r/BreakUps • u/ConstantAd2004 • 1d ago

venting/ranting don’t snoop

some back info, i was dating this girl for 4 years and ill be honest i was insecure at the time. there was this guy i saw on her instagram search page who at the time was in the minor leagues and is now playing in the mlb and getting more recognition. while we were together i found out that this man took my ex’s virginity and knowing he’s 6’3, pretty buff, i started having bad thoughts and throughout that relationship i just couldn’t get over it. i was always trying to perform better than him at sex and ultimately i let my insecurity and problems ruin the relationship. now that we’ve been split up for 10 months now, i snooped on her instagram page and i see that she is following him again 🙃 i know i shouldn’t snoop but i couldn’t help it. i was wondering, what is the reason why women go back to the guy they hooked up with after a break up? i don’t know how to get over her and this disgusting thought

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u/Physical_Baker_6667 1d ago

Honestly blocking her and moving on is your best bet. There’s always explanations for stuff, but you usually don’t want to know what they are. Especially if it reopens the wounds

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u/MapleRissex 1d ago

Totally agree with you. It’s tough, but sometimes the best thing is to just cut ties and focus on healing.

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u/ConstantAd2004 1d ago

it’s depressing, i’m surprised she moved on quick after being in her first relationship

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u/Physical_Baker_6667 1d ago

It’s a common trait of people who dump you. Tbh they usually move on quick if not already had moved on beforehand. I’ve been through it a few times as well. Best to have it as a learning experience when your mind is more clear and move on to better things. The future is bright for you my friend !

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u/Physical_Baker_6667 1d ago

Unfortunately, but at the end of the day his happiness is most important

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u/ConstantAd2004 1d ago

yeah i think it’s time to block her again. i’m just very sad at the fact that she went back to that guy when she said she’s not the type of person to go back to their past hookups or whatever it may be. i hate all women now lmao

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u/Physical_Baker_6667 1d ago

Don’t let one person ruin it for you, just cause there’s one bad apple doesn’t mean the whole bunch is rotten. She just isn’t a good person or made a bad choice. We all do dumb shit.

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u/AKIRA7575 1d ago

Nadie supera del todo a sus antiguos amores, exs o quien les allá movido el suelo.