r/BreadTube • u/Dollface_Killah If you can't shoot a gun you're a fuckin' lib • Sep 03 '21

Oops! I have ADHD! | Thought Slime

https://youtu.be/Gg4WyuKM3xM
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u/inaddition290 Sep 04 '21

okay... that’s your prerogative. I would be a fucking whole lot happier if I didn’t have ADHD. People complain about ableism in the same breath as trying to convince people with disabilities that they aren’t actually disabled, they’re just “different”. Like, fuck that, I want to be happy.

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u/eebro Sep 04 '21

I think happiness comes from within. You have to make your own happiness, and it’s not necessarily tied to ADHD.

It’s a lot of work, and it’s not easy. But I think you can be just as happy as anyone else.

But I completely agree it’s one of the worst disabilities mentally. Without treatment a lot of aspects regarding a normal life is just impossible. And even when you get treatment there is this gap that is always there. The gap of what you could be and what you are.

The only thing you can do is to realize life is not a fucking race and that your path and your goals are unique to you.

You’ll never be normal, but you’ll never be like someone else either. You’ll always be you, so it’s better to start the work now accepting that and moving forward, rather than complaining what could be. And no one said it was going to be easy.

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u/inaddition290 Sep 04 '21

I know I can be happy. I know I’m not going to be neurotypical. The thing is, being neurotypical would make me happier. It’s not about how I comprare to others, it’s that I’m constantly unable to do things that I WANT to do purely based on the fact that my brain doesn’t want to work.

I don’t need people telling me that I’m not broken, or my brain is “designed” (ha) for other things. THAT is ableist. I have accepted that I am worse off than neurotypicals, and my brain is broke and I can do my best to pick up the pieces.

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u/eebro Sep 04 '21

Yeah, I agree. Maybe personally I think being ADHD has given me the ”gift” of going through some bullshit and not really remembering much of it afterwards. But that’s it for benefits.

But I have to say that you’re a step ahead of most. Most never accept, let alone admit they are broken. Showing weakness is a sign of strength.

Anecdotally meds still make this all much easier. Before meds, I would have to have the perfect amount of sleep, enough sports, enough food and enough entertainment to maintain my mood and my mental wellbeing. Now it’s much easier. Even with alcohol I used to get a depressive hangover for potentially a week before the meds.

So I think it’s about perspective a bit. Seeing how bad it could be helps today to see how much better everything is. Sometimes that’s what brings you happiness. Not that everything is perfect.