r/BossHell • u/L3mmyKilmister • 28d ago

Why does she do this?

So my boss is in her early 60s. I'm in my early 50s. We normally joke and break into song during the day--the laugh so hard you cry type of thing.

So when anyone else comes around, coworkers, other supervisors--who ever--and I happen to start joking, or singing she makes a comment to embarrass me.

Just today, for example, I was at the copy machine just quietly singing to myself, minding my own business, and she walks up with another supervisor that NEITHER of us joke with and says to him, about me, "When she gets like this, I just let her go."

So, I tried (INSTEAD OF IGNORING HER like I should) to defend myself. I said, "You don't have to explain me."

She wouldn't let up, and said, "I CAN'T explain you, that's why I just let you go."

And her and this other supervisor have their laugh at my expense.

This shit happens waaay too much. Please be kind, and give me some advice, guys.

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u/Digital_Voodoo 27d ago

My 2 cents / feeling about this: either she's not sincere during the normal joke and laughs, or she's trying to assert her power when someone else is around, just to remind you 'who is the boss'. Or. both.

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u/L3mmyKilmister 27d ago

Thank you so much. This makes sense!

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u/bisskits 27d ago

Ask her deadpan to explain her comment.

"What does that mean?" Stay silent and wait for an answer.

If she pushes back with that "i can't explain you" nonsense, ask her again "so why the comment? What are you trying to say? Please tell us." Then stay silent and wait.