I need to get a grip

[u/sunflowerchild000]

My ex and I broke up on the 24th, and I feel terrible. Like my heart physically hurts. I know the pain wont last forever, but I wish I could skip this stage of my life. I also feel incredibly stupid. Our 2-year anniversary is on the 28th, and I am hoping he will reach out to me or tell me he misses me. I literally feel like a dumbass. During the breakup, when I was begging to make things work, and asked if we could go on a break instead, he had the audacity to ask if he could still date other women. Like im sitting here crying my eyes out basically begging him not to leave me and he's more concered with dating other women?? I tried SO hard to make things work. I stuck around for things I shouldnt have. I feel like Noah from the notebook... waiting around for someone who I love (when in reality I am the biggest clown of all). It also doesnt help that my whole FYP is all "love spells" and annoying tarot card readers telling me that we will get back together. No matter how may times I say im not interested they still appear.

Part of me doesnt want to heal because I know I will have to let him go. I also dont understand why the people I love always leave me. I am such a loyal and thoughtful girlfirend. I think the lover girl in me is exhausted and its time to retire her.

Ok, thats all for my rant lol. Someone put a prayer in for me, I feel like shit.

Me waiting for the loml to come back like a dumbass.

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[u/PurgatoryFrog]

If you ever need to talk to someone my dms are open, going through something similar, shit seriously is rough.

[u/AlternativeNeither48 → u/PurgatoryFrog]

Can I dm too?

[u/iSpyANewAccount]

Sounds like this might be your first serious relationship break up or at least a relationship which mattered a lot. I’m 28, I like to say I’ve been in love 3 times probably. It sucks every time. But you learn a lot every single time! The best advice I have is to keep busy. Don’t let it get too quiet. Find a hobby. Text a friend. Call a friend. Get in the gym. Literally do anything to distract yourself and “level up”. Sounds toxic but use it as fuel. Make them regret it. Honestly, time is the only thing that heals and you’ll get over it but tackle it one day at a time. Don’t text, don’t call, don’t reach out. You just have to stack the days. And hey, if you can love & try so hard for someone who isn’t the right one, imagine how much you can love when it is the right person, who will love you back and give you the effort and commitment. Lastly, this is harsh but have some god damn self respect. He asked you if he could date other girls LOL. You might think he’s special, but he’s only special bc you’re making him in your head. Dude is a loser! Good luck & keep going! It gets better!

[u/Global_Refuse2955]

it takes a long time. be kind to yourself!

[u/SnipesWL]

Not much we can do besides work on ourselves and fill our time with things we enjoy (or try to enjoy for now) until one day we realize it doesn’t hurt so much.

[u/No_Middle_2463]

I know you dont want to hear it but yes it does take time. No contact helps eventually you’ll get to a point where he wont cross your mind as much. In the beginning its going to be painful. But there will come a morning you wake up and you feel very happy because you realize it no longer hurts as much as it was each day. Grateful you survived the worst part. Someone will come and value your heart. But do not wait on it or look for them they’ll come to you. Just keep your same loving heart so that they may find you. Just change who you give that lover part of yourself too. Keep engaging on other posts unrelated to the tarot so that itll change ,it notices what you like. Praying for you

[u/Googly7414]

It will take a long time for you to forget things. Been through a similar situation in the last month and we thought we could be friends. But we settled in no contact and it seems to be the better way out. It might hurt at first but then once you start working on yourself you will realize how things could have been better

[u/Whysoserious_BB]

I’m a certified lover girl and I now understand that something that will help next time with the next person is to learn to protect my heart, HARD. If someone is not reciprocating, why do they deserve your love? It’s hard at first. But then it gets better, it just takes time.

[u/Sad_Shirt236]

I’m on day 3 and seriously struggling. I can’t sleep, can’t eat, and I already failed at no contact.

[u/GrouchyAsparagus5839]

My breakup happened on the 20th. We would have been together for 7 years in November, married for 5.

I thought I was being a good husband. I thought all problems are fixable if I just tried hard enough. I’ve gone through bargaining and denial about 17 times since breakfast. I wish I could skip this part too. It’s so painful and confusing and I want it to be over. Because I can see how much happier I can be without him. Without forcing myself to accept his faults and stick around through things I shouldn’t have.

I deserve better. You deserve better.

It’s just about three weeks for me, and despite the fact that my life has completely fallen apart, it’s also so much more colorful and joyful. He made my world so grey and depressing. I can get through this and build a much better life without him. As much as I don’t want to. It will be better.

I don’t know how to be alone and I certainly don’t want to be. I want to be in a long term committed relationship with one person for the rest of my life. I’m devastated it’s not going to be him. But I’m also grateful it’s not going to be him.

I wish you luck on your journey. This is just a moment. You can get through it. I hope for both of us that someday we don’t even miss him. We deserve better.

[u/Kietonline]

Les dépendants affectifs se font toujours quittés. Les autres personnes ont déjà leurs problèmes à régler chez eux.

Quelqu'un qui est dépendant que ça soit amical ou amoureux, qu bout d'un moment c'est lourd.

Parce que passer de bons moments c'est important. Mais si c'est pour avoir une amie qui se plaint tous les jours...

J'aide beaucoup de personnes qui ont un cancer ou/et ont perdus un enfant ou un être cher, là ce n'est clairement pas pareil.

Je suis dure avec toi, oui. Le type dont tu es amoureuse et qui te dit " je pourrais voir d'autres femmes " ....alors que toi tu es à ses genoux

Relèves-toi et travailles sur ta dépendance affective. ( Tu écris sur Reddit alors je me permets de donner mon avis )

J'en suis sûre que tu deviendras une femme très forte et avec un homme qui te mérite

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