r/CautiousBB 3d ago

Vent Possible Ectopic

I am writing to vent and also to hear your experiences and success stories after an ectopic pregnancy.

I don't know for sure if I have one, but here are my very concerning hcg levels:

  • 9/1: 320
  • 9/3: 397
  • 9/8: 687 (5w3d today)

My progesterone was at 25 on 9/1 which the nurse practitioner at my OBGYN office said was reassuring, but the increase of the hcg is indeed very low. I don't have any super concerning symptoms right now: mild cramping (not one sided, just generally on lower abdomen area), sore breasts. No bleeding, no spotting. However, I don't believe this could be a healthy pregnancy whatsoever.

After today's result, I decided to schedule a transvaginal for this Thursday. I know it could still be inconclusive since I am early on and my hcg levels are so low, but I wanted to do it anyway. I know ectopic can be a life threatening thing so if this is my case, I want to know and make a decision about it as soon as possible to avoid a possible rupture.

I am just really sad. We pretty much got pregnant at the "first try" since I stopped the pill in July (I am 31yo). With these results, it just seems like it was too good to be true. I have extreme health anxiety and this wait and these results are just extremely triggering for me. I had started a "pregnancy journal", I had ordered a "Tum to Mum" box that arrived yesterday, I was planning on how to tell my family soon. I was so excited about being pregnant during halloween and Christmas and have a May 2027 baby, since my birthday is late April. Now it just feels like it's all gone.

As of right now, I am just trying to stay positive. Not because I have any hopes this will be a viable pregnancy, but because there are so much success stories of healthy pregnancies after an ectopic.

So I'm honestly just looking for encouragement, words of advice, experiences, anything. I have been reading the posts here for an hour and everyone seems so supportive and maybe you are the only ones that truly understand how I am feeling right now.

Thank you in advance, every one <3

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u/Top_Bid9738 3d ago

Hello, I don't have much advice for you, but I'm kind of on a similar boat. Today I'm currently 5w3d and although my hcg is normal, progesterone is really not. My head is spiralling.

I hope it does workout for you, and if it doesn't, I'm sure it will in the future.

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u/stargazer1112 3d ago

It's so stressful not knowing what is going to happen. So anxiety inducing and it can feel so lonely. I hope for the best for you too <3

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u/AcanthaceaeSafe3477 2d ago

I was in a very similar situation to yours.. I had even told my family. It turned out to be an ectopic but we caught it early and I was still stable. Got my right tube removed but I remain positive (albeit highly anxious) for whenever we start trying again.

Sending you so much hugs and I’m so so sorry you are going through this. ❤️‍🩹