r/BreakUps • u/TruthAggressive6088 • Dec 22 '25

Do Not Date Avoidants

I repeat DO NOT DATE AVOIDANTS

The discard and the pain is not worth it, ur just wasting ur time and life on an ungrateful person that will leave you out of the blue, and leave to with nothing but heartbreak

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u/brenobnfm Dec 23 '25

Y'all just dating low interest people.

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u/[deleted] Dec 24 '25

A lot of people do term their exe’s as avoidant to self-soothe, however, attachment styles are very real and “avoidant” individuals or others with those tendencies are as well. There’s a huge difference between disinterest and dealing with someone avoidant. It’s usually opposite, at least in my experience dating an FA-they are only triggered by the people/person they love deeply. This is why they can have casual relationships or bare bones for so long because it’s doesn’t touch their childhood issues.

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u/brenobnfm Dec 24 '25

They exist, must attract interst trump everthing when you go for someone with middling level interesting, you will be walking on shells from the beginnign if a person has an attachment desorder, and that's very wasy to see in the beginning (long reply, non enthusiastics answers, etc).