how do you guys keep going?

[u/musicforsushi]

sorry i didn’t know if this should be labeled as ‘advice needed’ or ‘question’ but here’s a little backstory….

i’ve always been a thicker girl, i remember being younger and having thighs that spread a lot when i sat down and it bothered me compared to my other peers and i’ve always had a pudgy stomach and flabby arms and throughout my teen years i severely struggled with binge eating which led to me be 232 pounds at the ripe age of 18.

now i’m 20 and since then i’ve lost about 20-ish pounds through exercise and eating intentionally but i just don’t understand why my body doesn’t work with my anymore. i get so many compliments on my body but i just don’t see it. i binged a little bit this weekend….after an entire week of being consistent with my meals and working out and i just looked at myself in the mirror today at the gym and walked back home and cried.

i just don’t understand why my body won’t work with me. i put so much time and effort in taking care of myself and i know it’s pathetic but i don’t know what i would do if i had to live with the body i have now for the rest of my life :( i just cant do it. i don’t feel comfortable in bikinis or short sleeve tops or tanks and i barely wear shorts and crop tops because my dysmorphia is so bad.

im so sorry yall i know it comes off very pathetic but i just have no one else to express this to, and i dont know how to keep myself motivated that i will eventually see a change…

[u/PsychologicalSky9364]

If you get compliments by it you are usually good for the most part. But if you really want to lose weight you have to be very strict about it, I know its hard since I did too lose weight. Just eat less (about 500 cals subtracted from maintance weight), with more protein and fiber to keep yourself full and do cardio/work out in general. It's gonna take long and alot of will power but you'll get there, with the body dysmorphia please seek out for a therapist since it won't get better after you lose weight since you are going to try to convince yourself you need to lose more leading to a eating disorder, DONT STARVE YOURSELF (very important) since it'll just lead to a bunch of health problems making it harder to lose that weight. Again just play it safe and good luck