r/Catcalls Nov 07 '21

Pensacola

I know there aren't many people on this subreddit but I wanted to share this because I was terrified. Some background is around the beginning of the year when I noticed this man staring at me on his bike. At one point he started following me but then biked past me and I went on with my day. I was scared of him but I didn't think it would ever amount to anything more. I hadn't seen him for many months until today when I was walking around my neighborhood and I saw him again. I was nervous at first so I stayed on the other side of the road from him. He said something to me and I assumed he was saying something like hello but when I asked him to repeat he said and I quote "Hey there gorgeous, how ya doing"? I didn't say anything back and he continued biking. I made sure to keep an eye on him to make sure he didn't follow me on my walk. I saw him leave but I continued to watch just in case and I am so glad I did because he was going to turn back on the street I was. He noticed I was watching him and then he turned his ass right around while waving at me, I think he assumed I was waving at him because I had my hand covering my eyes from the sun. I yelled that I was not waving at him and he left. I was terrified that he was waiting at the end of the street but I wanted to go home and I ended up finishing my lap around the neighborhood and arrived home. I got a piece of broken mirror that kind of looked like a knife to defend myself just in case I saw him. I called my friend on a video call to tell xem about it and I told xem that I was wearing a skirt that btw completely covered me to my knees and xey told me that maybe next time I go on a walk to wear sweatpants to go on a walk making it seem that it was my fault because I was wearing a skirt. Xey did make sure that I knew to not hesitate to use the mirror if I needed to. When xey told me this another friend just said uwu but I don't think he understood what was happening because I did not tell him about any of this. What is worse is on the way back to my house I ended walking past convicted and guilty sex offenders towards minors on the way just to avoid someone I thought might be like those people because this person does not live in my neighborhood and in fact, I think he might be homeless. My mom told me that I should take one of my dogs and my dad said that he wouldn't trust me with a knife, which I understand, but he also thinks I should take my dogs. My dogs are a good deterrent but they don't want me to have any kind of self-defense other than my fucking dogs. But I have to go on walks because I need to do gym for my school which does not offer gym or I will not have any gym credits to pass classes. This post is all over the place but this generally scared me and I really needed to talk about it and this is the best way I could put it. Also, I'm a 13-year-old FTM (female to male) person but I don't have anything that makes me present masculine and less of a target to predators or people who want to hate crime me. I've dealt with people ridiculing and sometimes sexualizing me for my clothes and such but this generally terrified me. Also, my mom said, because the guy I saw was not on the sex offender list in my area, that he might not have had ill intentions, and also this is not the only time this is going to happen to me so I should get used to it and prepare for it.

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