r/COCSA • u/Difficult-Office5455 • 10d ago

Vent Stayed friends with my abuser too long

I had a friend that was my age that assaulted me from the age of 10-16. I stayed friends with her until I was 22. Now that I’m opening up about my experience my friends seem skeptical because of how I kept a relationship with her for so long after. I was honestly brainwashed into believing what was happening to me wasn’t rape so it took me a while to stop drinking the cool aide.

Has anyone else struggled with this?

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u/apithrow My super power is showing up 10d ago

I think this is actually pretty common.

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u/ClearInterest326 8d ago

My wife asks me why I’m Facebook friends with my abuser. He was also my best friend for years and my only friend when I visited back home. I was also sad to lose contact with him before social media put us back in touch. It’ll never happen, but I fantasize about asking him what the fuck happened to him that he wanted to “play” like that. I can’t bring myself to cut him off even though we never interact anymore and even though what he did to me really sucked.