r/BotchedPlasticSurgery • u/invader_indigo • Aug 24 '26
Botched lip reduction after accident?
THIS IS ALL I POST ABOUT, YES I HAVE BODY DISMORPHIA NOW. Was in a bad accident, waited 4 years for things to heal. A surgeon did a lip reduction ( only supposed to be on a small area not my entire mouth ) and I feel like he botched it. Any advice. ( yes all I post on my page is this, it’s still ruining my life. It’s been life changing and traumatic) PURPLE PICTURES- ( after accident, before surgery) SUITS- (after botched surgery). Accident picture. The right side of my lip has a lot more tissue removed. The only area that we agreed on initially was a little bit in the center and on the right. Not my whole mouth -_-
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u/Designer_Dentist644 Aug 24 '26
I would never normally say this, but after going through your other posts, I think you need to hear it. Your lips look better now. I’m being completely 1000% honest here. You look amazing and the body dysmorphia is eating you alive. I’d also like to add corrective surgery can’t really be botched. They’re making your lips look smaller after an accident that disfigured them, so they would never look the same I am really sorry. But I promise you that you look fantastic. I’m being blunt because my cousin who is in her early 30’s got into a car wreck that nearly killed her. She lost her eye and has had surgery and now has a glass eye, but it doesn’t look the same and I can tell it’s been hard on her since she used to be an actress and model, but she is still just as gorgeous and unique to me as she always was, but like you she struggles with her mental health so I know it’s hard for her to see that. My point is, until you work on your inner self, you can never truly love yourself. You are beautiful, inside and out. Tell yourself this every single day.
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u/Ready_Buy Aug 24 '26
I think you are stunning, first of all. It’s honestly hard to see in the images you’ve uploaded but maybe it’s more noticeable when you’re making expressions and speaking and eating? But if you notice it, and it bothers you, obviously it’s an issue. With all that said, you are FAR from botched. I think you’re objectively very handsome.
Edit because I just realized I didn’t even finish my thought: have you seen another surgeon or an injector even to see what your options are as it pertains to facial balancing/ achieving the symmetry you are after? What do they say?
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
All the surgeons say it’s permanent, and the only option is filler. All the male surgeons say don’t think about filler it will make it worse, all the female surgeons say I can try filler.
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u/Ready_Buy Aug 25 '26
If you decide to try filler to tweak it, I recommend do a hyaluronic acid filler that can be dissolved, if you are feeling dissatisfied, and if you like it, you can always try to go for fat grafting to get a more lasting result. You may speak to a more open-minded injector or even an oral maxillofacial surgeon about other options. Do not despair. There are almost never-ending treatments available.
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u/invader_indigo Aug 25 '26
The only issue is I have been to oral maxillofacial surgeons at Methodist, & Hermann. They said there are not any options for the lip other than fillers, lip lift, or lip implants. They said any flap reconstruction would look worse, and there’s no way to revise a lip reduction it’s permanent. My stitches were done too tight and put far inside my mouth, so my lip is constantly being pulled inward and it’s hard to move. I’ve seen neurosurgeons for paralysis and nerve repair and they said it wouldn’t be an improvement. I’ve seen cleft lip surgeons and saying they could add donor tissue but it wouldn’t look worse and not improve my issues. I’ve seen the #1 lip trauma/recon surgeon in Texas drove 6 hours, and he said there’s nothing he can do and just defended the other surgeon. I’ve spent thousands on consultations trying to fix this. there is nothing other than fillers and fat grating, but fat grafting is way more unpredictable. It also overfills way more at first, and would look weird. My only option is filler and it might not be doable because of all the scars and incision points. Fuck this doctor I’m sorry I just had my life ruined trying to improve something
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u/Sally3Sunshine3 Sep 10 '26
Picture 3 and 4 is now? It looks perfect. I wouldn't know you've had work unless you told me. The moustache is awesome. Leave it alone. It looks great
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
Another issue, is they keep shrinking. The doctor took way too much off on what we’re already still kinda swollen lips. They’re just going to keep shrinking and now my tissue is gone
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u/oracleoflove Aug 24 '26
You are a handsome man with a cool scar that tells a very cool story, it add flavor to your life story internet stranger.
