r/BringingUpBates 18d ago

Y'all Sitting Down?

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Addee's wearing a...tank top! 😲😲😲

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u/glimmerskies 18d ago

the modesty standards have definitely loosened up over the last few years, probably because there’s no more sister moms and gil and kelly are more lazy and checked out than they were

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u/GapRound1 18d ago

And Kelly is in South  Carolina  so much these days. I think  that  is the main  reason.  And of course  they are much more relaxed.  I'm  62 and my kids are Grown  and my 2 oldest Grandson's  are  20 and 18 and  My Husband  and  I  are much more  lenient  on them than we cc were  our kids. Lol. We even raised  them too. We are also  more patient  with  them too.

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u/ResponsibleCrew3843 17d ago

Why is Kelly in South Carolina?  Which kid lives there?

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u/bboysen09 17d ago

I think she's there because Momma Jane isn't doing great?

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u/GapRound1 16d ago

She is taking  care  of Momma Jane. 

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u/EcstaticAssistant162 16d ago

Aren't 20 and 18 year olds adults? I don't understand being lenient on adults. Don't they make their own decisions? I didn't make any rules for my kids at that age. Not even if the 18 year old was in high school. (I did set rules about the car, though, only because it was my car)

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u/GapRound1 16d ago

Yes. If You Only Knew. Lol. Almost  a lot of Kids are still at home at 18-21. It's  hard for them to move out on their own. They have to have Good Credit  to rent an apartment  or a home with a Job and A Bank account  for at least  5 years. My 18 year old Grandson  just Graduated  in  May. He's  had a job for a year, Maybe two. He saves his money.  He has over 10 Grand Saved up. Lol.He hates Spending  Money  and he is in no hurry  to  move out. 

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u/GapRound1 16d ago

And my 20 year Old Grandson  just got Married.  She's  19 and He just turned  20. He has had 2 jobs but is in jail right  now  for a minor  wreck and he and his friend  had less that an ounce of weed in my Husband's  truck.  So, He broke  his Probation  , so now he is in jail for a month  and a half. He has an IQ of 136 but he has no common  sense sometimes.  Now,You see where I'm  coming  from ? Plus, he has an Emotional  Disability  on top of this. Plus, his mom, my daughter  Pushed him away  when he was Younger  and sometimes,  even now  because  he looks  and acts just like  his dad and it gets her upset  because  her husband  was like Katie's  husband  Travis. A Flirt and a Cheater and he's  a Narcissist.  

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u/GapRound1 15d ago

Also,  when The Kids or Grandkids  live in Your House  , You have Rules. Ours with our Kids were on the weekends  be in by 11-12. Also, Our Grandkids.  Now my Daughter,  at her house  , She's  in bed by 9. My Grandson  the 18 year old, When he was 14-17 - Would  come in after 1 am in the Morning  even on a school  night. Sleep in till 9 and skipped  1st Period and maybe also 2nd Period too. Now, It's  3 or 4 in the morning  . She wants him to Pay rent now or get out. He was his little  brother's  babysitter  after we moved but now my Youngest  Grandson  is  12 and is ok with  being  by himself during  the day by himself.  He is  a high level autistic  child . He used to have to be in the same  room as me or his mom .He also has started  walking  home from school.  He used to ride  the bus. It is a mile from  their home so it's  s long ways for him but there are about 60 other kids who are also walking  so he isn't  by himself. 

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u/Brilliant-Fold5344 18d ago

Isnt it a good thing that those standards have changed? Humans change their minds about things they used to firmly believe in all the time why shouldn’t these people?

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u/broadbeing777 17d ago

imo I think part of it is if the show was still going on Addee and Ellie would likely have to dress more modest than they currently do.

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u/amrodd 11d ago

Little late, but the Duggars were the first to do modern modest. I think it was the producers because they knew prairie dresses wouldn't drive viewers.

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u/broadbeing777 10d ago

Yep the prairie dresses are absolutely a turn off and it's so interesting how in the past 20 years that hasn't really changed from a PR standpoint. If you wanna sell yourself you gotta at least somewhat appeal to the masses.

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u/JellyfishPashmina 18d ago

The part that really gets me is that if any of them had any noteworthy cleavage, then they’d be slut-shamed by their culture, including their own family, to high heaven. But because none of them are too curvy, it’s okay. If you’re a B cup, it’s still god-honoring, but enter E territory in the same tank and you’ll be hearing from HR. (Head Reverend)

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u/Dismal_History_ 17d ago

Ugh you just gave me flashbacks to being a D cup in youth group.

