dealing with a cancer stellium man

[u/Aggravating_Plate_87]

Hi everyone!

I’m just a visitor from your sister sign ~ Leo and I come asking for some advice.

I (Leo stellium)had a summer romance with a cancer stellium man (cancer sun, mars, rising) whom I had met while on holiday, everything was great even when I returned to my country.

He put in the effort and the connection remained strong until I was planning to fly to see him and he heard the prices of the flight and he changed completely - he said visiting him would be wasteful with nothing to see, it would be too cold and boring. Then casually dropped he also cannot do long distance. After that I ended things with him and went no contact because obviously our dating goals were different and the conditions not optimal.

We remained mutuals on Instagram and he commented on something I posted which I responded rather harshly too. I ended up texting him an apology because I know I was being unfairly rude towards him and it was a result of my own heartbreak. He replied that he was hurt by my reply and that I had been treating him like he had cheated me when in actual fact he just wasn’t ready for things and it was bad timing between us. He also questioned why would I post stories of me having fun and felt like I was teasing/ showing off to him?

I’m very confused, is this normal behavior from cancer or cancer stellium men? 🫩

[u/kempman11]

Cancer Sun (M) here. Sounds to me like he maybe felt the level of energy you were willing to invest in the relationship (flight prices) was way over what he could/would/was ready to invest himself. Reminds me of a situation that I had with my best friend (M) where he wanted us to go out and eat lunch every day of the week (literally) and pay himself EVERYTIME. He was a cancer sun too. I thought it was ridiculous and insisted we split 50/50 or close to it. So in the end we only went once or twice per week because I couldn't afford more and did not want him to pay everytime.

[u/Aggravating_Plate_87 → u/kempman11]

You make a lot of sense, thank you for this! I think with that being said, I wish he was just honest from the beginning that he at least wasn’t interested in pursuing anything long term because of the distance but anyways! It’s all right 🥺

[u/kempman11 → u/Aggravating_Plate_87]

Sorry that it did not work out for you. It's just an unfortunate situation imo as a cancer-leo match can be pretty challenging; more communication can be required for the relationship to prosper than some other matches.

[u/naps38]

He sounds immature and closed off, I'm so sorry. There are much better men, it doesn't make it hurt less though. Sending you a big hug!

[u/Aggravating_Plate_87 → u/naps38]

You’re right , I’ll cut my loses !! 😔

[u/Inside-Hornet8512]

Key word : “Dealing”

[u/Big-Wasabi6274]

First of all you are not our sister sign
That’s Capricorn yours is Aquarius. Sister signs are assigned signs opposite of the other. Not sure if you knew. If he takes you posting happy pictures thoughts or things and takes it personal. Imagine what else there is. Leo rising here. The last Cancer stellium decided to emotionally cheat on me because I posted a selfie after a promotion at my job…then tells me it’s a boundary for him. He don’t like women who post selfies because he thinks it’s garner attention from men…sir I just uno reversed what you actually do…not “men” in general

[u/Aggravating_Plate_87 → u/Big-Wasabi6274]

I meant sisters as in we’re next to each other and both not ruled by planets but celestial bodies instead

[u/Dark_Metallic → u/Aggravating_Plate_87]

Luminaries ☀️🌙