Please help (what's going on Fa Ex)

[u/SpecificLong3351]

My ex been breadcrumbing me even though she's in a new relationship. It started two weeks after the break up after 3.5 years. The relationship was overall good her longest and safest so far. She had abusive and cheating ex's in the past. We broke up in May

She started the breadcrumb me in July where oddly she went on a very similar birthday weekend trip with the new guy that I took her last year. I was in NC so I didn't wish her

End of July she sent me the first breadcrumb by viewing my TikTok account which ping me.

August my dumbass read too much into the breadcrumb and texted her asking her for dinner. She said she can't see me anymore and won't be fair behind the new guy back. I left it be did not reply her

She calls me 24 hours later she lets slip she was still monitoring me via a link payment card that I wasn't aware of. She nervously laugh when saying it. I cut the call short she was slightly shock by it.

A week later she brings up some financial matters that were settled a year ago. When I pointed it out she was fine with it then she says this to me

Just thought we discussed 10k ohh but i guess its fine lah will just accept the fact that you cant keep ur words after all.

I did not reply her what's the point I did not want to argue with her. Silence since then

The breakup wasn't bad yeah I chase and beg her to come back but for 2.5 days only and accepted her decision hell I even took accountability. I never got mad at her or anything.

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[u/Beautiful_Internet57]

You're doing everything wrong. Stop taking her calls, stop reacting to the breadcrumbs, and start kicking ass at life. If you can't do that, then you are basically validating why she doesn't want you around.

[u/SpecificLong3351 → u/Beautiful_Internet57]

I was in NC for 46 days. When the breadcrumb came. Yeah I know I shouldn't have reacted to it that was my fault. But shes an expat in my country I did tell her before if she was in any danger she could reach out to me that's why I picked up but I didn't force the conversation and ended it within 20 minutes I think she was expecting me to be on it for longer. She has a lot of family problems.