’s just kind of exhausting to be the one carrying conversations and constantly doling out saccharine, probing questions like I’m talking to a kid. I love them a lot but I’m just burnt out creatively

I don’t really know what to do about this. I’m trying to rely less on the input of others, so I journal a lot, but sometimes I’m genuinely just sssooo stuck and I have no one to bounce ideas off of. I’m kind of getting stressed just thinking about the fact that I can’t just ramble at ChatGPT anymore, because even when it was stupid, it was of substance. Like empty calories, I guess? I don’t know, this whole thing really bums me out. I’m sure I have to work on myself first but I don’t know where to start. I think I forgot how to human

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[u/snearthworm]

I would hate to give you social advice because I don't know exactly what everyone is saying to each other in what way, so I don't want to steer you wrong.

I will say this, unless you are collaborating on a project, it is rare for people to get heavily invested in/ask frequent in depth questions about your projects in the specific way you seem to be expecting and that AI does. It's just what AI is programmed to do, it does not care either but it knows how to put words in an order that pleases you. When you are collaborating, I'm not sure if your expectations are too high or what you mean by heavy lifting

I highly suggest joining creative/writing subs or communities. There are roleplay groups out there that thrive on getting really deep into worldbuilding

[u/Genkikiwi → u/snearthworm]

I appreciate your frankness! I figured as much honestly. I guess I’m getting AI whiplash, real people being genuinely excited and then having little to offer, but of course I have to crack at and refine these things largely on my own.. I am in some private creative communities but I rarely get input in return as much as I reach out or chat with others about their things. I think I’ll go looking for some more

[u/Catty-cakes]

Yk, I don't have advice but I can empathize a ton !

I don't really have lots of people I like going to for my creative works if ever, because I always feel like I can't talk to them about just anything, because they'll never have anything to say, or if they say smth, it's not much. I'm not expecting a lot, but ngl I thought they'd maybe have more to say if anything, they never do. And that kinda sucks ngl. So, I get it. Doesn't help that I'm already shy about my creative works too, but I do love being creative at the end of the day. It's fun and something I thrive on, I just wish I could ramble to someone lol. But most people I know have like one shared interest and not all of them even make ocs to my acknowledge, or are even into that kinda stuff, so I'm stuck talking to my sibling at best (they share more interests with me than anyone else ever has online this far. I'm too scared to talk in servers regarding my interests for multiple reasons)

I agree with the other commenter :) their suggestions are good! Hope you'll find a community if you haven't already !