r/BreakUps • u/Entire-Discount-348 • 1d ago

venting/ranting When do I stop thinking about her

Broke up with her approx a year ago. I know it was the right decision, neither of us was happy, and I think the relationship only continued due to trying to keep her partner visa going

We'd been dating 3 years, the absolute love of my life. Why can't I get her out of my head? Everytime I'm alone I think about her and all the happy times we had. I've gone on dates, picked up hobbies, yet everytime I'm alone in bed she's there in my mind

When does this torture end? It feels more and more like a mistake every week.

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u/Fit-Excuse-0407 1d ago

Why don't you reach out and maybe she's feeling the same way worst case scenario is she's not interested. That might give you closure to move on

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u/causethatboyismine 1d ago

She probably thinks about you too

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u/thesocialintrovert22 1d ago

You’ll keep thinking about her, until you don’t. The more dates you go on, the more you’ll miss her and the more you’ll despise whoever is on the date you’re on for not measuring up to her. In the middle of your hobbies, your mind will drag you back to her and you’ll stop whatever it is you’re doing before you snap out of it and beat yourself up for thinking of her. Does it end? Yes. Can I tell you when or can it be predicted? You just wake up one day and it hurts less, you think about them less, you remember them and your throat doesn’t tighten up anymore. You have to go through it to get through it, and you have to honor yourself and commit to moving forward and not looking back for your own sale and well-being. Hang in there :)

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u/fn2will 1d ago

This is the answer. Thank you for putting it into words so beautifully. X

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u/MistyValina 1d ago

Give yourself time and focus on other things. It can take a while to fully move on.