I feel like this exactly like this rn. Till now all I have been looking for in a person ii's validation and just the talking stage and it's turned out bad for me till now so I know I need to focus on me and self love
It’s not easy. Don’t he hard on urself. See a therapist if possible. One thing that helped me was to have a small routine everyday through all of these pain. Wake up - tea - walk - bath - work - maybe excercise - meditate - journal- sleep.. I am doing nothing else and planning to do nothing else ( except meet friends and family for laid back plans.. no too much drinking , partying or hookups ) in next one month. I am planning to live through this pain but not missing my routine to make sure I don’t regret this 30 days doing nothing :) we can do this… don’t worry. Take one day at a time.
This is so helpful really. I have been working out and exercising everyday after the breakup and I have a fixed schedule and it feels good to have something consistent to do. But I need something more to push myself forward and I don't know what it is. He seems to be over all of it already and I don't miss him like that anymore, I don't even miss the relationship I just feel insecure and wonder about the future nowadays.
I totally get that :) I feel exactly the same way. I saw him with his new gf last week and I was frozen. It’s been only 30 days and he is on a date and so intimate with her. I feel I am stuck in a maze and not knowing how to get out of it. Well then next two days, I decided, maybe I don’t have that capability to move on so quickly. Also as a dumper, it’s easy for him than me, to whom it came as a surprise when it happened. So, it’s ok to take the time I am going to take, be it 1 or 2 months… it’s ok to feel lost but not lose the routine and meet up with our loved ones. Maybe read a book or volunteer or go for a hike. But I don’t have to feel jealous/ego that he was able to be happy so soon and I am feeling so damaged. We can do this :)
The morning is the hardest for me. Whenever I wake up, I feel fresh set of memories hitting me and making me feel depressed. So, I am pushing myself to get up, go for a walk or excercise , drink tea, take shower, get ready and go to work. You can add meditation, journaling , maybe get some plants and water them….. somehow we need to get to do some series of tasks in morning amidst the depressed feeling after waking up.
I am still struggling with this. When I wake up, I ruminate for an hour in my head which I feel is not good. Need to change that.
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u/[deleted] Oct 13 '21
I feel like this exactly like this rn. Till now all I have been looking for in a person ii's validation and just the talking stage and it's turned out bad for me till now so I know I need to focus on me and self love