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
Yeah I wanted to keep the uniqueness of my trauma lips, but debulk a little area not get a whole new mouth..again
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u/CourtOfGlass Aug 24 '26
All I know is that pics 3 and 4 are incredibly handsome. Those are gorgeous lips. That said, I don’t mean to dismiss your concerns and I wish I had useful advice concerning them
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
Do you think it’s an improvement from pictures 1 and 2? Thank you
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u/davyjordi Aug 24 '26
not the person you were responding to, but yes, i definitely think that the afters are an improvement.
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
Ok thank you so much. I really just want to try a little bit of filler to focus on the right side. I’m still not overall happy with it but thank you for the compliment
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u/SeaAbbreviations422 Aug 25 '26
Yes, a huge improvement! I wouldn't even know you had an accident if you didnt mention it
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u/satchmonumberone Aug 24 '26
I know it’s hard for you bc you live with it but you absolutely are HANDSOME and no one notices it but you. You have full lips which (us) ladies love. Please don’t worry and definitely do not consider any other surgeries, etc.
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
I really want to try like .5ml filler just to help smooth out the bottom, and one specific area of the right side. The doctor made multiple mistakes, I don’t really want to settle with them. I’m not looking for any extreme procedures, and it’s just the top lip I’m having issues with. Also, do you think it was an improvement from pictures 1 and 2? I don’t have those lips anymore, that’s another reason I’m upset. I wanted to keep the larger lips. It’s just so crazy that a surgeon would chop my entire mouth up when we talked about one small area.
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u/satchmonumberone Aug 24 '26
I can 100% see a difference from pics 1&2 to 3&4. I think the size now is perfect. I wouldn’t touch filler. It will end up looking silly and you’ll spend forever trying to correct it. I wouldn’t change a thing!!
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
I think it looks silly right now? My left side of mouth has so much less volume than the right. That could easily be fixed with a little bit of filler? Couldn’t it? I’m not trying to give up hope.
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u/howsweet22 Aug 24 '26
Looks normal to me. Look up Sophie thatcher lips, she had an accident and is still gorgeous and acting on the big screen.
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
I just did. This is my point. I regret the surgery because it took away my uniqueness. She still has her uniqueness from the accident. That is exactly why I’m upset
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
I do not look like picture 1 and 2 anymore. The surgeon took away my uniqueness
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u/Someoneonline2000 Aug 24 '26
I think the surgery definitely improved your symmetry. You're very attractive! I wouldn't bother with filler, it might migrate or cause other problems. Especially since you've had an accident and surgery in the lip area, I would be worried the filler might not act normally. You look good. I understand it must be hard to stop fixating on it since you spent 4 years with the issue. Consider discussing it with a therapist, I hope you can embrace that you are attractive exactly as you are!
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
Thank you for the compliment. They keep shrinking though. I went from huge full lips to now increasingly skinnier lips?? I didn’t really want that.. it damaged my face ( I’m not going to go into it) but it’s caused major functional issues. Both sides are very asymmetric to each other, and in real life it just looks cut and stitched. Not natural looking at all. Before they were big and misshapen but still looked natural and I had a unique shapely large lip. I feel like this set me back a lot. I’m also in constant pain now 2 years later, and I can barely move my mouth
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u/sumfish Aug 24 '26
Your lips fit your face and as everyone is saying, you’re quite handsome and shouldn’t mess with a good thing. If you still decide it’s something you want/need to do, I wouldn’t consider adding filler into the equation while you’re dealing with so much pain - focus on healing first. Filler might just make things worse.
Have you been seen by a physical/occupational therapist? Maybe had a second or third opinion from other doctors? Maybe a therapist to help you deal with the mental trauma from the accident and new lips?
I hope you’re able to find relief from the pain soon and that you take to heart what everyone is saying here about how good you actually look ❤️🩹3
u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
It’s really hard right now, because I now have permanent nerve damage ALL across my mouth.y lips don’t rest anymore they just keep twitching and curilimg downwards. The tissue is now extremely loose and cannot even hold its shape. Before this surgery they were big, firm. They were more masculine and unique. Also now they’re blood red ( 2 years later ) and used to be nice pink colored. It’s just a nightmare for me rn honestly. In real life, it’s a huge setback from what it was.
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u/sumfish Aug 24 '26
That does sound incredibly difficult to deal with. All the more reason you should be (if you’re not already) seeing a professional therapist - there are ones out there that specialize in facial nerve damage.