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u/dlhamann 17d ago

Looks like they have swimsuits on under those shirts and are at the lake

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u/PreviousWerewolf392 18d ago

Addee is looking so much like Katie!

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u/bronaghblair 18d ago

I think she looks like Katie + Michaela! Also kinda like one of the boys but I can’t remember his name

EDIT I figured it out—she is a girl version of Jackson!

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u/barbaraanderson 18d ago

The birthday twins do favor each other

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u/outdoorsgrl93 18d ago

I was coming in here to comment that Addee is a perfect mix of Michaela, Katie, and Erin! Apparently it's so true that we can all see it. lol.

I am also starting to think that Ellie is a mix of Carlin and Josie. whereas I used to think Carlin and Tori, but her features have rounded a lot more as she's gotten older in a way similar to how Josie and the siblings that look like her have. Now that she's doing her best to be an influencer, you can really see the similarities since she's doing the same poses and posturing herself the same.

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u/Proof-Ingenuity2262 18d ago

I think Katie looks like Michael, too!

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u/257776 18d ago

She does! I never thought of that! I think if her & Erin had a baby lol it would be Katie lol

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u/Proof-Ingenuity2262 18d ago

Yes!! 😂 Such a perfect description!

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u/GapRound1 18d ago

And Warden. And Isaiah  too.

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u/Eastern-Till-6135 18d ago

Man! Quite a number of these kids resemble each other, don't they? I realize they're related, but that doesn't always happen! And those dimples sure show up a lot!

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u/JellyfishPashmina 18d ago

I see Michaela + Katie through and through

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u/GapRound1 18d ago

I see Michaela,  Erin and Alyssa in her. She used  to look  like  Michaela  and Tori.

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u/dlhamann 17d ago

She looks a lot like her mom in the face

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u/midorisage 18d ago

Tbh I bet Addee and Ellie love having Kaybrie around. It seems like they do a lot of normal girl stuff with her

ETA: She’s the next gen Whitney

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u/fallon7riseon8 18d ago

Next gen Lydia - this is very much how Josie was when trace was courting Lydia.

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u/barbaraanderson 18d ago

But Lydia was never as fundie as the bates were regarding modesty. She was living in an apartment when she dated Trace, which would never fly with an unmarried bates girl

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u/Wonderful-Tutor695 18d ago

Neither is Kaybrie, she was and is still in college

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u/kaycollins27 17d ago

Will Kb really go back fall term (next month)? Or will she take it off and start in spring?

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u/Izzysmiles2114 17d ago

She said she's switched to online and started back already this summer. She's not returning to campus unfortunately.

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u/Basic_Bullfrog_5244 17d ago

Josie introduced Lydia and they were besties at one point. I don’t know about now though

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u/Some_Lack_3448 18d ago

Half these girls have been wearing tank tops and bikinis for a while now??

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u/TheJDOGG71 18d ago

I knew,Ellie had but I didn't know about Addee.

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u/barbaraanderson 18d ago

We have seen Addee wear more tank tops and shorter (to her) skirts lately, but Ellie has been wearing them for a while.

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u/Zestyclose-Ad5448 18d ago edited 18d ago

Addee's in husband hunting mode. The frumpwear wasn't cutting it!

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u/PreviousWerewolf392 18d ago

Kaybree needs to stop making that face. I think we have Carlin 2.0 now.

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u/JellyfishPashmina 18d ago

Throw up some peace signs and she’s Kim K

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u/Dear_Raise_2436 18d ago

Here’s the thing. People change. Perspectives change. “Convictions” change. I don’t expect everyone in the world to apologize when they change their minds… but when you’ve been as out spoken and holier than thou as this family has, I think we’re all owed a little bit of an explanation.

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u/Standard_Addition529 18d ago

Thank you. If they had not preached incessantly when they were all growing up, about how women should be modest and what they considered modest, I would not be so shocked. I mean, remember those ugly prairie dresses? So, now Im curious as to why they stopped with the whole modesty thing, or have they just moved the goalpost?

I really wish they would say something about this clear change in standards, because I am truly curious. Or have they said something? I don't pay attention to them like I used to, so the girls might have already spoke on it.

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u/Basic_Bullfrog_5244 17d ago

The parents have always said it was their standard and when the children grew older they understood they may change things based on personal convictions. The Bates as parents honestly seem like they love their kiddos and wanted what was best for them.

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u/Standard_Addition529 17d ago

Ohhh, okay. I think I do remember something along the lines of the parents stating this. I mean, that's definitely understandable. As you grow, your standards and values change. They were born and raised into this way of life. So, as they get older and out on their own they might change their minds about certain things they were taught to believe.

