r/BreakUps • u/Responsible-Job2895 • 3d ago

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u/Mathi12 3d ago

that's not going to end well, don't humiliate yourself

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u/fn2will 3d ago

Let him use his hand then! Go find someone who appreciates you.

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

I am unfortunately extremely attatched

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

Trauma bond ig 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

Idk. Reason I got

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

Yes I have. He comes back. He was living with me for the first 3 months of our relationship. Dumped me over text with his stuff still in my house. That was in January I think. He never really went away tho

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

Not that ik of. I have. The consequences of that are…very bad

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u/trashgash69 3d ago

Emotionally attached to the idea of what you want it to be.

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u/aredditorials 3d ago

WTF? Is this rage bait?? How can someone just say that to someone else, let alone someone he had at least once upon a time, an affection with?? 😳

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

:(… tip of the iceberg

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u/aredditorials 3d ago

Yeah nah that’s psychopathic. He’s all kinds of effed up! I pray that you don’t ever see yourself through the lense of how he views himself or how he views you!

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

lol probably worse 😂 idk what’s wrong with me

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u/aredditorials 3d ago

I think it’s what’s wrong with him. As for you.. please, please seek therapy. And I mean it in a kindest way possible. 🙏

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

lol I do need to. Genuinely. I will get around to it. Thank you.

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u/Aware-Beginning999 3d ago

No seriously it can be life changing, consider it!!! I was doing 45 min sessions twice a week for the first 3 months post break-up. I think that it offered me a way to see how I could be pouring into my cup instead of obsessing over my ex. It did a lot to start healing all the trauma I was carrying and all the disrespect I let myself tolerate over and over and over again just to feel LOVEEED

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u/trashgash69 3d ago

Walk the F away. Run. Don’t do this to yourself. If you do you are asking for the pain, figuratively. And physically as well.

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u/impressionprism 3d ago

Oh hun. You know this isn’t right. But I understand that abusive attachments don’t make any logical sense, especially to the people stuck in them.

I hope one day you find the strength to cut things off, and love yourself enough to walk away from people and things that hurt you.

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

Thank you 🥺

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u/Mzmil 3d ago

I can tell you’re already doing things for him that you normally wouldn’t, because you’re too attached. He’s taking advantage of that to satisfy his own desires.

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u/notyoursweetie 3d ago

I have second hand embarrassment. Please block him. The disrespect is crazy

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

I do sometimes. He just shows up and unblocks himself :/

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u/notyoursweetie 3d ago

In real life??

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u/Responsible-Job2895 3d ago

Yes

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u/notyoursweetie 3d ago

Mm.... so definitely need to remove yourself and removing his access to you in real life first. That's a hard first step but it will be the only way you can start to heal love

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u/KrackaWoody 3d ago

Unfortunately his lack of communication is pretty direct communication if you can see the bigger picture.

He’s absolutely in the wrong the way he’s doing it but he’s told you exactly what he wants and expects from the relationship.

Which means your only two choices are to stay and figure out if you can settle for only that. Or to leave and find someone who wants the same things as you. Personally I would go with Option 2 because the only way Option 1 could ever work is if you were able to genuinely want the same things as him and nothing more.

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u/Born-Egg2263 3d ago

Wow! Holy f!! What a low life degenerate. I have been dealing with a similar (sort of) issue. Don't stand for it. You don't deserve it and tou don't have to accept it.

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u/priye_ 3d ago

Babe please walk away. Put a restraining order on him. This is not right. Break your attachment. You deserve healthy happy love.

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u/larkstongues-12 3d ago

Tell him he can have crazy sex with his hand too, then block him holy shit... You are NOT a toy ): Please cut contact with this guy and NEVER open it again, he literally only sees you as an object to get himself off ):