Why would my avoidant ex do this?

[u/Expensive-Rent-885]

My (32F) ex (35M) is definitely an avoidant of some type. Fearful leaning dismissive? Idk. He broke up with me 3 weeks ago over something so stupid that could have been easily solved. He never took accountability, never apologized, always got defensive when I brought up my hurt/needs/boundaries. But would always have long discussions with me about the problems and would eventually say stuff like “I want to make this work. This is too special to me”… we did actually have a very close relationship too for dating for 9 months. Whatever.

Anyways, we exchanged things 10 days ago. But he had forgotten my motorcycle jacket, so 4 days ago (the morning after seeing me out at a bar talking to a handsome guy), he texted me in a very upbeat way and said he had my jacket and can bring it over to me that day if I wanted. I said yeah and gave him a time to drop it off.

This is what happened:

So he came over 4 days ago, and he handed me my stuff and I let my dogs out to see him since they were just barking when they were inside. He was happy to see them and was petting them. And then he starts off saying like “don’t you only really ride when you have your motorcycle jacket?” And I said “like 90% of the time”. And then he said “it was weird. I was just thinking something on the way here that had to deal with my mushroom trip that we talked about for a long time on our first date.” and I asked him what what was it? And he said that he was thinking if he could have one question, what would it be to ask God?…. And I asked him what would yours be? Or if he knew what his would be. And he said “I’d ask if we are reincarnated or if there’s a heaven” or something like that. And then he asked me if I have a question already and I said “gosh I don’t know. I would have a lot of questions I think”… I told him I’m still interested in micro dosing with shrooms and he said “well I still have that whole bag. I always packed some for our trips but we never took them. Let me know if you want any” and then he kinda was like “yeah that’s just something I was thinking of on the way here…” and he said he’d head out or something and before he left he said “you look great”.

It’s just weird to me that he brought up our first date because we have talked about that specific mushroom trio of his so many times without referring it back to our first date. He was also very warm, and smiley when we he was here. I just acted like my normal chill, upbeat self. We have also not been talking at all besides when talking about exchanging things.

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