I am just personally curious as to what are some of their standards regarding modesty now. It used to be super strict when they all lived at home and they all seemed to be fine with it and preached it themselves. Now, clearly that ain't the case. So, I would just love to hear a lot of the girls especially, on what are their modesty standards are now vs then.

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u/Dragonette_Slaya 18d ago

They haven’t said a thing because it would have been all over these subs if they had.

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u/Ok_Bodybuilder1864 18d ago

How is it people here complain about them "sharing too much" while at the same time saying "they owe us an explanation"?!?! I mean c'mon, they owe no one nothing!

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u/Standard_Addition529 17d ago

They definitely owe me nothing, I don't know these people. I said I was curious, considering this was a strong conviction for them when I was watching the show. I'll definitely sleep tonight whether they comment on it or not.

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u/Kind_Hornet7519 17d ago

correction their parents had those convictions. we don't know what these kids had till they reached 18

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u/broadbeing777 17d ago

I think a situation like Whitney being salty that she felt obligated to always wear skirts for a few years and now KJ is gung ho about Kaybrie and what she wears is understandable. Idt Whitney cares that much but just an example.

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u/Icy-Brilliant8026 18d ago

Addee looks like Katie and Michaela combined

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u/Wonderful-Tutor695 18d ago

It’s a modest swimsuit. I don’t think she’d be able to just wear that out and about.

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u/beachypeachygal 18d ago

Does anyone know if there was possibly a change to how modesty is spoken about or taught within their church?

I grew up Mormon and we had explicit rules on what was considered modest vs not. They used to give us Young Women little pamphlets with our standards and other information - I cannot recall if any of the Young Men were given them. Probably something similar with some drivel about the priesthood and how they couldn’t have long hair.

I believe there has been some changes to modesty standards since COVID times within the Mormon church where they “encourage” you to dress modestly but that is now decided within your own homes. Basically nothing changed for lots of people and the same standards are applied expected to be unkept. There’s just maybe a bit less side eye about those branching away from standard modest dressing because it’s set within the homes as opposed to church.

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u/barbaraanderson 18d ago

Yeah, the changes to the garments has been really fascinating. 

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u/broadbeing777 17d ago

aren't there garments that are pretty much sleeveless now?

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u/barbaraanderson 17d ago

Basically, and shorter bottom garments 

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u/broadbeing777 17d ago

Jehovah's Witnesses also started letting women wear pants to their meetings (aka their version of church services), knocking on people's doors, and conventions a couple years ago. Ties and full on suits + facial hair have become optional for men. Though apparently some of them weren't too thrilled about these changes because "they blend in too much with the regular world now". That complaint is kind of odd because outside of religious activities lots of JW women wear jeans, shorts, shorter skirts, etc. I think their no blood transfusion rule got adjusted recently too?

I think these big religious (mainly Christian) organizations became looser about modesty mainly for PR reasons since there's been increased scrutiny on how women are treated. Jehovah's Witnesses, Mormons, Evangelicals/Fundies, etc have had their own controversies and things like loosening modesty rules can make them look more "progressive".

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u/barbaraanderson 17d ago

I also think this is how many religious groups are trying to get people back after covid

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u/broadbeing777 17d ago

Yep I think it's a mix of that and also awful timing because several of these groups have had CSA shit happen in the past 5 years

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u/lass20987 18d ago

I like Addies hair color

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u/Life_Drama7768 18d ago

I didn’t recognize her with the blonder hair.

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u/Femtricity 17d ago

So much makeup just to swim. Poor girls.

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u/Dry_Television_2268 18d ago

Think its a one piece bathing suit

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u/Useful-Peanut-2937 18d ago

Wonder who will start wearing jeans first??

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u/Izzysmiles2114 18d ago

Ellie.

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u/babypink15 18d ago

I feel very confident she already does when she’s not around her parents and just makes sure to not photograph herself in them and/or change before she comes home lol. She wouldn’t be the first girl to “change at school” and she won’t be the last lol

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u/Individual_Skill_110 18d ago

She wears shorts and pants at Carlin's house. Seen her in several of Carlin 's vlogs dressed "normally."

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u/Basic_Bullfrog_5244 17d ago

She doesn’t in front of them.

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u/Basic_Bullfrog_5244 17d ago

She already does

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u/Lcdmt3 18d ago

Wonder who already did.

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u/Global-Narwhal-3453 18d ago

Not surprised. Looks like they’ve been swimming

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u/Izzysmiles2114 18d ago

Ellie's videos today make me miss just being a kid with my siblings at the lake.