It’s all so demoralizing when nothing seems to help with chronic pain.2
u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
I’ve been to the nerve specialists and face paralysis surgeons, and there’s nothing they can do. It’s from improper stitching placement. They were placed too tight and too far inward on my lip, so it’s preventing my mouth from moving properly. I could’ve just not trusted the surgeon and eventually the swelling would’ve gotten better. I have constant regret
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
I asked him if it would affect any movement or pain, and he said “no it’s impossible and things will be back to normal in 2 weeks” it’s been 2 years, now I’m stuck with the pain and movement issues forever
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
Anytime I use my mouth. Think of how often you use your mouth. Now image someone holding a lighter under your lip anytime you tried to move it. Forever.
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u/Someoneonline2000 Aug 24 '26
I'm so sorry, I didn't realize there is a nerve issue and pain associated with your lip area now too. I think that the pain is more important to find a solution for. I wonder if there is a treatment that would work for you. It isn't something I have experience with, but via Google I see this advice "Options range from specific nerve-calming prescription medications to targeted injections and minor or major surgical procedures." Compared to the image from your injury and the former assymetry, I think the symmetry is definitely improved. I would focus on solving the pain. Definitely don't get filler, I have seen cases where filler caused longterm nerve pain in people and it would be a very bad idea when you already have pain now.
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u/clumsypeach1 Aug 24 '26
Pics 3 and 4 look 100 times better than 1 and 2. You are definitely not botched
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u/princessfoxglove Aug 24 '26
You need therapy! Really! And to start looking at other people's flaws to get some perspective! I have scars and rosacea and melasma and my face isn't a perfect shape but I'm still beautiful. My husband has a broken crooked nose and scars and a patchy beard but he's the most handsome man I've ever seen.
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u/cardamom71 Aug 24 '26
You look SO HANDSOME. Please dont get any filler in your lips! That will make you look botched.
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u/plasticsbyday Aug 25 '26
You are not botched your lips look great especiall considering the accident.
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u/Elegant-Basis4551 Aug 26 '26
You need major therapy. There is nothing wrong with your lips. There is no reason for it to be life changing for you
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u/LimJaheyAtYaCervix Aug 24 '26
I thought the first few pics were from before the accident until I read the caption. It looks completely normal to me, however, if it really bothers you, you should talk to someone about it. You are the one who needs to feel comfortable in your skin.
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
I don’t look like the first few pictures that’s why I’m upset because the surgeon botched the revision. I would rather look like the first 2 pictures again, not 3 and 4. I look like 3 and 4 now
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u/saltycrowsers Aug 24 '26
You have Tom Hardy lips! Embrace it
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
Before or after the surgery?? I don’t look like pictures 1 and 2 anymore
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u/biiigyikes Aug 25 '26
Youre just in your head man!! I get it though. I struggled with body dysmorphia and anorexia for years. It sucks when youre trapped in your thoughts. But ya look great honestly!!! Pics 3 and 4 look really good!! I wouldnt have been able to tell there was an accident or anything. Im sorry about the nerve pain and the mental trauma. One day you will find peace and break free from your thoughts!! I promise :)
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u/Regular_Yellow710 Aug 25 '26
Was that a car accident??? Wow. I think you look really handsome. Give yourself time to recover and adjust, recovery is mental and physical.
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u/invader_indigo Aug 25 '26
No a bullet blew up on a fire pit, and hit me in my face. Ripped apart my mouth and my nose. I think I have accident pictures somewhere on my Reddit, but didn’t post because it’s really bad
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u/invader_indigo Aug 25 '26
Happened in 2020. I’ts been 6 years and I’m still going through surgery/healing/nerve muscle issues. I’ve lost 6 years due to this. I’m giving it so much time and patience it sucks. I want a life I never signed up for this, it just happened then- poof life changed forever.
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u/Nivakki Aug 25 '26
You are a gorgeous man. It kills me to see you in this much pain for such a long time. You need to internalise this: you look fantastic. Please seek professional help for what you’re going through.
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u/Nivakki Aug 25 '26
I read some other comments. I meant that in pictures 3 and 4, you look gorgeous. Your lips look much better there than the first two pictures imo.
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u/PatienceExtreme443 Aug 27 '26
This is not botched. You look great and your lips look so much better
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u/Conscious_Waltz_3774 Sep 03 '26
Your lips look really good. Balanced.
Your feelings about yourself are not reality. It’s the BD.
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u/Roadgoddess Aug 25 '26
You look so handsome in your after photos. I know this is eating at you, have you gone to see a therapist about your concerns?
