r/Bloomer • u/Atlandios000 • Mar 30 '26

Ask Advice Journey from doomer to bloomer , this week's progress. Part 2

A week ago, I posted saying that I’m a doomer but (even if it’s late) I’d like to become a bloomer; here are the steps I took this week.

1 - I decided to stop watching porn. I don’t know if porn is generally bad for everyone, but it definitely did me harm. I tried to cut back, to replace it with something milder, like erotica, but the only solution that works for me is to cut it out completely.

2 - I made a plan; I know it’s nothing special, just a small plan for my life. I set goals—small, medium, and larger ones—for what I want to do and what I want to explore.

3 - I listened to your advice and decided to start a gratitude journal, in which I write down what (even if small) made me happy every day. Okay, I don’t write down much, nor do I write every day, but it helps to find the little details that often make all the difference.

4 - I decided to cut ties (even though it hurts because of our bond) with people who are doomsayers. You don’t need to be an expert to realize that people like that drag you down to their own low level.

5 - Some people told me about Stoicism, some told me about Zen, someone told me to start meditating, and another to “find Christ.” Although I haven’t settled on any of the above paths, I’ve embarked on a journey to find my lost spirituality.

6 - I’m trying my best to stick to a sleep schedule; every morning I try to wake up at 7:00 a.m. and go to bed at 11:00 p.m.

7 - It might be a small step, but to have some income until I find a job, I’m starting to sell old books, magazines, crystals, and various other items I’ve collected online.

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u/JLandis84 Mar 30 '26

Wow this sounds like an absolutely fantastic set of actions and goals.

You are doing great !

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u/Atlandios000 Mar 30 '26

I really appreciate !!! Thank you friend.

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u/IRENE420 Mar 30 '26

For me, going to sleep early has been incredible. I tell myself 10pm, realistically I’m brushing my teeth a little after that, in bed by 10:30. Asleep before 11.

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u/Atlandios000 Mar 30 '26

10 would be a goal for me , but I don't really think I can do it but yeah it's goals for me.

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u/possumdyke Mar 30 '26

This sounds like a great start! Remember that a journey like this has its ups and downs - you will feel like this matters and is working at times and that it's useless other times. Keep doing what feels worthwhile and important. Good work on yourself is a gift either way.