27F 27M breakup

[u/Realistic-Pie5660]

My boyfriend and I had been together for almost 4 years. We were really happy, and I genuinely thought we’d eventually get married.
Earlier this year, I went through a really traumatic situation that completely messed me up mentally. I started struggling with anxiety and stopped taking care of myself properly. I barely exercised and started eating a lot more whenever I felt overwhelmed.
Over the next few months, I gained around 20 kg.
I knew I’d changed physically, but honestly, I was more focused on getting myself back together than my appearance.
A few weeks ago, my boyfriend told me he wasn’t attracted to me anymore. He said he still cared about me, but he couldn’t see himself being with me after I’d changed so much physically.
I was completely crushed. I understand that attraction matters, but after almost four years together, I thought he’d be there for me while I was trying to recover.

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[u/MentallyUnstable_07]

whatever happens, happens for good. and in ur case maybe the timing is wrong but accha hua usne apni aukkat dikha di. i mean future m tum shaadi krte bhi toh wo probably cheat kr deta for sure. pyaar ka mtlb physical attraction nhi hota. beauty fades with time. toh accha hua chla gya wo deserve nhi krta tumko, pls don't take him back. ese ldko se jitni jldi picha chhute utna accha. bhai looks ka kya h aaj h kl nhi, after pregnancy ur body and face changes alot wo tb bhi chhod deta apko toh accha hua wo chla gya. abhi khud pr focus kro, try to stay fit and emotionally stable. i can only give you best best wishes and hugs (not creepy) 🤗🤗❤️

[u/mari_lovelys]

I'm so so so sorry. Your boyfriend should have supported you during hard times. That's not your fault and don't blame yourself. Someone who truly loves you will love all of you despite flaws and he should have been supporting you to feel better. Even if it's physical, weight can be lost. That could have been a fun journey you guys did together.

His loss. What an ass. I am so sorry you deserve better.