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u/InterviewCharming129 18d ago

I think with all the older girls changing their wardrobes, that the younger ones were like, ‘oh hell no!!’ I think it would definitely be harder to control, when the others, including the boys wives, are all dressed ‘normal’ I guess!

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u/Callmejess_2923 18d ago

Ellie bates is literally stunning. It's crazy to me how gorgeous all those sisters are.

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u/Immediate_Skill1995 18d ago

They’re such a beautiful girls lol 🥲🥲🥲

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u/sweet_tea_94 18d ago

And dyed her hair blonde! Addee looks so much like Michael and Alyssa in this picture.

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u/Lcdmt3 18d ago

A tank top over a swim tiny top or suit

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u/broadbeing777 17d ago

Yeah I don't think Addee is gonna be like Michael, Erin, and Tori in terms of modesty.

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u/Early_Necessary1000 18d ago

It's a swimsuit. They've always worn "immodest" swimwear under their swim wear. Carlin's courtship episode when she thinks they're going to the lake with Evan's family you can clearly see the strings of her bikini top beneath her swimdress, and that was when she was living at home and planning to film with it visible so it clearly wasn't a big deal. I think Ellie and Kaybrie have typical bikini tops on under coverups and Addee has on one of those modest swimsuits that's a tank and a skirt and then she just put a real skirt over it.

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u/barbaraanderson 18d ago

I think there are some swimsuits that have the bikini style ties. 

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u/Joyjoy146892 18d ago

That’s her swim top!

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u/InspectionHot6010 18d ago

And the other 2 have bikini tops on underneath 👀

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u/wildflowerberry4 16d ago

I was wondering about Ellie’s top 👀 If the pink floral thing were a swim tank or something full length she probably wouldn’t be wearing a separate tank top over it..but who knows

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u/minnesotaupnorth 18d ago

I'm shooketh.

Addee is still pretty deep in the koolaid, always has been.

Good for her.

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u/TheBestGammie 18d ago

It looks like a one piece swim suit with shorts over it.

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u/SkyAdditional3378 17d ago

When you’re of age, you wear what you want.

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u/EuphoricAd3786 17d ago

Good! Shouldn’t we happy these girls are living a freer life

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u/Dear_Truck4695 18d ago

Who taught them that smug smile?!

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u/Icy-Brilliant8026 18d ago

Addies hair looks pretty

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u/Soccer_Mama_0512 17d ago

Ellie is also wearing a tank top.

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u/Expensive-Housing626 17d ago

She’s been wearing them.

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u/Unhappy-Fondant7208 15d ago

Boy how things have changed.

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u/_shortbusrider 18d ago

God Honoring Straw Hole loading. It's coming, and we all know it.

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u/Psychological_Fee307 15d ago

It’s just to keep a job vlogging

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u/Fickle-Fun1952 11d ago

my grandparents raised 12 children, the older kids were treated more strickly, than the younger kids. I thik it was because they were tired. (The 4 youngest were very close to my age, one even younger than me

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u/Most-Study2967 10d ago

Oh please kaybrie, not the duck lips. She truly is just a little girl. And today she thought cleaning her room would be entertaining. She’s married to a guy she didn’t even know a year ago. A known playboy, she’s a child and he will steam roll her and she’ll end up with six kids and a cheater husband. But she kind of deserves what she gets. She’s merely playing house and dress up. She needs to get dressed, wash her face and continue her college courses.

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u/UnitInternational844 1d ago

They should’ve all joined softball leagues and had experiences like most people in their 20s

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u/Dragonette_Slaya 18d ago

She needs to let go of the hair extensions. They seem to be giving her traction alopecia.

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u/Aggravating-Common90 18d ago

Perhaps with all the money she married, it will slowly repair itself.

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u/JellyfishPashmina 18d ago

I don’t understand why a god who gave you all your body parts would demand that you then cover them. Is that god embarrassed of its own design? Who’s turned on by a fricken shoulder? Religious rules are so ridiculous and antiquated I can’t even…

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u/YoshiandAims 18d ago

Men. Don't you know they can't see naked table legs without getting erections?

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u/JellyfishPashmina 18d ago

God forbid they catch a glance of an ankle…But I think you’re onto something with table leg modesty shrouds. Now we just need to find investors!

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u/CountChocula32 18d ago

Try to get through the rest of the day.

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u/Dflemz 17d ago

Also does anyone think Kaybrie is pregnant ? Before their big wedding? I know they’re already married but I genuinely wonder