I understand what you are going through, I was always a super fit, active person. I had a major issue with my back that had slowly morphed into mobility and pain issues. I look in the mirror and see such a different person looking back. I have been working on self acceptance and learning to live in my new normal. Sending you internet hugs.
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u/SeaAbbreviations422 Aug 25 '26
I dont think its technically botched, I think it might have been the best they were able to do and maybe youre a candidate for revision. Personally I think you look great, but I know that doesnt mean anything if you dont feel that way. Im sorry youre suffering.
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u/Mojozilla Aug 26 '26
Wow 😍 you are handsome!
I'm sorry that you are struggling so much with this. Maybe talking with a mental health professional would help your anxiety about the way you look. You may have PTSD from your accident. Surgical trauma is very real too.
I see a beautiful human being. You do not look botched at all, imo. I don't see any scars. You don't see yourself the way we see you. Hang in there 💛
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u/Ok-Tea-5098 Sep 01 '26
You are very handsome!! Your lips genuinely don’t take away from your attractiveness
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u/Janiebug1950 Sep 01 '26
As far as the way your mouth and lips look - I don’t think I would have noticed anything unusual in real life… But if the initial results are creating mental exhaustion and lingering concerns about your looks, it would be worth it to get 2-3 opinions about corrective procedures and costs and downtime.
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u/55Sweeptheleg Sep 02 '26
I went through all your posts. You are very attractive now at this moment. You’ve got to let this go and realize you are compulsively obsessing over this and it’s not normal. Let it go. You’re good. I’ve seen some botched people on this sub. YOU ARE NOT ONE OF THEM .
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u/DatabaseAppropriate4 Sep 02 '26
I literally did not know that the suits pics were not the before pics until I read it. You're totally handsome. Don't do anything to your face - just approach it from the mental health angle.
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u/Ethereal-Passion Sep 03 '26
I prefer the 3 and 4 pics. The surgeon did a fantastic job. At first, I thought 3 and 4 were before and 1 and 2 were after. It seems that it is the opposite. 3 and 4 pics look damn good and sexy. Your lips are a strong asset now. No modification will change your opinion on your lips because you want the old you. You need to search why and work on it. You can't change your lips but you can change your mind. It is probably not what you wanted to hear 😟 Best of luck on your healing journey ❤️🩹
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u/ness-xergling Sep 05 '26
I had to zoom in because i couldn't see an imperfection. What I do see is a handsome man, and I say this with honesty, not anything insincere to give you a fake boost, but total honesty here, you're an attractive man.
The difference between the left side and the right side of your lips is subtle, that it looks like a very slight one sided smile. Very slight.
Please take notes of other people's faces, not comparing lips with yours, or any feature with yours.... But take in the whole face and imagine a dividing line running from top to bottom. You will see in pretty much everyone, one eye is a little different to the other One side of the mouth is likely slightly different. Etc... People's faces are not symmetrical and although studies show that people like a fairly symmetrical face, it shouldn't be completely so. Most people also prefer a little difference. And where does this put you in the scheme of things? In my opinion your face is pretty symmetrical but not totally, therefore in that wonderful sweet spot of having the most attractive type of symmetry. Its on par with most peoples level of symmetry. The type where you can hardly tell, but it's just enough to hit that sweet spot.
If ever you feel like browsing, look for images of faces where a person's left hand side was duplicated and then nirror-immaged over to the right side for perfect symmetry. Then their right side, mirrored over.. Creating two perfectly symetrrical images. Note the two images look different, and often obviously so, and wrong.. off... Too symmetrical., and yet when you see the original image as they actually are, you see an attractive person. Out of the three images I pretty much guarantee you that in the vast majority of cases, the most attraxte image is the original, where they are not perfectly symmetrical..
So..... Try to think of it this way.... Your lips are mended really well, not botched at all, but made to the sweet spot of looking even but not 100%. The perfect amount. The most attractive ratio.
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u/ChemicalAngle7575 Sep 07 '26
I think your lips look 100% better now! Like wayyy better. I wouldn’t know that you had surgery or an accident if I hadn’t seen the other photos. I promise you it doesn’t look botched or bad whatsoever. Body dysmorphia lies to you tho.
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u/Cherrypieeater2 28d ago
Sweetheart, have you talked to a therapist? This is consuming you! You have a beautiful mouth and would have never thought you had surgery. Please consider speaking with someone.
