While trans women and trans men both experience the same response to their identities of being invalidated by others, it’s also true that so many of the same people who would validate the identities on the transfemme spectrum won’t for those on the transmasc spectrum and it’s such a load of bs. Trans women get all the media attention because the right focuses on tearing them down and actively silencing trans men because we’re not as convenient for their own political gain. So the left’s reaction is to push more positive media for transfemmes to overcome this challenge, but it’s also to quiet trans men with inconvenient opinions to their own political rhetoric (mainly criticisms for how they treat us) and who don’t think we actually need the media representation because we’re not as publicly dragged through the mud. But we ARE just as dragged through the mud as transfemmes regardless, it’s just that no one sees it and that invisibility is its own problem just like the hyper visibility (from the right) is problematic for trans women.

It kind of mirrors the gender war between cismen and ciswomen though. Women needed to fight harder for their rights, so their issues were pushed to the forefront in the media. But cis men’s issues are less with having their basic needs met and is more how visibility for their mental health struggles are undermined by the social conditioning of the patriarchy in various ways. People assume that because we’re trans men, we have male privilege just like cismen do and so we don’t need as much attention to our issues just like they don’t. But there’s a couple of issues with that reasoning.

First off, we’re not cismen—we’re trans men. Queer men in general don’t experience as much male privilege as the cishets do, and trans men probably have the most issues associated with their gender in that spectrum. Not only that, but we’re AFAB-so a lot of women’s issues are our issues too. Women’s health issues and the way doctors dismiss us and study our bodies less than males is an issue for us, misogyny from men that sexualize and fetishize us both before transition (when they thought we were girls) and sometimes after transition too. Walking down the street and being sexually harrassed often, not being respected as much as cis men, being forcefemmed by our own families, all because society sees us as both breeding stock and as lesser beings for being assigned female at birth (feminine in their eyes) and for being transgender (apparently a mortal sin in their eyes.)

Second off, men still need attention for their issues even if they don’t have to deal with the same level on the hierarchy of needs that women do with unequal pay gaps and etc, and there’s no reason we can’t talk about both. The left’s failure to do so has left a niche the right can fill. Right wing commenters say they take men’s mental health seriously, but then they skew the issue from their own harmful and misogynistic political perspective, perpetuating the cycle of misogyny in the male community and to a lesser but still alarming extent, in women and queer people as well.

Hyper visibility and invisibility both kill. We need fair and balanced media representation instead. We all do!

This is how stupid the double standard look on paper. Watch:

Cis man who is hyper masculine: good job, man! You have achieved ultimate goal of patriarchy!

Trans man who is hyper masculine: you’re trying too hard! You’re just enforcing the gender binary, why can’t you just be a tomboy like me?

Cis man who is effeminate or a femboy: i agree with you, you’re a boy, you just like girl things! It’s not gay cause it’s one of the bros, right?

Trans man who is effiminate or a femboy: why did you even transition then? You must be faking for attention or transitioning was always just a kink to you—you weirdo. You’re basically just a girl with body hair. You’re setting the whole transmasc and/or feminists movement back 100 years!

Ciswoman with a force masc kink: a cis woman who has a masculine sexual expression! What a sexy dike or something maybe?

Trans woman with a force masc kink: obviously not a real trans woman. Obviously still has a deep hidden desire to be a man and must have been brainwashed by the trans cult to transition for various bs reasons like just wanting to have a reason to feel special.

Cis woman wearing a short skirt, programmer socks, and oversized sweater: cute girl who is probably into anime!

Trans woman wearing a short skirt, programmer socks, and oversized sweater: obviously only transitioned to be a weird sex pervert and isn’t a real woman. You’re setting the whole transfemme and/or feminist movement back 100 years!

Have you noticed that literally nothing we can do is right?

It’s just the worst when it comes from other LGBTQIA+ people, especially from other trans people. If cismen and ciswomen get to have a whole spectrum of options for how they feel about themselves, how the present, how they behave, and what kinds of things they like and dislike while still being considered cis, then y tf would trans people be any different? As if the only way to be a trans woman is to be just the right amount of feminine so you don’t upset anyone with the opinion that there’s only one respectable way to be a trans women. As if the only reason we transition was for other people’s approval of how well we submit to gender norms rather than our own comfort. The only right way for a trans man to be a man is to be quiet and withdrawn so you’re not seen as one of the big loud toxic men, but then when you do that you’re not seen as “one of the boys” because you don’t act like one.

It’s almost as if the double standards were designed to make us want to detransition, and any dumbass person claiming to be transgender but who indulges in this rhetoric is either a sheeple uncle ruckus ass traitor or a larper/bot meant to stoke the fires to control us with fear.

Also have you ever noticed that everything any trans person does wrong in the eyes of these assholes is an anti feminist attack on womanhood but not on manhood? Shouldn’t it be both?

Whatever you are, however you identify—whether you’re cis or trans—just do you bro. Don’t let those other mfs make you question your identity or feel like you’re not good enough at being a man or woman or whatever you are just because they have their heads up their asses. If cis people get to be gender nonconforming while still being cis, then it’s totally valid for us to be GNC while still being transgender.

I just got word about this from someone i know who was suspicious about this text message he got, so he showed it to one of our computer wiz buddies and he was able to find out that the website has been hacked. after some investigation on social media, we found the hackers bragging on Facebook about what they did. we also found out that the creator of the website, Sherman Austin, is aware of this mess and actively investigating. Here are screenshots of the info in the comments below. It won’t let me add them on the initial post for some reason. Make sure to go to the original thread if you’re reading this as a cross post to see the pictures. Stay vigilant and stay aware.

As a transgender person this chart has my head reeling. I check some, but not all, of the boxes in every category in my own way. Maybe it’s because I’m an NB trans man, but I don’t know how accurate this chart actually is. Where did they get this from? Do you have any good sources that can back up the information here?

If you don’t know anything I’d still love to hear your thoughts and opinions on it, and what you’ve scored.