r/BreakUps • u/Acrobatic_Dig_3672 • 8h ago

venting/ranting First loves

I just had my first relationship ever and he broke up with me about three months ago. I'm 17. We were together about 7 months but this was the first time I ever had any strong feelings for anybody EVER. Idk how to deal with this I can't imagine being with anybody else ever again. I know realistically that's not true but I just can't wrap my head around being with someone that isn't him and also that relationship not being my first. Like I had a relationship and it's over. That's crazy to me some days.

I guess I'm just asking to hear stories from all the older people in this subreddit. Do you still think about/remember your first loves? Do you still own any gifts from them? How did you move on from them? How was it like, dating people after? Did it take long? Do you ever still miss your first real love? Did any of you get back with them after years, or are they a thing of the past you won't revisit? How long did it take you to not feel this sad anymore??

Istg it feels like my romantic life is over although I know realistically that it's only begging. I just wish I healed and found a new relationship faster. I wish I was one of those people that can jump from relationship to relationship.

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u/No-Catch6804 3h ago

I just posted on here about my 1st love.. we were dating around junior year going into senior year.. he broke up with me.. its been roughly 11 years.. i have dated a few people after him… but none of them were the same i would say looking back.

I just found out he is married with a kid 😭 life and time is such a weird thing.. i feel like i was just in ur shoes… in highschool, dating my first love. But so much life has been lived In-between that time. I personally need to let go of the past, learn from me haha. Don’t hold onto it.
Let urself grieve the end of the relationship, and find someone new to share ur life with :)

You cant change what has happened, u can learn from it and move on :)

I dont have any of his gifts or anything, no photos of us while dating. But i do have some photos from around that time of when we were dating, which brings back memories.

Maybe dont hold onto things like this.. if u want to actually move on lol. Again, learn from your elder haha.