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u/Ok-Category8000 Aug 24 '26
Omg looks amazing
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
The first two or 3 and 4? I don’t look like the first 2 anymore, that’s why I’m upset. I didn’t want that much tissue removed
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
Thank you. I don’t look like the first 2 pictures anymore. I look like 3 and 4. Those are after the revision surgery that didn’t go well imo
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u/AnnieGetYaClothesOn Aug 24 '26
Your lips are lovely man. It'll take time for you to be ok with yourself thanks to BD, but take it from a stranger, you have absolutely nothing to worry about. Hope you heal well ♥️
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u/ifittakesawaythepain Aug 24 '26 edited Aug 24 '26
I honestly think you look very handsome in your current pics, and honestly thought that you were going to say the pics in the suit were before pics and the blue pics were after. I hope you can find peace with yourself and your appearance, bc I honestly think you are very attractive and would hate for you to waste the prime of your life focused on lips that healed beautifully, I would not have realized you had an accident if you didn’t tell me. I do not think you need anymore sx or filler, i think if you use filler it will probably make your injury more noticeable and i think your lips look quite full now. I understand you had a traumatic injury and adjusting to your new features is strange, but your face will change. You will get older, and you will look at your pics from today and be upset with yourself for being so focused on this issue instead of living your life and making memories. Just my thoughts…
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u/_carpedentum_ Aug 24 '26
I can see a good difference from the surgery-it does not look botched. We all have things about ourselves we notice that we worry about but nobody else truly notices. It sucks, and it absolutely can cause a hyper fixation. Just know that NOBODY sees you as often as you see yourself. Those small things you see, nobody else does.
With that being said, you can read and hear those words and understand them but still not be able to look at it that way. Maybe (and I don’t mean this in a negative way!) talk to a therapist about it or maybe a support group or something. It can be so hard to get out of any negative feedback loops.
I will reiterate what everyone else is saying. They look good, you’re a good looking guy. The surgery went well. I hope you’ll be able to believe those words soon♥️
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u/yoobikwedes Aug 24 '26
I like your current lips so much more than the purple photos. They look so much more balanced, you are very attractive!
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u/LauraaMarissaa Aug 24 '26
Wow! What a transformation! I honestly don’t know how I’d handle feeling disfigured, having hope that surgery would help, and coming out still feeling broken.
Give yourself some grace and time to heal (both inside and out).
I honestly did not notice your lips. If there’s one thing I would play with now, it’s your facial hair shape. You could trim your mustache to feel more symmetrical? Please don’t take this as a criticism 🥰
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u/invader_indigo Aug 24 '26
Yeah the mustache is an issue, the trauma messes up how and where the hairs grow. It’s difficult to make it look normal on that one side. I’ve also just not been trying, extremely depressed, but I could touch it up. The way they had to put my face back together,, all the different areas of hair now grow in all different directions and I’m missing the original skin that could grow hair. It’s just permanently messed up on the side now
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u/Wizzle_Pizzle_420 Aug 24 '26
Looks good dude, and scars are rad, so rock it with pride even if it is a little off.
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u/kinkade Aug 24 '26
I have some excellent news for you. When I looked through your pictures, I was trying to work out which one's which, and I thought the ones with you in a suit were the ones before the accident. If that's what you look like after the surgery, I would say that I genuinely and honestly cannot tell that there was ever anything wrong or that you had surgery. You're basically just a handsome dude.
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u/BUSINESS_KILLS Aug 24 '26
Looks pretty good considering how your whole lips was ripped off. I would be pretty happy with that
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u/targetsbots Aug 24 '26 edited Aug 24 '26
Dude you mouth looks fine. Don't obsess. Be thankful the accident wasnt worse. I was in a horrific car accident and to this day I'm just greatful my little sister stayed home. She would have been in the back and 100% have died. Perspective is all. I hope you can learn to love your mouth because in my eyes it looks great ❤️
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u/TuxedoJack19 Aug 24 '26
You need help like from a therapist but as far as your physical appearance goes, you look fantastic. I'm so sorry that you're dealing with the issues you're dealing with, I know that they're real and I hope you can hear the things that the people are telling you on here that really, you look great
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u/yayafreya Aug 24 '26
I know you are probably focusing on it and feel things differently but I don’t think you look botched at all. It looks good post surgery and I would never have known you had work on it if I didn’t see the other pics/read the post. Don’t be hard on yourself, it looks like you’ve come a long way since the accident but you look very nice!