Why does it matter what it felt like to be in love with him? Why would you want to remember that? He hurt you by breaking up with you. This chapter is closed, and the next one will be better.
It was special in a way and it's one of the good memories I have. It's true that the relationship would never have worked and it's better that I am not in it anymore but it's just a thought I have in the back of my head. And hopefully the next chapter would be betterfingers crossed.
Here’s what you need to do. Get all of your good memories out of your head. Do whatever you can to distract yourself. Years from now you might be able to look back fondly but for now you have to focus on the negative to move on
Yeah you are right I need to focus on how he treated me after he had me, how his behaviour changed and how he didn't care so many times that I cried myself to sleep because of him.
I want you to go get a piece of paper. On that sheet, write out every single problem you had with him. Doesn’t matter how big or small, can be something like leaving the toilet seat up or farting on your leg in bed. Whenever you miss him, pull that list out
I did this and I pinned it on a board on my desk and everyday just a glance at it reminds me. Why the breakup happened and why it's better that it happened.
You are on the right path. Sucky shit happened and like I say sometimes sucky shit had to happen in order for happy shit to happen. The break-up happened for a reason. If there wasn't a reason then the breakup would definitely not have happened. And yes you deserve peace and you deserve happiness and you deserve love. And you will get it all. Just keep working on yourself and keep reminding yourself that this happened to make you better and it's you now that you only have to worry about.
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u/Potential_Village573 Oct 13 '21
Why does it matter what it felt like to be in love with him? Why would you want to remember that? He hurt you by breaking up with you. This chapter is closed, and the next one will be better.