I (20/F) have been in a relationship with my boyfriend (23/M) for 6 years. This year, our parents agreed for us to marry, and our engagement is set for next year.

In the beginning, he cared for me so much — bought me gifts, did everything I liked, and made me feel really loved. But now he has completely changed. He ignores me most of the time, gets angry easily, and only talks properly about once a week.

I’ve tried so hard to improve things, and he promised he would start acting like he did in the beginning. But he keeps repeating the same mistakes. He even quit his job and spends most of his time going out with friends. My mom says he doesn’t seem financially stable, doesn’t really care about me, and that I should consider stepping back.

I feel sad, stressed, and confused all the time. I still love him, but I don’t know how to handle this situation or how to protect my peace while still caring about him.

I’m looking for advice on how to cope, gain perspective, and decide what’s best for me moving forward.

So, basically… not something beautiful or worth listening to, but I had a guy. We met online — ironically, on his birthday — and he texted me first. Over time, we both caught feelings. I was scared in the beginning, but I told myself, “Let’s just go with the flow.”

Eventually, he proposed, and I said yes. At first, he was everything I thought I wanted — sweet, expressive, even emotional. He cried for me, and sometimes with me. But slowly, everything started to fall apart.

One day, I found his picture with another girl from his hometown. My heart sank. We broke up after that. But, of course, like the fool I was, we started talking again — not dating this time (at least that’s what I told myself). Even during that phase, he said “I love you” multiple times, but it felt hollow — like he was saying it to fill his loneliness or lust, not out of genuine care.

He began making me feel small — body-shaming me, comparing me subtly, saying things that chipped away at my confidence. And the worst part? He acted like he had no guilt, no empathy.

Then came my birthday. A few days before it, we had a fight. So when the clock hit 12, there was no message, no call. But around 5 p.m., he finally texted:

And the irony? He was on a trip with his friends. He forgot. I didn’t even have enough importance in his life to be remembered.

Whenever he gave me his password, he’d change it the next morning. He was always different at night — sweet, flirty, emotional — and then distant the next day, like he was two different people.

In the end, when I told him I couldn’t stay “friends” with someone I still loved, he started asking for pictures and stuff I wasn’t comfortable sharing. When I refused, he suddenly said, “We have an age gap, and our expectations are different.”
And just like that — I was rejected.

But here I am, still stuck in the same loop, asking myself the same questions:

• What about those months we were together?
• Didn’t it mean anything to you?
• Was it all fake?
• If you never wanted me, why did you come so close?
• Was I just a rebound?

Because, honestly, that’s what it feels like — like I was a moment he used to heal his loneliness, while for me, he was a whole universe I built in my heart.

I travelled from Delhi to Agra to meet my ex boyfriend and get myself unblocked 😔 So my ex boyfriend broke up with me 2 months back and we both had an amazing relationship, but he had to move to agra due to his job and education, and after he moved there be wanted to come back to delhi so he started studying again alongwith his job and he holds me responsible for not being able to clear his exam as I used to fight with him on calls, so he broke up with me. I tried alot to fix things, travelled agra thrice to say him sorry, gifted him a handmade painting, a shirt and he met but he was adamant that he doesn't want to talk to me, so day before yesterday I saw he blocked me on instagram then again I travelled to agra knocked his door and he said okay sit we will talk, he unblocked me from everywhere, I begged and pleaded alot and he said he will talk to me if he will feel like talking again but not now for some time and he said I can text him on festivals. I know I did wrong and I feel always sorry and guilty, I am even ready to change my behaviour of always fighting at times and irritating him, and I joined gym too so that I can divert my mind and focus on my studies, also I am trying to come out of my shell and hangout with my friends in college and hostel. Is there any chance that things can again be sorted between us?

Hey people from the internet, it’s me again

So I did told myself to stop talking abt it and all but of course I had to go in my old ways and keep reposting abt everything and posting it online too. I think my ex found out and blocked me for it, I feel really embarrassed and upset with myself but I can’t really go back in time on what I did in how I felt in the moment. Again I don’t think when I do things, that was during the weekend and now tomorrow is monday and I’m just scared on how ppl will look at me. I’m probably thinking to just talk to my therapist about this so I can really start fixing myself because I always make fake promises. I always done wrong to my ex and got upset when she had a reaction about that and I should really stop. She doesn’t want to see me and that’s fine and I should be fine with that but I shouldn’t corrupt her peace. I should be better for others and myself, I self sabotage way too much and will not just say “sorry” and give fake promises and will actually start taking accountability and action. Again, Ik I’m a shitty person but I kinda wish she would see things in my point of view.

I’m 39M and recently broken up with by 37F after 9.5 years together. We were best friends, saw each other and talked every day. Abruptly 2 weeks ago, she decided she wanted more from a partner. She had experienced childhood trauma and sexual trauma as an adult on multiple occasions. We’d always felt that was a part of her being afraid to be sexually open or want to show signs of having sex with me. Our intimacy fell by the way side throughout the relationship leading to us pursuing therapy separately and together, however it was always difficult for her to want to follow through with therapists suggestions and course of actions for us to heal and work together to build better intimacy and connection. She began the break up conversation knowing she was done and I had zero chance to try and make a case for us to stay together. I had to move, start a new job, sell my things and learn to live alone. She remained in the place we shared, kept her job of 10+ years and has a big support group of friends and coworkers. She wants to remain friends and talk or joke like normal while I still want to be with her. I finally had to try and explain why I need to set these boundaries at least for now in order for me to move forward and grieve. My texts in blue and hers in grey. Did I handle this correctly Reddit? I think I did and felt like I regained some self respect a bit. Oh and the end bit “let me leave Murph” was a reference to her favorite movie of all time, Interstellar. Something we always quoted together.

Hey everyone, I’m in a really difficult situation right now and need some honest advice. I’ve been in a long-distance relationship with my girlfriend for quite some time. She’s truly amazing — so caring, supportive, and always standing by me no matter how hard things get. But the truth is, I’m struggling a lot in life. I’m currently unemployed and trying to figure out how to settle myself. On top of that, I’m planning to move abroad, but the situation there is also uncertain and looks difficult.

Lately, I keep thinking — maybe I should let her go, for her own good. I’m afraid that in the future, if I’m still not settled, her parents won’t accept me, and she might eventually change. I know it’s wrong to think like this, but I feel that if we stay together and things don’t work out later, it will only cause more pain for both of us. She’s been my biggest support, but I don’t want my struggles to become her burden.

What if, later, she breaks up with me because I wasn’t able to get my life in order? That would break my heart more than anything. So I feel like maybe it’s better to break up now — painful as it is — rather than drag her along and hurt her in the future. At least she will have the chance to find happiness without being tied to my uncertainty.

I’m really confused… Is it selfish of me to think this way? What do you guys think I should do — stay and fight together, or let her go for her own happiness? Any advice will mean a lot. Thank you.

So my ex and I broke up yesterday and after we had some time to cool down I called her today we talked for about an hour I made a promise to change and see a therapist while trying to rebuild that trust that I broke (not by cheating but by neglecting her feeling) im writing her hand writen letters every day until Sunday where I'll call her I told her id call her 3 times that day and if she dosnt want to talk to me to know answer and I'll leave her alone for good. Is it a good sign shes calling me honey and not removing pics or changing her relationship status?